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Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Ogegod87: 5:41pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
[quote author=tunapawizzy] WEYTIN BE UR WAHALA NOW, IS IT THAT DIFFICULT FOR U TO PROCESS INFORMATION, CANT U SEE MY POST WAS A SARCASTIC RESPONSE(NOT AN ENDORSEMENT) TO SOMEONE'S POST[/quote] its either ziondaughta did not read ur comment wella or, she no dey understand English. Only matured minds should comment pls. Evrybody musn't comment. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Ogegod87: 5:52pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
[quote author=Hanihairy] mtcheew.....wen u don use contraceptive n oda means destroy ur womb u dey dere dey cal God.....God get ur tym[/quote] dat was harsh. Niways na wetin person dey do him feel say odas dey do too. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by onagoodday: 6:03pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Ladies, please and please, try and keep yourself and get married as a virgin,if you do, the probability of being barren post marriage is 1 in 100. Barreness is mostly due to abortion induced reproductive tract damage and STDs,live good...cheers 3 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by larawale2012: 6:16pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Up on all this comment nobody had ever say he/she will re-marry are we that saint. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Sagamite(m): 6:19pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Mynd_44: If/when I marry, it will be because I love that woman and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. It will be because I could not near to go a day without seeing her face, can't eat without hearing her voice and not be able to sleep without her in the same bed not because of kids. Mynd, you are on your own on that fairytale description. If I marry, I would love my wife, but definitely not to the disneyland/Mills & Boons unrealistic level you described especially when I know what women are made of. I can't even see myself as emotional as that especially when it comes to sacrificing eating my food until I hear her voice. To hell with her voice, I will chop my pounded yam and efo elegusi with relish. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Rusau: 6:23pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
2scorehigh: For the men, how long can you wait before seeking other options if your wife is unable to conceive after marriage? Which options will you take? Take a second wife? Try to have a child outside wedlock? Seek adoption...?GOD Determines weather sum1 will have a child or not Dea4 no time look unto GOD. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Nobody: 6:24pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Sagamite: Lol That's not love he described o. That's infatuation, and it will surely pass. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Sagamite(m): 6:25pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
ileobatojo: Abi o! I think say na only me see am. I no go chop because of woman? God forbid badtin. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by segunojas(m): 6:27pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Marriage is not meant to bear children .Marriage is for husband and wife to fuilfil God purpose on Earth and to Make heaven.After waiting for 10yrs Adoption is Biblical I wil Adopt and remain Happy with my wife. 1 Like |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Nobody: 6:30pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Sagamite: Don't be too sure though, your own fit bad pass this one |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Sagamite(m): 6:33pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
ileobatojo: Her juju no fit strong reach that. My babalawo is more powerful, I am well cooked and protected. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Nobody: 6:37pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Unfortunately,most of you here are misninformed.You all need to go to the TTC thread and get educated. For those claming that virgins are not infertile,I just got pregnant recently after almost 2 years of waiting and i met my husband a virgin so please don't go round saying what you do not know and quoting useless percentages.Infertility can happen to anyone. I do hope that you realise that a large percentage of infertility is caused by men who have low sp erm count,no spe rm at all or even outrightly impotent. No one created him or herself.Some women are born with PCOS,endometriosis,some just grow fibroids and when they go to operate on it have complications which cause tube blockage.Some have an imbalance in hormones.Even an underactive thyroid can cause a person to be infertile. It is the queens of abortions who are having kids around the whole place because they are very sharp and go to the best doctors,it will surprise you to know that it is the innocent ones who have se x once and get pregnant,panic and go to quack doctors and then contract infections that could cause them to be infertile.Who impregnated them for them to abort?Is it not the men?It takes two to tango.Repeated abortions can raise the risk of infertility but abortions are not the main cause of infertility It is extremely sad to see how ignorant many people are. Oga talking of womb destruction,how sure are we that your spe rm are mobile?It is easy to open your mouth and be insensitive because you have no idea about the hell people go through just to even have one child and it is because of you judgemental and cruel lot that they resort to diablolic things just to keep up appearances. What of those who are perfectly healthy,perfect tubes and sp erm count and still cannot conceive?It's labelled unexplained infertility..What will you say they did wrong? The men saying they will wait are not hypocrites,some men really love their wives and stand by them no matter what,while many women stand by their men even though they cannot impregnate them.Please,go to TTC thread and you will grow more respect. I for one never imagined i would struggle with infertility but hey life happens.It really pains me when people who don't know jack just make uninformed comments because they own laptops.It is an insult to the men and women who are struggling daily trying to have a child.. 15 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Nobody: 6:45pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
For the man saying women should keep themselves,men have a responsibility too.There is nowhere that you will get assurance that virginity = fertility. Everyone should be responsible and abstain as much as possible where possible.If you are indulging in sex,play safe to avoid infections and unwanted pregnancies. Stay away from dangerous habits like excess alcohol,it lowers spe rm count.Ganja and coc aine can even make ovulation difficult. I'd love to say a huge thank you to lovely husbands and wives who have stuck together through this journey of TTC,you deserve a medal cos e nor easy. 3 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by aikorodo(m): 6:56pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
