to think that all this war war and jaw jaw for something as little as d how of a glorious matter. a guy has been thinking, weighing issues in his mind, the pros and cons, the challenges ahead, his fears.he's been with the mama for a while now he thinks to himself and he likes what he sees in his vision of the future with her even with all fears and he decides finally to marry her only that he says it out the way it was thought in the deep recesses of the mind without refining it and as someone whos been with oga long enough and wants this end result aunty should have been matured and proactive enough to see where he was going and tenderly guide him aright while accepting and seeing the humor in his seeming rawness and like someone said taking the crude oil refining it and selling it back to him. but then humans for what we are you just can never know unless of course you were there and are able to make a first hand analysis of both parties to see if the fella is truly one mean uncouth moefoe or the girl is just one nagging bia_ch. best of luck to them sha cos na good thing. but na wa for the volume wey some of ma pple imput for this discussion so tay dem begin break each other head for another man headache. but thats human being for you, it can be no other way so "e go on so on" aka "carry go"

Why all the talk, that seems to be the best way the guy believes he can propose. If you love the guy, Accept and correct him later.

All we have is a proposal now.  Let us get to the altar. . . . . .is what we should be praying for since they both love eachother

Almondjoy, forget all insults wey i don haul to you in the past, ur head too correct.
now i believe Lesleen that all you throw here are just to make the place lively.
u be correct person truly

@TOH
u just dey insult everybody, hope everything is aight with u sha?
gerrout of here joh!

@Windy
madam, u think na candlestick we dey talk about?
abeggi, commot for here come teach me how to do CICO, dem Wanajo and Pumping are waiting

U sef, haba
on a more serious note, are u saying semantics has got a lot to do with how i propose to my babe
cant i propose when im drunk?
cant i propose on Okada?
who says i can only propose with choice words culled from Mills and boon or some rap lyrics
its berra i do it my way. .

Windy u know what matters, the rosy life after the proposal, not the 'packaging' of the proposal

hmmm------- all these talk about romantic proposal from thesame nigerian women who dont like flowers being presented to them na wa o. na two mouth una get

tkb417:

Almondjoy, forget all insults wey i don haul to you in the past, your head too correct.
now i believe Lesleen that all you throw here are just to make the place lively.
u be correct person truly

@TOH
u just dey insult everybody, hope everything is aight with u sha?
gerrout of here joh!

@Windy
madam, u think na candlestick we dey talk about?
abeggi, commot for here come teach me how to do CICO, them Wanajo and Pumping are waiting

You sef, haba
on a more serious note, are u saying semantics has got a lot to do with how i propose to my babe
can't i propose when im drunk?
can't i propose on Okada?
who says i can only propose with choice words culled from Mills and boon or some rap lyrics
its berra i do it my way. .

Windy u know what matters, the rosy life after the proposal, not the 'packaging' of the proposal

Thanks.  One love! No wahala at all.

hmmm------- all these talk about romantic proposal from thesame nigerian women who don't like flowers being presented to them  na wa o. na two mouth una get

thank u jare my sister. . .nowadays in 9ja, if u send flowers to babes, na silently den go dey swear for u  

it's the guy's fault y did he take that long, but come to think of it the way he said it was wrong. That is y the girl answered that way

Brand new testing 1,2

Oyinbo don cause katakata

The guy should have proposed in his mother's tongue, lol

Thank God they have made up!

@Tpia

when did I say you are an accountant in nz gawd, look again
I think we should just drop it, I dont have any problems with you and I am sure the reverse is also true
We are friends now right
Take care

@ tpia,

i don't particularly care to know what you're smoking but its clearly frying your brains. dalby is merely pulling your legs but here you are going ballistic. What's wrong with you? Its a common joke among Nigerians back home that folks in the diaspora are all poop packers and cabdrivers. What's your stress jo?

FYI, we're on the web. I don't give a friggin f@#$ where you live or what you do. Focus on the key questions.

