k2039: [color=soyouquotedme]Relationship: Sour.

Impact: Mum took full responsibilty for my upbringing, she was dad and mum together, so their relationship didn't really have much impact on me

Lesson: Be a better husband and father than my father.
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Vikin: My parents are always together..dad does most of the talk while mum listens. But, if she doesn't agree to something,just knw she is right.

Sometimes dad complains that she is too stubborn, blah blah blah....but if you chip in to support his talk...you are the next victim. What you will hear is...leave my wife for me!

I learnt not to put my mouth whenever they have an argument. I just keep laughing at the side line.

joeydozzy: my parents are pretty much how the norm of the marriage in the 80s have been. they believe in culture and values

dad has the inflated ego that I haven't seen in any person. he loves commands even if not required at all. he loves raising his voice. lol, even his advice is more of "no other way about or it or else..." than....

mum is fragile takes everything to heart. loves stating her views and if you don't like it, the whole world will hear about it

now put these two together and you'll see why I see them few times in a year. now, the love is there, we cover our eyes or leave the room when they start their "Kporo m love gi" but the love is stale

BukkyDan: Hmm...d only time my dad smiles z when my mum collects ha salary...always quarelling,i sometimes imagine whether they are forced to marry each other...funny part is dat,dad always sings in yoruba after a quarell while mum shouts and rants...they divorced now though,i stay with mum,she is my all,d separation didn't affect me much,cos mum pays my fees ryt 4rm tym...

zoete: ;DThe relationship between my parents is a love hate relationship. My mom is an independent hard working woman so whenever my dad misbehave she just throw him out let he go to his own house so when hen get back to his senses he can return

k2039: [color=soyouquotedme]Relationship: Sour.

Impact: Mum took full responsibilty for my upbringing, she was dad and mum together, so their relationship didn't really have much impact on me

Lesson: Be a better husband and father than my father.
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BukkyDan: hmn...dear dats nt gonna be possible...cos dad doesn't want me n mum,i'm an only child,they'v neen divorced 4 long nw,and dad doesn't care where we are,if we're alive or not,4get dat man jor, he belives a gal child is useless#laffs# m jst 19yrs with no fatherly love,mtchew,i hate to think of him,yoruba men are wicked

tpia@:
Hmm, just pray for him, the problems you described usually go much deeper than what you know or are capable of understanding.

Also, try to have good friends who can help you focus on other things ( and vice versa), and lastly, mind how or what you share in a public capacity, lest your familial enemies use you against the family.

Just my two cents, hope you heal by God's grace.

tpia@:
I was referring to the person you quoted.

tishat: Hnmm my dad wld ve been divorced 10x if he wasn't married to my mum.He's is such a
Difficult person to please!only my mum knows his antidote.he does all the talking,takes all decisions while my mum smiles sheepisly,i always call her a
Fool inlove.She is a
Deeper life member so wen my dad is not getting his usual sadine and bread @ her shop he threatens her with hell fire and it ll served immediately with a
Chilled malt.
Somex I wish I got dat trait from my mother but unfortunately my dad gave me all of his.

tishat: Yesooo am very calm now and things are smooth that way only that I feel foolish sometimes but I know if I bring in my wiseness wahala ll burst.

ffo:

1. Did your mum/dad remarry?
2. Its not impossible- keep praying for him, since you are the only child, one day he will realize his mistakes and call u back.
3. Call him once in a while (to check on him), visit him occasionally
4. dont let that affect your future relationship with yoruba men
5. Focus on your career& ur life, one day he will run after you when you become GREAT.
6. Hold on to God also, its very important.
by the way

7. Not all yoruba men are wicked (you cant conclude based on a single or handful experience you had), there are some good ones out there