damiso: CC is quite right bout drugging being sort of not really frowned upon in Nigeria.So as not to sound being hypocritical you can remember in my post that i said i gave my daughter 5 ml of flu medicine while flying long haul.That was a one off BUT my daughter really is kinda of almost manic when flying.Its made me and hubby rethink family hols sef.I read so many articles on takin a toddler on a plane and none of those tips worked for her.She just screams and wails throughour.I dont know if its the cabin pressure or maybe she is claustrophic i dont know but its really bad.We have concluded 1to 2hr flights is it till she is older or better still sef eurostar cos she is ok on trains.

Just needed to clear that but when i took my daughter to Nigeria you dont want to knoe how many suggestions i had to give her phenegan and the likes.Am like duh she is a toddler she is meant to be boisterous.Even my own mother gave that kind advise and i politely declined.I told them its boredom.Back in the uk when not in nursery i take her to the park,libraries,toddler groups,rhyme time,swimming etc so she can expend all that energy.This one that you people are rationing gen(nepa was horrible on our visit) with no one her age why wont she be bored?We can only read so many books.

Even when my mum visits,me and her argue about administering medication.Its strange to a typical Nigerian that you dont give drugs for everything cos its the culture to self medicate.My baby has a cough and cold now and there really is nothing over the counter but saline drops and glycerol based mixtures.Its frowned upon to give drugs to kids.Even the said medised i gave my daughter is no longer available for under six.It took.a while to get round but i think its better to err on the side of caution when giving drugs to kids.My mum sef started arguing with my gp when my daughter had a bug .She needs anti biotics, my gp said no she does not its just time to let it wear off and keep her well hydrated and the bug dud leave after about 3 days.I had to say mum are you a doctor?
So i thinks it just a cultural thing.

damiso: @debsolat,london.Dont know how the pm thing works.Never contacted anyone outside NL .Do you need my email add or something?

damiso: . . .BUT my daughter really is kinda of almost manic when flying. . .She just screams and wails throughour.I dont know if its the cabin pressure or maybe she is claustrophic i dont know but its really bad. . .

DarryOsh: U guys av absolutely no idea how much i love this thread, its the best i av read in recent times even though i'm a guy,its funny, witty, smart.....reminds me we r all human afterall......and sometimes d pressure gets to us but sill we survive, thumbs up to all da moms in da hous

babyosisi: For potty training,the method that works the quickest is making the child feel guilty
I know we don't want to hurt their little feelings but I did and it worked
For my last born,I potty trained him in a flash,I wish I did same with the earlier ones
I went to the store and he picked his favorite character underwears
Sponge bob undies
So we came home and I went through the whole story of how he is now a big boy and must pee pee like a man now and he was so happy he was now a man
Then here comes to guilt part
I said Nnamdi,now that you are a man and you love sponge bob ,the worst thing you can do now is to make him wet,he does not like to feel wet
So anytime you pee pee on yourself,you pee pee on sponge bob you are wetting him and it is not right to make him wet
So you must tell someone before the pee pee or poo poo comes out
So the kid did all he could to keep sponge bob dry and would be so proud of himself when he did it and felt sad when he got sponge bob wet or stinky
In a few days he was only wearing pull ups at night and before we knew it,he was totally trained

I still laugh at the announcements

mommy mommy daddy the pee pee is about to come out

And we all happily take him to the toilet
He didn't even use a potty,he went straight to the regular toilet seat

babyosisi: Then my last short cut confession for now
Has any of you moms tried bathing your newborns in the kitchen or bathroom sink
Believe me it is the best
You don't need all the acrobatics of gathering things together
You don't have to sit and bend and stretch and twist and turn
You just put your water in with your Johnson's body wash,stand straight and bath the child with a wash cloth wrap them in a towel and voila
Especially for those of us outside of nigeria with cold temperatures,it is a quick and easy bath and you take them to the bed or changing table and dress them up
After the first baby,I never bought a baby bath again,I got them as gifts sha but barely used them
They went from the sinks to the regular bath tub
Hubby was shocked the first time he saw me do it but he warmed up to it.

