No tips or experiences?   

Everyone's so quiet.

1) Stop sleeping with the boyfriend/girlfriend you want to break up with.
2) Stop visiting him/her.
3) Stop calling him/her.
4) When your (ex) boyfriend/girlfriend complains, explain that you want to end the relationship.
5) Feel miserable and alone for a 4 months, while having several one night stands.
6) Jump into another doomed relationship after the waiting period is over.
7) Continue at step one.

Don't attack me; this is what people people do all the time. Surely it works for them!

dta's a good one Nwoke
i guess u take it like dat Babymine cause it has worked for me once or twice!!!!

Shame on you Nwoke! If you don't know, then why make light of her situation? Babymine, I think ppl are being quiet b/c no one is an expert when it comes to this. As for myself. I'll meet with the person and tell him that I want to end things & the way I feel. Do not say "You do blah blah blah" instead say "I feel blah blah blah" that way the person will not feel attacked. It sounds as though this man is not a bad person so please be sensitive.

Being sensitive may mean that for a few weeks he will call you and ask "Why?" or ask you back. Be patient and try and explain to him. Remeber: treat others w/ the kindness you want to be shown. After 2-3 wks after the break up, if he's still calling you then you can say "Please don't call. I won't change my mind" and after you've said these words do not speak to him unless you see him on the street. No phone calls please, it'll just confuse the both of you.

It will hurt b/c while distancing yourself from him you'll be loosing a friend. So surround yourself w/ other friends, read more, learn something new (like sewing) or just concentrate on school or whatever. Even if you dump him, your heart will hurt. I say no flings or anything (but then I'm not a fling type of person). When you feel up to it - a few months? - then you can start dating as you wish. But, don't rush into anything! Be wary of rebound relationships!!!

Hope this helps. Best Wishes.

Sorry, chinani, but babymine didn't say she's having such a problem!

Simple. Once you are sure the relationship is moving nowhere reasonable but doomed; I believe that the only reasonable thing to do is WALK AWAY. It is not that easy especially when sex and other intimate encounters are involved and there is the human nature that keeps hoping that things will change.
But my advice is that before you are exploited to the level where you lose all your integrity and self-worth, save the remaining pride you have and look elsewhere for love. Please look well the next time and stop using the wrong things to judge who the right person is. Beauty and Money are just minor attributes, character and godliness is very important. Cheers.

Babymine, First step: Be sure that you are tired of the relationship and you will not go begging your partner later. By being sure you are not compatible and that you can find a better partner. He who must come to equity must come with clean hands.

Second Step:: Keep your partner out of your mind and start looking for alternative, even before you let him or her know what u are up to. This prepares you for soft landing.

Third Step: Think about all the bad things he/she has being doing to you and programme your mind that even the ones that looks good are not good after all.

Fourth Step: No mercy. It is a war of psychology

Fifth Step Tell him/her some of the things you feel about him/her. Don't say you are leaving him or her. But let it be obvious through other means.

Sixth Step Be careful, because if you go to war and you spare your enemy, he might come for you later, and he will not spare you. NO MERCY

Seventh Step Be calm about the whole process

just tell the person what they are doing u dont like it

if the person doesnt stop and than u can see what to do

It's never easy to let go of someone especially if you've been together for a long time and are so used to each other.
That is why so many women stay with abusive partners in relationships that are wrong and believe they will change.

The best thing is to realise that you can never change a person's behaviour or feelings.

                You have to look out for yourself and what's best for you,coz if you don't noone else will.

                            No matter how difficult it may be cut yourself loose and move on, there will be other relationships
                                and it's never the end of the world.  

well that's also true,

love is stupid

@ eve

Is love really stupid?

yes it is,it makes you do stupid things,

it stupid to me

I disagree. Love isn't stupid but it sure can make you do stupid things sometimes.

BTW, have you ever been in a wrong relationship?

Pray seriously o, because one partner might decide to love you till death!

try to let the other know wats for real and you make them understand fully well so it wont hurt too bad

@ Freddie

I don't understand.

babymine,b4 u break off that relationship,u need to ask urself a very important question.1,ask urself if it's what u really want.2,if it cums straight from the heart and not because u frustrated and the last but very important,if u very sure that u dont luv him anymore.All these put together,u pray to God cos u cant do it all alone because,it wud hurt u real bad.it wud look like there is no place anymore 4u.keep urself busy while u on it and have goood friends that wud understand u,i say so because u might have mood swings and only real pple or friends will take it lightly with u cos they know what u going thru.after all these,u wud come out strong and better and more matured.even ur ex will marvel at these knew change when he hears from friends.BUT DONT RUSH INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT FIRST BEEN A FRIEND AND DONT INCLUDE SEX WHILE U TRYING TO FORGET THE OTHER.

tell the person ya feelings

Hmm. Good tips.

thaks,

If u dont feel u have the time to talk about it to the partner,,,,,,,,,,,,,Just Walk Away!

lauryn:

If u don't feel u have the time to talk about it to the partner,,,,,,,,,,,,,Just Walk Away!

i think walking away is bad,just tell the person and let the person
know that u aint into him or her again

thats what i mean, if the person doesnt wanna listen or is not reasoning with u then what?

yea,if the person doesnt wanna listend that's ok athing

@ babymine
what i mean is that some enraged partner might decide to say if he/she can't have you, then none will. He/she goes further to kill the person or maim the person for life!

Babymine,love will not cause anyone to do stupid thing.please.I think we should clarify the meaning of love.To your question,insecurity is what pushes us to do stupid things.

Seun, love makes you do stupid things sometimes. Things you'd ordinarily not do.

But then that's not the topic. How does one break away from a wrong relationship?

Run for the hills and don't (repeat, DO NOT) look back. Remember Lot's wife!

Just kidding

I find the best way is to have a proper sit down with your (ex)partner and let her/him down softly. Anything else will definitely breed animosity.

This is my first post y'all. Good to be here.

wrong relationship as in??