..am surprised some people play wit such delicate issues like this. Pls its not a must one must contribute. If u dont hav meaningful contributions, jump n pass and wait to learn from better informed persons. Lets make this forum more responsible. It should be a place were depressed, troubled and heavy ladened friends should come for matured advice n relief. An issue like childlessness in a home deserves better treatment than this. We can actually give relief to somebody thru this. Pls brethren like me in this predicament, pray n wait upon d lord. And if adoption can save d situation, pls do. 2 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by uarikibe: 6:56pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
inwangobio: I have waited a few years now, i will continue to wait because my marriage wasn't primarily for children but for companionship and that i have been enjoying. However, 'i will wait till my change come', my change comes from the LORD, whatever it takes, i will wait, so no time limit by God's grace. GOD will answer you,He will surely answer you. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Aadibros: 6:58pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
initiator: The predominant attitude to infertility in Nigeria is one of shame and helplessness within the background of a culture that places a high premium on childbearing. See dis 1 oooo, IVF na 1 naira? A lot of peeps know about it but na money be d koko 1 Like |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Aadibros: 7:01pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
redcliff: You wey dey call person mumu, wetin u b? 1 Like |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Aadibros: 7:04pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
juman: Take anoda wifey wey no go fit born, then u wait for four years, take a third wifey wey no go fit born, then you wait for maybe 30yrs this time, take like 40 wifeys wey no go fit born 1 Like |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Aadibros: 7:07pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
sylve11: 95% of the people who commented on being patient are hypocrites. My friend keep quiet there. Lil child like u wants to talk when elders r talkn. U better focus on ur social studies assignment 2 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by nwgoziri(m): 7:10pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
manibuds: this question is for pple who want children in their marriage!if you no want pikin,skip,who wan kno wether na for phucking alone u marry ya wife.we expect to see simple answers like,1yr,2yrs etc,then OP can say with some authority that childless couples in nigeria tend to get frustrated after waiting for xyrsmu tu la mek u no learn na.ewu |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Aadibros: 7:11pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Hanihairy: mtcheew.....wen u don use contraceptive destroy ur womb u dey dere dey cal God.....God get ur tym U r d only fool on this nairaland. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Aadibros: 7:15pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Sagamite: Guy u r definitely not married or frustrated in ur marriage 2 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by buchibabe: 7:33pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
onagoodday: Ladies, please and please, try and keep yourself and get married as a virgin,if you do, the probability of being barren post marriage is 1 in 100. Barreness is mostly due to abortion induced reproductive tract damage and STDs,live good...cheers Eziokwu? R u for real So what about guys dat hv fertility problems too?see ur reasoning? |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by beamed: 8:03pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by chalyotas(m): 8:33pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
,may God sort u .amem lola.luv: |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Caponi: 8:54pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Fellow Naija People, all i will say is that when married couples are struggling to hav a baby, its advisable to pray to God and visit a medical specialist for specific infertility test for both the man and d woman, surely sometimes d man is at fault having low sperm count, or high level of certain male hormones in his system, or stress related issues , and atimes very simple vitamins are d solution. for d woman it could be that her body fats are high and stopping her from conceiving, or some infection which can be cured and she befores fit e.t.c. With faith nothing is too complex 4 God to solve. |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by toygod2: 9:30pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
No, may that not be my portion. abeg |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by segunoz(m): 9:52pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
bright007: ...For God sake..what has happened to testing before marriage?...No pregnancy,No marriagehow ironic, to hear this come from a woman. Are you sure you are female? 3 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Rooneyboy(m): 10:16pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
its a cross I will live to carry even if it would be till infinity. I wouldn't break the heart of my woman by going outside. NEVER ! For better for worse and that I'll stick too. 2 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by BE811APP: 10:25pm On Nov 22, 2012 |
Its Jst African. Culture dat disturbs us as Humans.... A Couple Marries..if no baby in a year... Ppl will talk...even if dey r planning hw to start a fmly.. If u get Married and u give birth at 9mnths... Ppl will talk and say..She was Pregnant b4 wedding... Wats der bizness... Worst, u don't give birth in Few years BOTH families will talk....esp d Mother-inlaws...both d guys and d ladys parents... Bact to d Topic....its 9ja or rada our african Culture dat is Killing us... If ur parents are putting pressure on u 4 a kid....dey culd push u to gettn a 2nd Wife..or getn a kid outside wedlock.... Even if dos arund u are supportive..dos in ur church,niegbours, in d mkt and so on will make fun of u.....its so evil of us in dis Black Nation... I Pray dos who are Waitn 4 d Lord 4 a Baby Will get it.. Pls be Patient Urs is Coming!!! Remain Blessed!!!! Cheers!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by larrysmith(m): 12:52am On Nov 23, 2012 |
what a topic and what aday.today happen to b ma 4th year marraige anniversary,bt we hv agreed dat if God can't do it, let it remain undone n if he can't gv us a child let us neva have it. But d fact is our case is case of delay and not denier. 1 Like |
Re: No Child After Marriage: How Long Can You Wait? by Nobody: 1:04am On Nov 23, 2012 |
To everyone on this thread trying to conceive,please go to the health section and click on the Ttc or Ivf thread. It is packed with info and with encouragement and kind people who understand what you are going through. Happy anniversary larrysmith,it is well with you 2 Likes |
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