Of course if your mother or MIL is coming for omugwo,you need the baby bath

babyosisi:



Have you drugged your kids before?
Please answer me
It is a thought that has never ever crossed my mind no matter how noisy they were
It is a criminal offense to knowingly overdose someone what more children
I didn't know amongst Nigerians it is regarded as nothing,no big deal
So this is common practice amongst the Nigerian mothers in Nigeria?
OMG
I am almost certain that if she did it once she has done it again when similar occasions arose
Lord have mercy
No wonder our country is messed up,more than I thought
The sort of things people condone and excuse
The topic is about short cuts with kids and people are talking about feeding and bathing and throwing away soiled clothes and a woman admits she sedated her children with drugs and you call it no big deal?
Do you have an idea how much over the limit it takes to kill an infant due to their smaller body weight?
And when the kid dies they will look for a neighbor to blame it on
Your response is actually more shocking than the original post I responded to
Unbelievable
People came down on those FB killers that drugged and raped Cynthia then come to find out Nigerian mothers drug their own children for their pleasure and it is no biggie?
God forbid bad things

othenok:

Thanks for your concern, my dear babyosisi, it may please you to know the following
1. Apart from that day i have NEVER ever tried that again with my babies
2. I didn't give them d medicine to go and enjoy owambe as you made yourself to believe rather it was so they won't be stampeded in d crowd.
3. Hubby is a medical Dr and he was fully aware.
On another note i want you to
1. Stop being an alarmist. You are comparing me to to the late Cynthia's killers abi? You are indeed a drama queen.
2. Stop thinking you can love my babies more than me. Who exactly are you?
3. Learn how to correct without sounding condescending and bitchy.

dominique: I don't know why osisi had to single out othenok's post about sedating her baby as if she was the only one that mentioned it. Is it because she's based in Nigeria or what's with all the ish about Nigeria being messed up got to do with all that? The op even stated that she gave her baby flu medicine or you convieniently missed that cos she's uk based. Even women in your beloved US of A are capable of doing worse. Some women even admitted to worse on oprah. Don't tell me you've not heard of junkie mums that abandon their babies and go partying all night. Don't you watch crime shows on investigative discovery where parents do despicable things to their children and make it look like an accident or kidnap? Who do we blame for such attrocities? the American sysyem?
A lot of mothers here will never compromise their children's safety or well-being, but sometimes well oiled machines do develop faults and affect producitvity.
I've done some things I'm not proud of myself (including inducing sleep), doesn't make me a bad mum and I don't think its fair to make someone feel bad about it (to the point of suggesting she bought her baby).

babyosisi:

They are your children,you can do whatever you want with them frankly speaking
You are already drugging them by your own admission and your husband's consent and valid justification
Who am I to stop you?
Biko delete my post,pretend it never was
I just hope others see that is bad parenting and desist from so doing and not contemplate such
I have moved on from that topic Nne
Your children
Your drugs
Your spoon
Your hands
O HO!

othenok:

Bad parenting my a***, i have taken your advise Aunty babyosisi. It will do you good to take mine, nwanyi oma.
Even if i bought my kids, i can bet my last naija kobo that you not a better mum. Keep hiding under NL to salve your conscience.

othenok: Oops double post. Aunty mi, it's ok naaa? Haba tot u ve moved on. Abi make i swear
I swear i no go do am again;(. Are you good?

SniperInADiaper: I medicate my child every single day with multiple medications. I hate it but its for health resaons. I can't imagine medicating just for my own gain :/


I cook extra meals 1 day to eat for the whole week.
I let my kids eat in the car.
I prepare all of their clothes at once.
I bathe them together.
I have put them in their "tomorrow" clothes to sleep when we had to leave in the middle of the night.
I talk the older kids into doing certain tasks by convincing them that its an important job.

Daresh: Cereal for dinner is always the easiest way out.

Out of Kids toothpaste and I use my

Too tired to heat water and use cold water to bathe them(abeg sleep dey my eye)

Indomie for dinner

blank: Abeg, you guys are being too alarmist jor. Spoiling a lovely thread.
My 2/3month old baby likes waking up in the night, usually around 2 for me to carry him on my chest for the rest of the night. Since i have to be up by 4am, i deviced a means to quickly change hs position from my chest to a pillow so we can both get good night rest. No wahala.

I give my toddler eba and soup in the night so that he would sleep very well and not wake me up in the night. I hand him over to his nanny to get him to sleep cos sleep time for him is drama time. I feel guilty but i need the rest. Waking 4am and sleeping by 11pm is so frustrating but that is Lagos life.