“A smart man is smarter and greater when he marries a smart woman” -Funso Adegbola

Recently, my friend said  “I don’t like all girls, these days. They’re all funny. They complain about how boys want women to be like Michelle but then attack the boys for not being like Barack. They’re never content. They’re always fantasizing about their ideal men. Why can’t they build these men up? Why can’t they inspire these men to treat them like Princesses?”

I took in her message merely adding “I don’t take all these things serious. Talk is the cheapest thing in the world. Everyone can talk and everyone will talk”.

Barack and Michelle are the quintessential couple. He’s the most powerful man in the world and is a symbol of the fact that the world is evolving to a level where the idea of a black man running the show on a political level doesn’t seem absurd. He captured our hearts while running for the Presidency in 2008. His campaign was the symbol of cool, as seen with his use of the power of celebrity culture. He sparked an interest in politics that the global recession and George Bush had annihilated.


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As much as I think that its unfair to generalize on the Nigerian girl thingy, we ladies should learn to look beyond the now. That guy in bathroom slippers cld have the potential to be Mr president tomorrow and might need u to unlock his destiny. Ask Dame Patience.

http://www.bellanaija.com/2012/11/12/are-you-the-michelle-to-his-barack/

Candidly, what we've around us are ladies with various standard and pre-requisite for dating a man. If we want to discuss on "seeing-the-future" with a man, then we need to go back-in-time. Too many ladies wan eat beans wey don done, no one wan follow man select the panty.

They care more abt ho much is in his pocket today and how much he is willing to release than how he got it or how much it will last. They blv in eatingg now and if it finishes today another loaded MUGU will come.

Most of our mothers too have helped to sculpture our young ladies into this.

Our generation can change this, if we dare to be different.

I am not sayin u shd dump ur RanGe driver bobo and pick one with no mechanical means of parambulation bit let ur reason for being with him be beyond d material.

D-Explorer:
Candidly, what we've around us are ladies with various standard and pre-requisite for dating a man. If we want to discuss on "seeing-the-future" with a man, then we need to go back-in-time. Too many ladies wan eat beans wey don done, no one wan follow man select the panty.

And are they really making it BIG by that standard? I guess not. All I see is just a bunch of used tissues, recycled to be used again. Period!

Hmm, who wrote this- male or female I am still confused or have we finally reached that point of diminishing return Really unbelievable I must confess...end time must truly be near! Nice post but impossible to achieve in Nigeria of today. Nothing can take their eyes off money and material things, not sooner with the negative effects of our media, musical videos, home movies, internet and stuffs, all the same good to know that they know too

2sexy: And are they really making it BIG by that standard? I guess not. All I see is just a bunch of used tissues, recycled to be used again. Period!

The society has made issues so complicated. Marriages now seem to be surrounded by fantasies and frivolities. The f-gender have her "conditions" before dating a man and this comes with no compromise. Oh blessed are the men with a fulfilled life standard! They're the ones with HOPE of getting married. Marriage is losing it value and something urgent needs to be done; proper orientation, mostly to the female folks.

Gotta find my Barack first.

Try white house or better still in Kenya, sighs

candieangel12: Gotta find my Barack first.

Wu told u michel obama is a perfet wife?

DailyNews: Try white house or better still in Kenya, sighs

u forgot about Hawaii

Lol

candieangel12: u forgot about Hawaii

tobechi20: Wu told u michel obama is a perfet wife?

Are u a perfect human?

tobechi20: Wu told u michel obama is a perfet wife?

She is perfect for her man. That's why the title is so.
Who is ur xyz to ur tobechi20?

2sexy: Are u a perfect human?

NO BODY IS PERFECT , IN ANY ASPECT

AM OUT...

If he has got potential ... a lady can help to develop it into something great. Learn how to discover potential. You'll not find it in a "bad boy."
If he is a useless player and chauvinistic ... and you still want him, you'll never be a Michelle.

quote author=kitty kat]They care more abt ho much is in his pocket today and how much he is willing to release than how he got it or how much it will last. They blv in eatingg now and if it finishes today another loaded MUGU will come.

Most of our mothers too have helped to sculpture our young ladies into this.

Our generation can change this, if we dare to be different.

I am not sayin u shd dump ur RanGe driver bobo and pick one with no mechanical means of parambulation bit let ur reason for being with him be beyond d material.[/quote].