Its not my fault that you left Nigeria long ago and no longer understand pidgin English. Go look for naija folks to teach you




@ d-reloaded - same applies to you. this website is called nairaland and its a Nigerian website. I will use pidgin or Queen's English as and when I see fit. If you don't understand pidgin English at all or any longer, sorry too bad for you. Make an effort to learn the Nigerian lingo if you want to be with naija people.

the guy must have been going through an ordeal before eventually having the courage to pop the word at last.
you babe look yourself very well to know if you qualify for a proposal in posh cars!
anyway she should have been more systematic because her reaction could make him say "thank you for saying those words to me.they were the best things that ever happened to me.it made me have a rethink and i now know i deserve better|"
okpari ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Dalby:

@Tpia

when did I say you are an accountant in nz gawd, look again
I think we should just drop it, I don't have any problems with you and I am sure the reverse is also true
We are friends now right
Take care

dalby,

you need to explain slowly and carefully to him so that he will FINALLY get the joke. here, let me help

tpia, his referring to diasporans and accountants is a joke about the fact that naijas in america and other developed countries have to acquire 'accounting skills' by force in order to complete their tax returns accurately and submit same. tax collection is a joke in naija and so peeps at home don't need to learn how to complete a tax return

got it now?

pls go slow on that your favourite smoke!!!

what was she so upset about dose the woman not know her boyfriendof 4 years.
from the boys wordings he was thinkingh of marring her or dumping her.
what if e had said "not to marry you"

I am not trying to take sides with anyone as D-reloaded put it. But the fact remains that yes it's a day she (the lady) will live to remember but also the guy is not in any way wrong if you analyze the sentence critically:

"I HAVE FINALLY DECIDED TO MARRY YOU" which simply mean that he has weighed so many options and have arrived at a conclusion because he would not want to get married to a senseless and no - good lady who thinks she is doing the guy any good marrying him.

I think your friend should apologize to her man and allow him room to re-decide if he can still go on with the proposal.

And yet has she taken the pain to really put him through on how to propose to a lady? I count all those stuff last on my priority though not yet ready for marriage but my job first and giving back to those who has been there for me when it seems bleak. Because I might not have time for such romantic proposals

Life is a learning process and he has to be taught so he can do it right the next time. And please to all the ladies in the don't take such harsh decision because it could mar your happiness

Thanks

Hmmmn. . . . .I forsee a couple of fireworks ahead, if the couple does not resolve this issue of 'bad communication'. They have been together for 4 years, and the guy still does not know the kind of tactless comments that are a turn-off, for the girl. Does he think he is doing her a favour by marrying her?

Or was there a contest, that gave him the opportunity to compare and contrast her attributes with those of some other women in his life, before he finally managed to arrive at the conclusion that she was somehow more 'manageable' than the others? Only God knows.

Abeg, the girl should forgive him for his tactless remarks. But sha, make I no lie. . . . I like her guts o jare. One needs to talk some sense into some men's heads, before they can realise their mistakes and make ammends! But now she has made her point, they ned to find a way to move on without letting their relationship suffer. Four years no be joke!

There is really nothing wrong in what the guy had done.

If I were the guy and the lady did that, I have two options:

to wall away and start looking for a fresh start.

To ask her what she mean by that.


Many ladies see marriage proposal as a ceremony that must be done, if posible in Venus. It is sheer stupidity, and waste of time. I would never dream of going through that. If you want a lady for marriage, what is wrong in telling after four years? I won't even wait that long before I tell her where I am heading. I think, this idea of dating, today had been badly overflogged.

And there was me thinking romance was dead

I think that is the only way the guy could express his feeling towars the girl,

A friend of mine just asked me to post this. I refused at first but she kept begging me too.

Said her boyfriend took her for lunch today and told her "I have finally decided to marry you". She said she was so pissed, and told him to take his proposal and shove it, now she is wondering if she was too harsh, she has been with the guy through thick and thin for four years and she feels (rightly I think oh) that the guy should have come up with a more romantic and respectful proposal. What do you think?

Would it have made any difference if he had said: "I have finally decided to marry you, would you please marry me?"

