This is when a single lady start seeing herself as a widow after the death of her single or married lover. it's a common occurence to see the mistress/girlfriend of a deceased man show up at his funeral clad in black and also in a mourning mood just like his wife and children. most times, they are not seen or noticed at the funeral or when she goes to pay her last respect/condolences at the home of her deceased lover. and when a wife is mourning her late husband, dont be surprised to see her husband's mistress (if he had any) also mourning with her. And if it happens that she loved/liked the man sincerely, she's bound to mourn his death consciously or unconsciously. some of them are sober for a while or may decide to lie low for sometime. either as a mark of respect for a departed lover or due to the effect of his death. the same thing happens when a girl loses her boyfriend, especially if they were planning to take their relationship to another level. the death of a lover is just like when you're stabbed with a sharp knife, and left in a state of shock as images of the person and your time together flashes before your eyes...some mourn for a long time while others mourn just for a while. and it doesn't take them time before moving on. and when a girl loses her boyfriend, it can not be compare to when a woman loses her husband. they both share some similarities though, but the bond, the attachment and connection between a married couple is more than the one shared between an unmarried couple. a girlfriend doesn't find it hard to move on after the death of a lover, but it takes time for a widow to move on (that's if she decide to) after the death of her husband. alot is involved. there are family members, kinsmen and her children to consult or consider before taking such a step or decision. unlike a girlfriend, who may decide on her own to start a new relationship now or later. As a girlfriend, she may feel the pain, but she's not expected to live with it...