Do any of you still talk with your exes?

I usually don't. I try to wean them off slowly but my last one keeps calling. Like last night he called 4 times, I picked up on the last call and was talking about how I don't call to check up on him anymore.

He talks to me as if we are still together. Says he misses me, brings up certain memories. The only thing that has changed is that he doesn't call me pet names anymore. Its not that I don't care about him but certain factors led me to end things. I'm trying to move on but these calls multiple times a week [regardless if I answer or not] are preventing that from happening.

YES

Yes, I do talk with my latest ex.

Andy-baby:
YES

why? is it weird?

miss-sweety86:
Yes, I do talk with my latest ex.

Why? do u feel like they still want to get back together or are u guys just friends?

KateSpade:

Why? do u feel like they still want to get back together or are u guys just friends?

more complicated than that but I can't tell more because my new year resolution was to stop sharing my issues online and seeking advice from strangers....

miss-sweety86:


more complicated than that but I can't tell more because my new year resolution was to stop sharing my issues online and seeking advice from strangers....

haha good resolution.

i have only one ex and we are good friends, so yes, i still talk wit him.

I make sure to remain friends with my past partners...u don't want anyone using ur weakness against u.

Why not? Yes.

binger: u don't want anyone using ur weakness against u.

what do u mean by that?

DigitalSignal: Why not? Yes.

I can't. Its not that I hate them I just don't see how it will do me any good.

I am in good terms with them. I don't believe in making permanent enemies

KateSpade:

what do u mean by that?

e.g If u should have a skeleton in the cupboard that she know's about, being an enemy to her is risky,cos she might use that info against u to get even.

I'm not friends with any of my SERIOUS exes only flings....I really don't see the need keeping in contact with people I shared unfulfilled dreams with. And in the spirit of fairness since I wouldn't like my wife talking to her Ex why should I do the same?

KateSpade:

I can't. Its not that I hate them I just don't see how it will do me any good.

Nobody knows what tomorrow is bringing. One may need the other in the future! But, it 's ok as long as you're in good terms and are free with each other. At least if you should meet again tomorrow you could talk freely.
Personally, if I should break-up with a girlfriend, I'd try as much as possible to make sure we're in good terms. Besides, we once shared something, so...?

I still remain friend to all my EXes except ONE. She vowed to eliminate me but I see Jesus turning her hatred to LOVE. Nothing my jehova cannot do,the unchangeable changer.

Morayo747: I'm not friends with any of my SERIOUS exes only flings....I really don't see the need keeping in contact with people I shared unfulfilled dreams with. And in the spirit of fairness since I wouldn't like my wife talking to her Ex why should I do the same?

feel the same way

you know the biggest weapon anyone can have with their ex's is communicating, when you shut them out, it gives the illusion you are in a much better place and simply have no need for them anymore. that creates a terror of regret. At the same time when you do keep in touch, both of you are relaxed and sometimes even feel relief at the end of the relationship (if you are a vindictive being like yours truly you never want that, you want him to forever regret not being with you )

There are x's I simply cannot stand, and they always call, i speak to some past *ehem* I honestly think I only keep them around for potential *queensmith moments* or if mr boyfriend misbehaves.

If you are in a serious relationship I think you should avoid it, its pointless, unless you both have a business or some other form of shared interests that communicating will benefit its unnecessary, let everyone just move on with their lives.

^^^

queensmith: you know the biggest weapon anyone can have with their ex's is communicating, when you shut them out, it gives the illusion you are in a much better place and simply have no need for them anymore. that creates a terror of regret. At the same time when you do keep in touch, both of you are relaxed and sometimes even feel relief at the end of the relationship (if you are a vindictive being like yours truly you never want that, you want him to forever regret not being with you )

There are x's I simply cannot stand, and they always call, i speak to some past *ehem* I honestly think I only keep them around for potential *queensmith moments* or if mr boyfriend misbehaves.

If you are in a serious relationship I think you should avoid it, its pointless, unless you both have a business or some other form of shared interests that communicating will benefit its unnecessary, let everyone just move on with their lives.

Wow this really spoke to me. thanks!

It's been three months, still see her at least once a week at the workplace , whenever we talk outside that we try to f?$k, BUT the problem be say her new boyfriend na pastor wey dey see beta vision

KateSpade: Do any of you still talk with your exes?

I usually don't. I try to wean them off slowly but my last one keeps calling. Like last night he called 4 times, I picked up on the last call and was talking about how I don't call to check up on him anymore.

He talks to me as if we are still together. Says he misses me, brings up certain memories. The only thing that has changed is that he doesn't call me pet names anymore. Its not that I don't care about him but certain factors led me to end things. I'm trying to move on but these calls multiple times a week [regardless if I answer or not] are preventing that from happening.

your ex is still a baby,he needs to grow up..
Too weak for my liking,girls full everywhere,he should just pick one and move on.
I cant imagine calling someone who dumped me,thats stalking and it will make her feel like a queen or believe you cant survive without her,too bad.

Depends on how we broke up.

I dnt av exes , if we broke up, den it never hapend, infact I don't knw u

I do and I don't .it depends on the way or what led to the break up..

theplanmaker: I dnt av exes , if we broke up, den it never hapend, infact I don't knw u

correct

Y do I get the feeling girls know how to move on better