Yesterday i logged in to my page on fb and i decided to check my girlfriend's fb page.In one of her comments,she wrote'happy birthday LOVE' on one of her male friend on fb wall.I pose this to u nairalanders,is she cheating on me and how can i confront her on this issue

What you're feeling is normal! Any person in your situation would be feeling the same way.

If I was dating a girl who would openly point out how madly she's in love with another guy, it'd bother me as well.

IMO...I feel she's probably doing it to make you jealous in a way.

Most girls constantly need reassurance that their boyfriend is still interested in them and cares...one of such is to create an atmosphere that would make you realize how much they mean to you should you loose them.

A typical example is what you've just experienced.

Also, It could be that she has left you for good and has actually found some else.

If I were you, I'd try to calmly talk to her about it and let her know that you don't like how it makes you feel...It's not fair for you to have to see that post all the time and I know if you were doing it to her it'd bother her eventually too. Talking to her about it is the best thing you can do

Her reply should determine your next line of action...good luck.

Thanks boss,i would speak to her softly

Hw dos that qualify as cheating?
Nawah 4 u..

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"love" is an expression that some people use. Besides her fb page is visible to you so why would she post an obvious message like that if she already knows that you will find out?

But in this concept,it wasnt to a relation,it was to a male friend that was a bit older than her

Peterjosh: But in this concept,it wasnt to a relation,it was to a male friend that was a bit older than her

Are u for real?
So u mean she can't use such expression to any other aside her relatives!
Guy grow up joor,dis is 2012.

well then ask her. Note that if you do, you will loose some power in that relationship and she will see you as an insecure person.

It doesn't mean she is cheating cos I can do d same. It is something I use for both my male and female friends.

Okay,i understand wella now maybe it wasnt what i was thinking

That is not enough concrete evidence to prove she is cheating on you. Calm down cos both males and females use such romantic names this days without actually meaning they are having an affair.

No crime in asking her to know why she used such reference!

Happy birthday hun, love, boo, etc...very harmless in my opinion.
OP please relax

OP girls do this all the time. It is almost their nature. I wont blame you cos I was like that before but I have grown to understand their nature.

It is in this same vein that a guy would automatically assunme that a girl is tripping for him just because she uses those words, which in most cases is just an ordinary friendly gesture.

Why not give your girlfriend time and observe her. I wouldnt advices that you even discuss this with her because she will perceive you as being jealous and that you dont trust her. Girls dont like it when a guy is jealous. It is also obvious that this is he first time you have noticed this from her or do you have any other allegations against her?

If possible mix with other girls and play with them too. Nothing wrong.

aburoburo: Happy birthday hun, love, boo, etc...very harmless in my opinion.
OP please relax

Its harmless when you aren't dating anyone. It becomes harmful when you're in a serious relationship...

If you love and respect your spouse, then you'll eliminate every suspicion in that relationship and would work towards making him proud of you.

If my girl posts such thing, I would immediately call her and ask her who that guy is. Cos such post is like a insult to me.

Its ok to wish a member of the opposite sex a happy birthday...but the moment the love word comes in, then something is definitely going on between them.

Cos from experience, no Nigerian girl would refer to you as her "love" if nothing is going on between you two...I would suggest that you monitor her and know exactly what she's up to.

CrazyMan:
Its harmless when you aren't dating anyone. It becomes harmful when you're in a serious relationship...

If you love and respect your spouse, then you'll eliminate every suspicion in that relationship and would work towards making him proud of you.

If my girl posts such thing, I would immediately call her and ask her who that guy is. Cos such post is like a insult to me.

Its ok to wish a member of the opposite sex a happy birthday...but the moment the love word comes in, then something is definitely going on between them.

Cos from experience, no Nigerian girl would refer to you as her "love" if nothing is going on between you two...I would suggest that you monitor her and know exactly what she's up to.

Thats very true,its not a matter of grown up or not,i guess maybe that was too hard a fly word to use especially in the African context.I am really confused it might be a joke or not

Peterjosh: Thats very true,its not a matter of grown up or not,i guess maybe that was too hard a fly word to use especially in the African context.I am really confused it might be a joke or not

bro... i feel your pain. You are trying to be careful so that you dont end up messing up if you found out that she has nothing with the guy and if that really happens, you will be the one to lose.

So I want to pose the question to you: Have you ever suspected any foul play from your girlfriend apart from this? Please be sincere to everyone here.

Then we can proceed to the next stage.

No,but its a distant relationship

Peterjosh: No,but its a distant relationship

distance? how far?

2sexy: distance? how far?

Lokoja to Delta and it has been quite a while we've seen eachother lets say nearly 4years now

ah ah aha ah bro.... just forget it long distance relationship is no go area. NO NO NO.

Peterjosh: Lokoja to Delta and it has been quite a while we've seen eachother lets say nearly 4years now

Peterjosh: Lokoja to Delta and it has been quite a while we've seen eachother lets say nearly 4years now

This explains why she referred to another guy as my love. I can place a bet that she and the guy she referred to as my love share the same location.

Since you obviously weren't physically present to give her the love and care she needs, she sourced out and found someone who fitted perfectly in your shoes.

My advice is that if you want to be happy in life, stay away from distance relationship.

Good luck.

Okay thanks,i'd try to confront her formally so as to get to the root of this

CrazyMan:
This explains why she referred to another guy as my love. I can place a bet that she and the guy she referred to as my love share the same location.

Since you obviously weren't physically present to give her the love and care she needs, she sourced out and found someone who fitted perfectly in your shoes.

My advice is that if you want to be happy in life, stay away from distance relationship.

Good luck.

I think it depends on the kind of gal u're dealing with. Is it only this guy dt she uses such words for? If she calls almost evribody arnd her with such names, den, it's no big deal but if it's a particular person, then, maybe u shld look into it.

Peterjosh: Lokoja to Delta and it has been quite a while we've seen eachother lets say nearly 4years now

Looking @ d situation from anoda perspective, i don't think d relationship is dt serious if u pple have not seen each other for 4 years nd u're both in Nigeria. So, probably, d young lady has decided to move on, i suggest u do same.

Love, dear, my love, honey are mere compliments......seeing such doesnt mean she cheats, do ur homework.
BTW, invoking her privacy is killing urself silently.

Talk about some mad insecurity.