I want my husband to listen to me. As i'm preparing for marriage, pls wise people, what do you think i should do so dt when i give my husband good advice, he'll take it. I understand most men don't listen to their wives and sometimes they wished they did. I want my sweetheart to listen to me sometimes when he is in a fix or when he's making plans. What will i do to make him listen?

Oi, not all advices are meant to he heeded and not all counsel are meant to be taken.

As a wife, your duty is to counsel him as womanly as possible. Its his choice and his only to decide.

I think you should listen to him ,by doing that you would be sowing a seed that you will reap. If you listen and obey him , with time ,he would know that you listen to him and would also want to return the favour ,further more when the things/ advice you are giving are sound and good and works ,why will he not seek your councel tomorrow and you must make sure you do not seek an advantage in your councels or throw a tantrum , when you advices are not taken. Or take all the glory when your advices are taken and it works.

If you read him very well now, you'll be able to tell the type of husband he'll turn out to be - maybe the type that will listen to you or not.
If, now, he insists on doing things his own way, he'll never listen to you after marriage.

Knowing your man means knowing when he is receptive to advice and another opinion.
So understand 'the right place and the right time'
Another salient point is that a man respect a woman mostly because of the woman's association. If your partner thinks that ur opinion is from the grapevine or pure generalization then it is not welcome.
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*My proposal?*

Talk with your husband in a humble way. Dont be authoriative or it must be what I say or else.... it may push him away. humility is key.

One thing you should know about men is that they never listen. Those ones who claim to listen, only pretend they are listening becos they know that's one thing that pleases a woman most.
'A man would only listen when you speak his language'. His language means anything that interests him at that moment, or what he likes naturally. It could also mean if what u say matches with his own opinion. If he is in a fix, a man will listen to you only if he respects ur opinion a lot.
Hence to make ur husband listen, speak his language-study his moods, try loving one or two hobbies or activities he likes and then make sure you gain ur husband's trust and respect as well-that he values ur opinion so much.

Its simple, u need to convince him that you are a gud decision maker, you dont do it verbally. There will be less important occassions where you will required to make decision, make gud ones, with time you wud have proved ursef.

Then a word of advice, dnt go about wanting to be heard, if ur husband realizes ur mission he will never listen to you, never. Then, dnt have the mindset of showing people you are intelligent, it doesnt work with friends neither doe it wok wit men

I noticed dt most women are d breadwinner in their family and its cos their husband's out of business...which would've been a different story had it listened to them, hence my question.
@all, thanks, i'll work on it.
@itbomb, you hold?

ATMC:
@itbomb, you hold?

Sure you don't want me to prove that here.
I got a surprise last year when a brother called me ' how far , I hear say you have been commenting on inspiredmotor thread, when are they bringing the car' .
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Don't derail your thread

Prove to him that you're worth being listened to, he will come to you always.
But if you actually have nothing better to offer. Kindly shut the f up.

@Itbomb Lol, commenting on a thread does it mean you hold?

ATMC: @Itbomb Lol, commenting on a thread does it mean you hold?

, I'm the Boss

firstly, u will need a husband that actually listens to any other voice besides his own...once u have that, the rest shouldnt be hard

mondi_cheeks: firstly, u will need a husband that actually listens to any other voice besides his own...once u have that, the rest shouldnt be hard

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mondi_cheeks: firstly, u will need a husband that actually listens to any other voice besides his own...once u have that, the rest shouldnt be hard

most listen to other voices such as their mom, colleague and friends except their wife.

If you are a wise woman he will definitely listen to u.Maybe not the first time but subsequent times he will.

ATMC: most listen to other voices such as their mom, colleague and friends except their wife.

then dont go for the ones who are like that...remember u said most not all

mondi_cheeks: then dont go for the ones who are like that...remember u said most not all

i definitely wont by his grace. Many thanks

mondi_cheeks: then dont go for the ones who are like that...remember u said most not all

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Mynd_44:
Best advice on this thread

thank u

As long as you don't try to be my mother, we are fine. Say it once and forget about it. 99% of time, I will do what you have said if it is sound. Don't get bothered if he does accept immediately. Inugo sweetie

*smiles* anugom, tx

ATMC: *smiles* anugom, tx

Ezigbo nwa

^Lol

ATMC: ^Lol

Did you really laugh out loud? you folks would wonder what it is

AmBeautiful: One thing you should know about men is that they never listen. Those ones who claim to listen, only pretend they are listening becos they know that's one thing that pleases a woman most.
'A man would only listen when you speak his language'. His language means anything that interests him at that moment, or what he likes naturally. It could also mean if what u say matches with his own opinion. If he is in a fix, a man will listen to you only if he respects ur opinion a lot.
Hence to make ur husband listen, speak his language-study his moods, try loving one or two hobbies or activities he likes and then make sure you gain ur husband's trust and respect as well-that he values ur opinion so much.

you are real! By his language, you mean?btw tx

sunny t: Its simple, u need to convince him that you are a gud decision maker, you dont do it verbally. There will be less important occassions where you will required to make decision, make gud ones, with time you wud have proved ursef.

Then a word of advice, dnt go about wanting to be heard, if ur husband realizes ur mission he will never listen to you, never. Then, dnt have the mindset of showing people you are intelligent, it doesnt work with friends neither doe it wok wit men

thank you. I'll try

agabaI23: Did you really laugh out loud? you folks would wonder what it is

yeah...i giggled actually...is there any acronym for giggling?

ATMC: yeah...i giggled actually...is there any acronym for giggling?

gol
don't quote me

1. Take out your ATM card
2. Visit 'baba'
3. Ensure you collect the padlock and key

Flashaldrin: Prove to him that you're worth being listened to, he will come to you always.
But if you actually have nothing better to offer. Kindly shut the f up.

this is on point.