Saw this in my mail and thot i should share with you guys...


.....“I’m hungry. Come over to my house. And we’ll head over to The Barnyard for a burger and some beers. Wear something cute and summery.”

Most guys would not have the balls to say something like that to a woman with whom they are setting up a first or second encounter.

They are afraid they might offend the woman. Or seem too dominant. Or they’ll think, “Maybe she doesn’t like burgers.”

Here is how most guys would handle this conversation:

“Hey, what are you doing? Oh. Are you hungry? What do you feel like eating? Do you like burgers? I was thinking burgers and beer at The Barnyard. Is that okay? Cool. What time should I pick you up?”

The very second after that conversations ends, the man has just handed over a large portion of his power to the woman. On a silver platter. And he will most likely never get it back.

Many guys on the surface say that they understand that women like a man who takes charge, is confident, and leads.

Yet, when it comes down to it… they are just too scared to actually act in this manner.

Do you find that you are continually giving your power away to beautiful women? Even sometimes to not so beautiful women?

Here is what you need to understand.

Many men look around a bar or club and see the majority of women with men fawning over them. In many cases, even fat and ugly women seem to have their pick of men. And we begin to believe that women hold all the power.

But this isn’t the case.

The real power is held by the small fraction of men at the very top- who actually give women what they want.

These men understand that by holding onto their natural born power- women will always play the role of the pursuer. Women are looking to take that power. But once you give it to them… you suddenly go from pursued to the pursuer… and the woman now holds the power.

You’ll notice this when you display the slightest bit of power to a woman. She’ll immediately test you to see if she can take it. Usually she will get really touchy or flirty just to see how eager you become. If you can stand your ground, and maintain control of the frame, then this is the point where a woman usually realizes that she is dealing with a man. And not an eager little boy.

Common ways men give power away
Most men give their power away within seconds simply through the act of showing hesitation before the approach.

If you are stuck in your own head, going back and forth trying to gather up enough courage to talk to a woman… you’ve just given her power.

If you call a woman to set up a date, but then wait for her to give you the “okay” before taking the lead and setting it up… you’ve just given her power.

If you’re with a woman and sense that it’s an appropriate moment to kiss her… but don’t… you’ve just given her power.

If you’re driving her around, paying for everything, always calling, and putting up with her flaky behavior… you’ve just given her power.

And once you give away power… it is VERY hard to get it back.

How to keep your power with women
The best and most effective way to keep your power with women is to set the precedent early of how you expect her to act.

And if she doesn’t meet your expectations… be willing to walk away.

The easiest way to do this is to know exactly what you want.

You need to be on a mission for specific results. You need have a clearly define vision of what you want. You need a purpose that is beyond some cute 7 you are chatting with in a bar.

When you are out, define for yourself how your night is going to go. Decide who you feel like talking to, and talk to them.

Take control of the conversation immediately. Hold onto the more dominant frame throughout the interaction.

You are the judge.

You are talking to her to see if she fits into the reality you’ve defined for yourself.

Maintain the control.

When you feel the conversation has run its course. End it. Tell her you’ve got to go. Tell her you’ll call her later. When you call, tell her what you want to do. Tell her to come over. Tell her to wear something cute.

And if she doesn’t.

Be willing to walk away.

http://www.tsbmag.com/2009/06/24/how-to-keep-your-power-edge-with-women/

I can catch some females viewing the thread o!!!

Sorry I had to read on behalf of my boyfrnd

Sooo wen d time is ryt for d kissing and she is offended bou it cause u got the emotions wrong u walk away abi? T! you can't always get it right.power power power!hehehe. Every woman is different and all that possessiveness is too much. Eshe.

Thankl God that all d women who are close to me understand me. They know that smiling with them now does not mean I won't kill their aass in d next minute if they ffucked up.

Control is not being dominant, word or deedwise.
Its the art of maintaining superiority while giving the impression you are inferior.

Most hot girls I know wont respond to the stick, unless the carrot comes first.

Lovetinz: Control is not being dominant, word or deedwise.
Its the art of maintaining superiority while giving the impression you are inferior.

Most hot girls I know wont respond to the stick, unless the carrot comes first.

CLASSIC!

@OP, Everything u wrote up there is the plain truth but in application u have to be flexible. EG: Just like lovetinz said, most hot and classy babes out there already know all of these, so they can put up a defence when they notice it in d guy coming around them d first time. Best way out is to dangle d carrot and hold d stick behind!
If not, u are on a long thing if start acting out immediately.

1) The moment u tell her to come to ur house then go out, expect her to accept the next guy who asked her out instead
2) Tell her how u expect her to act...is she dating her father or what

Na wa oo kuku just chain her to your house that way you know you've got ultimate power over her life! Dictatorship!

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non of dis shit wud actually work

poo(s_h_i_t)

man I am just tired. can't chicks just chill and become easy to get especially the hot ones. I'm tired of not being successful

If only you had added a lil atom of FUNNY you wud have cut out nicely.....

You went all CORKY and totally blew it leaving out moda funny and therefore, came across like a J3rk .

Buh ii get the ish tho . Many ofcos wudnt . Rest easy . This terrain is daring

The OP is right on point, but you must'nt show that attitude at the early stage of the relationship, ladies love gentle men, a guy only takes charge once he noticed the girl has fallen deeply inlove with him else - Za ka chi kwa kwa ke nan!

I think, in the write-up, Power should be replaced with Assertiveness. Ladies are not comfortable with hubby being 'powerful'; they prefer a man being assertive, making excellent decision and taking charge. The write-up is great and it offers a little more inspiration to boys out there who still are searching for missing ribs; I guess some of us lost more than 16 ribs...LoL

Good points, but they would only work for some girls, not all girls.

fellis: Good points, but they would only work for some girls, not all girls.

Yes, they will definately work for a wife material and not some bunch of wild, irresponsible lady out there.

Man I am just tired. can't chicks just chill and become easy to get especially the hot ones. I'm tired of not being successful

Move to Brasil. 3 women per guy. Wahala no dey for chicas.

zumbigbo:

Move to Brasil. 3 women per guy. Wahala no dey for chicas.

And they have big booties too.

jacobscros: man I am just tired. can't chicks just chill and become easy to get especially the hot ones. I'm tired of not being successful

Change your signature to -Specialist 'female' Personal Fitness trainer- and watch your graph rise

Sorry had to read. I know this type of game. I can smell it a mile away. First of, I would NEVER EVER pursue a guy. Why do that when you have hundreds of other men pursuing you? Secondly, that "bait & switch"/"carrot & stick" game other posters are talking about only works on desperate women with no options. Women with options know when to quit & switch/upgrade

Yes,carrot and stick approach really matters in very relationship. A guy needs to be flexible,maintain his control over a girl. His ways of handling the lady should the depend on the behavior of such lady. If a guy apply approach that is meant for a stubborn lady on a calm lady it will be disastrous. It all depends on the lady's character.

Some very good point there, but some don't work on every occasion

Thanks for sharing thou

joe4christ:

Yes, they will definately work for a wife material and not some bunch of wild, irresponsible lady out there.

Lol...funny but true

Y'all are constantly trying to make relating with the female folks look more difficult than advance Calculux.