Dear NL, I have a girl that we've been dating for a year plus now. There's a wide age gap between us which is affecting our decisions and plans for marriage. The love is there but she's not set for marriage now and I don't want to wait any longer. I told her of my plans to get another girl so I can get married and she swore it will never happen as long as she lives.

Please help me out as in what do I do?

Only constructive answers please.

This post has been exposed

ask her wat she want and hw she wants it done?

answer these two question before i say anything:

1-What number of years is the gab between you both?

2-How old is she?

masterpiecer: answer these two question before i say anything:

1-What number of years is the gab between you both?

2-How old is she?

15 years

Will be 18 this year

egbe4real: ask her wat she want and hw she wants it done?

she wants nothing else but me and that I must wait for her to obtain marriageable age.

Input: This post has been exposed

I don't get you please...

If you love her like you say you do then wait. Although I can't possibly see what a 33 year old man would have in common with an 18 yr old

To each his own though.

SAFO: If you love her like you say you do then wait. Although I can't possibly see what a 33 year old man would have in common with an 18 yr old

To each his own though.

What's impossible or crazy in love?

wots d age difference? lets do d maths first, but... babe wey dey send threats like dat fit b ogbanje o! watch out for part 2!

korel9:

What's impossible or crazy in love?

That's possible but the girl in question is still young and she has yet to live her life. Forcing her into marriage now could severely stunt her growth.

korel9:

15 years

Will be 18 this year

ok, apparently, you are 33/34 and she is 17.
First fact is that she is still a very young woman, probably in the early stage of her tertiary education or late stage of her secondary education.
You both are at various stages of your lives where your priorities are far apart; your priority right now is to settle down and get married, while hers may be concentrating on her education and getting a degree, this does not mean that you both do not love each other, but priorities are very strong driving force in acheiving whatever you set your mind to acheive, since you say she will be turning 18 this year, then she is almost an adult already, seat her down let her see and feel the reality of your(both of u) predicaments,

are you ready to see her through school as your wife?(that is if that is her utmost priority 4 now), is she ready to be married while she is still schooling?, do you think her parent would allow you marry her at her age?(very important), if it be the case that she wants you to give her some more time and wait for her, are ready to wait considering your age?..., if all these questions can be asked and answered positively then you may be able to acheive something good, but if its not, then-
break up now so you both don't end up wasting your time and hurting yourselves. In life, reality is very important to face.

Crazy love my foot. Pedophile!!!

korel9:

15 years

Will be 18 this year

Haba bros. Save yourself Headache and heartache. Forget her

What you need is seminary school admission form...goodluck

Input: This post has been exposed

hehehehe

Age difference of more than ten isn't really visible. You'd be on a different world.

Wait, you are 32 and dating a 17 year old girl? This is why I recomemnd the 2nd amendments for fathers with daughters.

Craddle robber

Op you are Sick!
Dating an 18yr old @ 33?

Get help man.

U are rude first of all for even saying to a woman u claim to love that you plan on getting another woman to marry if she doesnt agree. nobody likes ultimatums.

KateSpade: U are rude first of all for even saying to a woman u claim to love that you plan on getting another woman to marry if she doesnt agree. nobody likes ultimatums.

^in line with this,i think u dont love her enough,otherwise you wont be thinking of picking another. You probably want her cos she is still innocent and young. Those things dont keep marriage.

korel9:

15 years

Will be 18 this year

Umm

korel9: Dear NL, I have a girl that we've been dating for a year plus now. There's a wide age gap between us which is affecting our decisions and plans for marriage. The love is there but she's not set for marriage now and I don't want to wait any longer. I told her of my plans to get another girl so I can get married and she swore it will never happen as long as she lives.

Please help me out as in what do I do?

Only constructive answers please.

Move to Maiduguri and leave her in Lagos. I promise, she won't follow you there.

korel9:

I don't get you please...

He's just been sarcastic

Na hausa babe? If not she too young na.

You wickedt o....you badt gon


That girl need to enjoy har youthful age man, don't rush into any marriage

And u say women are the ones obssessed wit getting married

mondi_cheeks: And u say women are the ones obssessed wit getting married

the guy na 33 yrs old, at his age, wanting to get married isn't an obsession

masterpiecer:

the guy na 33 yrs old, at his age, wanting to get married isn't an obsession

ok let me re-phrase, and u say women are the only ones desperate to get married nowadays

mondi_cheeks: And u say women are the ones obssessed wit getting married

Lol ur post don't make sense. He 30+ wats d obsession dere? He feels its time to settle down and is aiming towards achieving dat goal. But OP sef, wat prompted u to date an underage girl? You mistook her body growth for maturity of a potential bride? And what's wit the chalant threat of getting another girl, further confusing the kid ey? Do you want her to make a decision she's not fit to follow thru? If u truly love her, wait for her, let her live her life and whn she's ripe enuf u'll do the deed. Except ofcus uve been taking her for a ride which is jst plain sick

korel9:

15 years

Will be 18 this year

Herein lies the problem

Dopefiend:

Lol ur post don't make sense. He 30+ wats d obsession dere? He feels its time to settle down and is aiming towards achieving dat goal.

I corrected myself, he is desperate

mondi_cheeks: I corrected myself, he is desperate

I won't say he's desperate. I'd rather say he's in a haste to settle down.

Dopefiend:

I won't say he's desperate. I'd rather say he's in a haste to settle down.

still the same damn thing to me...he is desperate...he is desperate