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Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by abiL(f): 9:46pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
shymexx: STFU Shymexx. I had so much to say (and I've got more) because the issue of self-esteem is one of the things I have experience with... I'm a trained psychologist (still training), so I get clients with low self-esteem problems sometimes. Just because I curse a lot doesn't mean that I ain't intelligent. On that note, suck on my big black dîck Shymexx |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by kay29000(m): 9:48pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
I can say parents are the major cause of low self esteem in children. First of all, if one or both parents have self esteem issues, the child picks it up as a baby (not heredrity...babies consciousness is greatly affected by those who take care of them) The second reason is because children will believe and take as truth whatever their parents tell them. So, if the parents keep saying the child is "no good", thats what the child would take as truth. It doesnt stop there; if the parents compare her to a neighbor's child or another sibling, it can greatly affect the kid. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by jbrodaly(m): 9:49pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
@OP was that your childhood experience?I mean the stuff you wrote about parents?I know someone who had same experience and it did affect not just self-esteem but other aspects of his life.But he is over it now and doing well. But not matter what i think another experience can change this nature. 1 Like |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Nobody: 9:51pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
abiL: Hmmmm... I'll suck on your big black nip.ples soon, anyway...Expect me soon. That's my abiL... |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by abiL(f): 9:51pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
50calibre: 3 major factors contributing to low-self esteem All the three things that you've stated can all be grouped under one section... Environmental influences/ factors. Genetics is also a major contributing factor to self-esteem. If one can argue that IQ/ intelligence can sometimes be influenced by our genes, one can also argue that self-esteem can be influenced by our genes...AND environmental factors. Personally, I think the environment play the biggest contributing role to self-esteem/ self-worth. The media does contribute a wee bit, but the effects of the media is mostly manifested in weight issues (anorexia and bulimia). However, if one isn't about their weight, then one starts to have negative thoughts, which can lead to the development of a low self-esteem. So yeah the media does affect self-esteem, but not directly. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by 50calibre(m): 9:55pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
shymexx: Thats true though, but one thing people don't realize is that Nigerian or maybe African kids have a sort of in-built resilience, they are able to bounce back or achieve great success regardless of whatever he/she experienced during childhood maybe because we are used to being bullied, abused or beaten as kids. No Nigerian kid can say he/she hasnt being bullied or beaten at one point or the other. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by abiL(f): 9:55pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
shymexx: Ewwww! Kindly fûck to the direction of off please |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Nobody: 9:57pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
It could be both! |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Nobody: 10:01pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
50calibre: MJ was black as well and most AAs went/go through the same thing during their childhood as well... It would be simplistic to blame it on the upbringing alone - upbringing plays a role in it, however, there are many other factors involved... You might have the best upbringing/personality in the world with high-self esteem, however, one setback can change that within the twinkle of an eye... Self-esteem isn't as simplistic as most people think it is... |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by madamebebe(f): 10:02pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
seedord247: I think its from the parents.. Grow up!! Its never too late |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by coogar: 10:04pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
seedord247: I think its from the parents. with all due respect, i think you are a fücking idiöt! 1 Like |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by abiL(f): 10:04pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
all4naija: It could be both! Definitely! That's why studies on MZ (monozygotic) twins are excellent, because we can eliminate traits that are influenced by genetical factors, or environmental. Through twin studies, we can also identify which traits are both innate and environmental. However, the proportion of twins both MZ and DZ (dizygotic) in the population is quite low, so that's why several studies done to investigate e.g. 'Self-esteem in twins' aren't as conclusive as we would want them to be. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Nobody: 10:05pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
Even interaction/relationship can mess a person's self-esteem.... There are too many factors involved, I tell ya... |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by abiL(f): 10:08pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
seedord247: I think its from the parents. Have you by any chance flushed your brain in the loo today? I'm not even going to try and bring sense into that foölishness you've written. 1 Like |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by 50calibre(m): 10:09pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
abiL: You know there can be various reasons why someone might develope a low self esteem, it could be as a result of a deformity or disability, weight issues,it could low IQ (maybe a never do well in class), it could even be as a result of mirror reflection ( a child might see his/her mirror reflection and compare with their mates and conclude they are ugly or at least the brain tells them they are ugly) and school mates and friends are always quick to point these issues out which then re-enforces the kids views of being inadequate. I personally think most self-esteem issues begin in schools. As for the part genetics plays in all these I'm not too sure. Because a man or woman with a low self-esteem doesn't necessarily give birth to a child with the same thing. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Nobody: 10:09pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
What has science got to do with self-esteem? Scientific crap and social/psychological behaviours shouldn't mix... |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by coogar: 10:12pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
shymexx: Even interaction/relationship can mess a person's self-esteem.... not too many factors - the environment plays the bigger role....who the child interacts with in school/home holds the key! 2 Likes |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by abiL(f): 10:12pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