Or: "I have finally decided to marry you, would you be my wife?"

But from the tone, i think the lady has been pestering the guy for a proposal for a long time. So ladies, don't prompt a guy to propose to you. so that it wont sound like "now i am ready to marry you, so you can now let me rest."

@EFUAH
olulu. . . your name sef makes me laugh bad temper? rofl. . . go for a cold shower!


@EFUAH

TRIED DAT, HE NO WORK,
LETS TRY THE KISSING ONE

[size=8pt]Abeg my sister my pastor once said if a man playfully ask you to marry him, you also playfully accept him, may that is how the guy understand it or may there is a thing you that he did not like so he was contemplating and he didnt want to miss you. You change for good so that you can enjoy him, and dont be offended just accept his proposal take it a he did not know how to say it.

LET ALLOW THOSE AMEBO TO SPOIL SHOW FOR YOUOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

wat a way 2 propose

I don't see anything wrong with that proposal, The guy is been honest to the girl,that proposal shows that the are few douthing things about the girl in question and she too knew that she has some very BAD characters that was keeping the guy away from proposing to her ever since,now that the guy has finnally proposed to her, she has no option than to accept or reject it, her rejecting the offer means she is sure that she can't change from her bad behaviour and also that too is been honest to the guy because she don't want to hurt him.

Na wah 4 girls oooo.   well, she should understand that the man didn't ask her bt rather told her. so its not a proposal afterall. lol

Echidime:

I don't see anything wrong with that proposal, The guy is been honest to the girl,that proposal shows that the are few douthing things about the girl in question and she too knew that she has some very BAD characters that was keeping the guy away from proposing to her ever since,now that the guy has finnally proposed to her, she has no option than to accept or reject it, her rejecting the offer means she is sure that she can't change from her bad behaviour and also that too is been honest to the guy because she don't want to hurt him.

Echidime take it easy oh! it may not be like that.

I have discovered that most men have difficulty in expressing themselves, a lot of them need to take romance classes (sigh)! It is obvious that the proposal wasnt an easy decison fo him to make, but the lady in question should be not be pissed because of that, its something both of the could laugh about in future.  

"I have finally decided to marry you".




                           buahahahahahahahaeeeeeeeeeeee!
                           
                               what an insalt



                             ladies ladies ladies,
                           men are like floor tiles
                              if u lay them straight the first time
                             u can walk over them for life

                                     now thats true talk
                             what is her problem
                            to me she was given a bit
                             of her own humble pie

                                ''dress d way u want to be addressed''
                               she must hav been taking shits like
                                this or even worse than this before
                              so what makes her think that she would get a
                              sexy proposal after 4 years!

                                 hummmm! lets look at it from the top,
                           some ladies out of despiration or what ever
                               they do set standards from the start just because
                              they want to b with a guy.i am not here saying that
                                  she should be ''demanding or authoritative, etc"
                                    but there are some things that should not be at all
                                 infact u don't even have to say it some times
                               some things u do even make bold statements about u.


                       on the other hand no man in his right sence
                            would say that to his "dream love"
                               lets face it,  he has finally decided to marry her[s][/s]
                               yes na! why wont he say that to a girl he has
                             been managing for 4 years, infact his alternative
                          bebe just bleeped up thats why he is back, 


                       chai, i can't help this laugh buahahaha
                           see if that guy was to propose to me
                                seriouslly now no jokes ===he would do it in
                         a more respectfull way  because i don't take shits
                              n so do not recive shits

                 this thing is a give n take thing
                      so ladies start knowing your worth
                         n respecting your man from the start
                             so he can do the same.
                        its no magic, if he doesn't
                      teach him, make him what u want
                   before he proposses to u on a bike
                      it might take time but never stop
                  and if u see it wont work then b the first to know

dis kin advertisement sef


abi u wan proposal on top internet?

@ poster
Kind of sounds corny. Almost like something out of the movie, The Bachelor. I think this story was made up. No guy would say such a thing.

@EFOSA VAL
Is that your pics ?