190-the-clown:
I'm not in the mood to-talk right now
Chelsea lost so I'm really pissed off
Wait for others to-advice you

miss-sweety86:
Hey,

I need some help regarding my situation:

I've broken up with my ex about a month ago. I got tired of having to do all the work (calling, sending sms, asking for skype dates,...) and I felt my bf wasn't really loving me, making so many plans but never anything really involving him. I broke up because I didn't know what else to do. It was my last attempt to make him understand that his behavior wasn't right. We got engaged last february, but I already broke up with him in April because we were having issue.

Now I'm dating a new guy. He's a friend, I've known him since January when we were volunteering on a project together. He was pushing me to take a stand and do something with my bf. I kinda knew he wanted to date me but didn't want to face it. Right after I broke up with my ex he asked me out. And I said yes because I didn't want him to feel sad. I like him, and I thought maybe it would work. We have a lot in common and we have a similar way of thinking.

But I realized I don't feel the same than I did with my ex. I really like him, but I don't really feel the "thing". For example, last night he called me while I was sleeping. It just made me angry because I was sleeping, I didn't want to wake up and talk with him. But with my ex, even when he called me while I was sleeping, I still felt happy and wanted to talk to him even though it was late and I had to go to work in the next morning. I don't feel jealous when my bf told me he's seen some girls that were looking at him, but if my ex tells me he went to club then I'll just imagine things and get jealous whenever I see a picture of him with another girl.

So I'm wondering: am I forcing myself in that relationship? I want a relationship that works, and with my ex it was very complicated because we were in a long distance relationship. And we've had issues in the past, and it's difficult to imagine how we could be together in the future. With the new bf I think things will be much easier, but I'm scared I will still be thinking about my ex.

What do you think I should do? Please, give me some mature advice.

dmcdad:
@bolded.. That was the genesis of your predicament... .

Caracta:
I agree with you.

dmcdad:
@bolded.. That was the genesis of your predicament...

Don't have much time to spare now, I would have told you what to do..

Well, I believe there are people that have better things to tell you. Just hang on.

2sexy:

The best thing she should do is just to stay out of a relationship for now. Another problem she has is not taking the time to careful evaluate the state of things, what she wants, is the person really worth the time, is he real, how do I see myself in the next few months with this person. etc.

She really needs to a serious leak proof soul searching because going by what I know about the OP, she is the cause of her predicaments in cases like this wherein she of failed to do her home work properly.

miss-sweety86:


yes, I know that I should have told him to wait... Now I'm stuck and I don't wanna hurt him.... Guess I should wait until I spend some time with him and see how it goes...

miss-sweety86:


Can you stop being patronizing?? Because you don't know anything about me but you still judge me.

2sexy: your past post says a lot about how you handle relationship lady because I commented on that that thread where you first complained about your agbero boyfriend.

I am trying to help here. if you dont want it, I can stay off. after all, the truth is bitter, they say.

Yield: You're just using him as your rebound guy, which's unfair to him. You really shouldn't be in a r/ship right now.

olumaxi: Try to quit al relatnshp matas 4 lyk 6 months

2sexy:
I think you should stay out of a relationship until you really know what you want.

joeydozzy: simple.... he's your rebound guy

Flashaldrin: Either you're a kid or you aint good looking! Why the hell are you in two back to back online LDR's
I cant even keep friends in an LDR not to talk of girlfriend! Nawa ooo

omega25red: beyond him being your rebound, you have been conditioned to doing all the work in the relationship and now that someone is giving you what you were missing, you don't know how to appreciate it. you should have taken time off of dating before you agreed to go out with this guy. Try to make it work by talking out your feelings with him.

2sexy:

I said it


I said it too

and there it is

miss-sweety86:


you're probably right.... also sometimes I find him a bit overwhelming.... it's hard to find the right balance....

uj_sizzle: You said yes cos u didn't want him to feel sad sounds a lot like dating out of pity to me.
It seems you aren't over your ex yet, so get out of any relationship u're in now and clear ur head.
I'm no expert in this but I'll say you need to hangout with people and let someone spoil you a bit, u've worked too hard keeping ur previous relationship hun, it's time to take a breather before jumping into another.