shymexx: Even interaction/relationship can mess a person's self-esteem.... Yep, and having a low self-esteem can lead to other psychological problems such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, relationships etc. That's why parents needs to be careful when bringing up their children. They might not see the effect of bad parenting now, but the issue will arise in the future. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Nobody: 10:13pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
How come no one is talking about social status? Have you ever see a poor man with high-self esteem around rich folks, or a thug with high self-esteem around academics? Too many factors are involved... 1 Like |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by seedord247(m): 10:13pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
coogar: Coming from an anthropoid.... There's nothing positive about u except for the cancer you live with.... extra large fool. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by seedord247(m): 10:15pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
abiL: Its hard for dimwit like you to comprehend what intelingent person wrote... Obfuscated twerp. 1 Like |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Nobody: 10:17pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
abiL: Yeah, it might affect the children until they get to a certain age. However, once you grow past that, and know who you're and your self-worth - you should outgrow that... Upbringing plays a role but it doesn't fully define who you become socially/psychologically as an adult... You're the architect of your own reality.. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by coogar: 10:17pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
abiL: i disagree with this.... if these were true, every nigerian child should be a mass murderer or a serial killer - most nigerian parents didn't spare the rod when raising their children and these kids still wen ahead to become upstanding citizens in their community! the environment is the key - a child raised in an academic environment with plenty of his peers allowed to interact with him would have a higher self esteem than his counterpart that always gets locked up at home! seedord247: you have the brain capacity of a pubic louse......look at the drivel you wrote up there and tell me you have not disgraced the community that sponsored your education! if you don't have nothing intelligent to say, tape it shut and observe........ 3 Likes |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by BodyKiss(m): 10:26pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
k2039: To me it's the individual. Assuming you were born adult, then you would be right. Kids don't have control of their moods. The issue of self esteem starts from childhood. So for me, it's parent. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Engineer1985(m): 10:26pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
It has to do with the parents and the environment the child is brought up. Everyone is born with self confidence, bt its the parent's inactions and the environment that destroys this confidence as the child grows up. Let me use this opportunity to advise parents never to be hash on their children as this has a psychological effect on the child, and will latter make the child develop low self esteem. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by seedord247(m): 10:26pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
coogar:i I have always known you to be stupiid as loup-garou.... You talked about brain, tell me the diffrence btw you and a public flies.... Inglorious imm-becile claiming intellingent when your fellow teratoid are busy hunting for blood to suck... |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by abiL(f): 10:27pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
50calibre: Self-esteem isn't visible, it's not like a physical disability which is easily detectable. A child with a low self-esteem might struggle to open up to others about what he/she is going through. The child will bottle it up until adult life when the person will now find it difficult to accomplish simple tasks because they have a low self-worth. Genetics does contribute in some cases, and it doesn't in other cases. It's hard to pin point which factor(s) contributed the most. Read up on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, you'll see that getting the most basic thing wrong (like not providing a proper shelter for your kids) can have a big detrimental effect in their adult like. For a person to be fully functioning, he/ she needs to be a self-actualiser. If you aren't loved enough by your parents, you can't be a fully functioning adults. The effect of school and school mates to the issue of self-esteem isn't as big of a contributing factor in comparison to the role of parents and significant others. A child doesn't start school properly until 3 years (I think), before then, a child would have begin to model (copy) the behaviours of his/ her parents, siblings, grans etc. Although our upbringing matters a lot, however, a person who hasn't got a self-esteem issue previously, can develop it later in life. It could be triggered by anything, such as future partners. For example, getting into an emotionally abusive relationship where your partner makes you feel like nothing. Gradually, the victim will start to believe the words of their abusive, which can in turn affect how the victim views themselves... 1 Like |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Nobody: 10:27pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
lmao @ this thread....will keep my opinions on self esteem issues for now. abiL , I see u. Educate those mofos |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Chibest2000(m): 10:28pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
abiL: Self-esteem is influenced by hereditary, but environmental factors also have an effect on it.u made some nice comments here, but where i will disagree wit u is 2 say dat self-esteem is hereditary while we hv pple wit diffrent self- esteem coming 4rom d same home. Better u say is a result of parental upbringing but can b influence by one's personality . Gud comments nice try. 1 Like |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by coogar: 10:29pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
BodyKiss: wrong! cos it then means kids with no parents/guardian won't have any esteem at all! self esteem or lack of it is mostly determined by the immediate environment of that child! seedord247: i if only the recipient of your y-chromosomes had used it as a mouth-wash instead of allowing it to swim upstream to the ovaries, you wouldn't be here displaying your sheer idiocy on a public forum! |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by abiL(f): 10:30pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
shymexx: Nope. If plays a vital role, but your upbringing does not define you. But some people find it difficult to stop blaming their parents, and start taking responsibilities for their own actions. That's why therapy comes in handy. |
Re: Is Low Self Esteem A Result Of Parental Upbringing Or Personality? by Shaw007(m): 10:31pm On Nov 02, 2012 |
k2039: To me it's the individual.GBAM!! . . .Case cLosed. 1 Like |
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