Maybe beacause from their own expreriences they cannot see the benefit.They problay ended up having a younger more educated wife/concubine sharing the fruit of their labour with them

So michelle and barrack are now the standard black couples? What a shame.

kuzzieOtiz: No I am the Patience to his Jonathan

that reminds me, we have not been seeing patience dis days.. Abi is she still a patient?

Most of the girls now look out for what they can take from a guy immediately,without looking out for prospect in a guy. They react based on the current situation at ground,without taking the future into consideration. Do you know how many ladies would have dump Obama,not knowing he would become the president of the world.

candieangel12: Gotta find my Barack first.

you will wait till thy kingdom comes

lakhadimar: you will wait till thy kingdom comes

So na busy body dey do u reach this level? U no fit ignore my post? Troll

Rubbish Analogy - Michelle and Barack met on the job, after Harvard law school. If you suffer with a man who is not positioned for success, you're wasting your time.

Not everyone will go to Harvard and not every woman will take the chance to date her subordinate, many have tried and failed. Michelle got lucky.

So tell me,wat is d testimony of the nigerian women(our mothers) who av suffered and slaved with their men,struggled to build things up from d scrath...d men either end up trading these women in for younger models or marrying 2nd wives. This is wat d younger generation of women ave seen happen to their mothers,do u now think these youngladies wil be willing to make d same decisions their mothers made,abeg 4get dt craap,marry a made man,enjoy d goodtimes while it lasts,try to save up for d rainy days that are surely coming,so dt wen d time comes for him to misbehave,u can ave smthn to fall back on to take care of ur kids

Never knew finding a wife was difficult until now...

tjskii: So tell me,wat is d testimony of the nigerian women(our mothers) who av suffered and slaved with their men,struggled to build things up from d scrath...d men either end up trading these women in for younger models or marrying 2nd wives. This is wat d younger generation of women ave seen happen to their mothers,do u now think these youngladies wil be willing to make d same decisions their mothers made,abeg 4get dt craap,marry a made man,enjoy d goodtimes while it lasts,try to save up for d rainy days that are surely coming,so dt wen d time comes for him to misbehave,u can ave smthn to fall back on to take care of ur kids

Another soultion: MOTHERS train your SONS to become better men Just suggesting.

candieangel12: Gotta find my Barack first.

Thought you've even found him sef.

Exactly! Nigerians men r notorious for dumping women who struggled with them for girls they couldn't talk to b4 they made it...who wants to be with a man who would end up marryin some1 else once u hv helped him make it? Dats y many girls want the made man. Like Obowunmi said above, Michelle got lucky! Period.

tjskii: So tell me,wat is d testimony of the nigerian women(our mothers) who av suffered and slaved with their men,struggled to build things up from d scrath...d men either end up trading these women in for younger models or marrying 2nd wives. This is wat d younger generation of women ave seen happen to their mothers,do u now think these youngladies wil be willing to make d same decisions their mothers made,abeg 4get dt craap,marry a made man,enjoy d goodtimes while it lasts,try to save up for d rainy days that are surely coming,so dt wen d time comes for him to misbehave,u can ave smthn to fall back on to take care of ur kids

tjskii: So tell me,wat is d testimony of the nigerian women(our mothers) who av suffered and slaved with their men,struggled to build things up from d scrath...d men either end up trading these women in for younger models or marrying 2nd wives. This is wat d younger generation of women ave seen happen to their mothers,do u now think these youngladies wil be willing to make d same decisions their mothers made,abeg 4get dt craap,marry a made man,enjoy d goodtimes while it lasts,try to save up for d rainy days that are surely coming,so dt wen d time comes for him to misbehave,u can ave smthn to fall back on to take care of ur kids

It doesn't apply to only the Nigerian woman. It happens every where in the world. Moreover, the reverse also exist for the men too.

Look at Nigerian men trying to attach themselves to Obama. Obama is not the typical Nigerian man ok? Get that into ur skull...dis guy had d opportunity to work at d the best firms and d opportunity to get a highly paid job after Harvard (I mean its Harvard Law and President of d Harvard Law Review we r talking about here). But he chose not to; so Michelle saw dat he wasn't just some guy who was struGgling cos he couldn't get a job...he was a guy who had bigger goals; he had ambition, ok?
So all d silly scrounger guys who r lookin for rich young girls to pay their bills while they go about lookin for jobs shld back off! No sensible girl would allow a man whose future looks dim and who hasn't shown evidence of a moral high ground, to use her till he gets it together and marries somebody else.

There is a saying that goes; if you want to really know a person; give him power/riches.
A struggling dude claiming to love u can b tricky.