kcjazz: What context? If you live in a mansion, it might not be too bad but one room, two rooms etc.
Context 2 How is your relationship with your inlaws? Good, Bad, Fair, Enemies
Context 3 Reason? Are they sick? Some old folks come to Lagos for treatment at special hospitals?

PROS

If your inlaws are not lazy, they help with kids, you can go on dates without kids.
If you are super olodo they can help with kids homework
If you can't cook, good food for everyone and time to learn if the inlaws are good sha
Building a legacy and a relationship with family it could come in handy in future


CONS
Added cost of living
Depending on the relationship it could be a nightmare
You cant argue with your husband/wife unrestrained. That could be a good or a very bad thing
No privacy. Our society loves secrets due to evil folks, instance if you are building a house in Lagos or planning investment. Your info is out there.
No privacy. Woman can't dress seductively at home
No privacy. Can't walk around naked anymore if you are into that (assuming you have no kids)
Child Sexual predators can be a grandpa, uncle, cousin etc, extra security needed

Beaf!:


God bless you with the line 3.
Trust me ALL these MIL haters are very oblivious of that FACT. Their potential DILs will definitely hold the same view about them.

kcjazz: What context? If you live in a mansion, it might not be too bad but one room, two rooms etc.
Context 2 How is your relationship with your inlaws? Good, Bad, Fair, Enemies
Context 3 Reason? Are they sick? Some old folks come to Lagos for treatment at special hospitals?

PROS

If your inlaws are not lazy, they help with kids, you can go on dates without kids.
If you are super olodo they can help with kids homework
If you can't cook, good food for everyone and time to learn if the inlaws are good sha
Building a legacy and a relationship with family it could come in handy in future


CONS
Added cost of living
Depending on the relationship it could be a nightmare
You cant argue with your husband/wife unrestrained. That could be a good or a very bad thing
No privacy. Our society loves secrets due to evil folks, instance if you are building a house in Lagos or planning investment. Your info is out there.
No privacy. Woman can't dress seductively at home
No privacy. Can't walk around naked anymore if you are into that (assuming you have no kids)
Child Sexual predators can be a grandpa, uncle, cousin etc, extra security needed

kcjazz: What context? If you live in a mansion, it might not be too bad but one room, two rooms etc.
Context 2 How is your relationship with your inlaws? Good, Bad, Fair, Enemies
Context 3 Reason? Are they sick? Some old folks come to Lagos for treatment at special hospitals?

PROS

If your inlaws are not lazy, they help with kids, you can go on dates without kids.
If you are super olodo they can help with kids homework
If you can't cook, good food for everyone and time to learn if the inlaws are good sha
Building a legacy and a relationship with family it could come in handy in future


CONS
Added cost of living
Depending on the relationship it could be a nightmare
You cant argue with your husband/wife unrestrained. That could be a good or a very bad thing
No privacy. Our society loves secrets due to evil folks, instance if you are building a house in Lagos or planning investment. Your info is out there.
No privacy. Woman can't dress seductively at home
No privacy. Can't walk around naked anymore if you are into that (assuming you have no kids)
Child Sexual predators can be a grandpa, uncle, cousin etc, extra security needed

rokiatu:

It ain't the matter of not been able to have your own place.

What if your Husband is out of town for a while and you are pregnant, and this is your first pregnancy and he don't want you to live alone while hes gone he suggest you live with his mom till he return what will you do?

Vikin:
Go stay with your inlaws. At least someone will be nearby during emergency.

Cook for you.
Sometimes do your laundry
Always checking on you because you are carrying their grand child.
Teach you the culture or language
Teach you some cuisine your husband loves while he was growing up
Give you his child hood experience....


For cons,

You might not be able to eat the food you want at a particular time.
Minimum space.

That's all I can think of now.

Above all, respect your self and always remember you are the guest.

Wislet: WHO is the guest??
"And a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."
That means a man will cut the umbilical cord, be independent, a full grown man old enough to have a family of his own- and he shall build a new life and home with HIS WIFE.
The woman he marries is his partner in his new world. She is a joint custodian. The two owners (bosses) of that establishment are the man and his wife ALONE. No father, no mother, no siblings can ever claim to have a right/stake in their affairs. You only do IF you're invited. It's HER HUSBAND's home, not your father's.
So, Mr Man, to correct what you wrote up there, the GUEST(s) in this case is(are) any other individual(s) aside from the man or his wife.
Vous vous comprenez?
A wife is a boss in her husband's house- don't get it twisted. She can admit you/show you the exit. So never call her a 'guest' in her home, else you might find out it's a mistake too late- when you've been kicked to the curb.

pharuk: All CONS, no PROS

Stay away from my house and come only when you are invited.
Thats the only guarantee we will see our grandkids

rokiatu:

It ain't the matter of not been able to have your own place.

What if your Husband is out of town for a while and you are pregnant, and this is your first pregnancy and he don't want you to live alone while hes gone he suggest you live with his mom till he return what will you do?

fm7070: OP.
Don't even dare it, don't even try living with your own parent after getting married.
You won't like yourself at the end of the day.
living in a room with your family is better than living in a duplex with family members.

SmashingM: Reading thro this post, I don't know what decision τ̅☺ make. I'm gettng married soon n right now my intEnded is staying in a flat of his own while his parents/siblings r stayng in their flat (bt same cmpound). My intEnded wants us τ̅☺ gEt married n stay in hs family cmpound n usE d money he wld v used τ̅☺ pay rEnt n build hs own housE.

I sEriously want us τ̅☺ have our own house but would I b able τ̅☺ bear whatevEr is thrown at mE quietly?
His parEnts n siblings r ds conventional typ - no trousers, no long or outstandng weavon, anklE lEngth skirt etc. My intended knows hw I drEss (dcEntly bt sexy) n doEsn't mind bt hw long can he hold out wt hs family watchng?

I just hope I know what I'm walking into

amacastel: . U ar vry hrtless and wicked may u neva be a Mil or Fil since wot u want is 2 take their child away n dy wil nw be a stranger 2 their own property cos of a u .I pity d man dt marries u or d woman u marry cos she/he has big. people can be so wicked (pls if u love ur husband n u can tolerate him y can u tolerate his people even mother n child ,siblings quarrel so I don't see y u can't tolerate ur husband's sibling)ur inlaws devil abi n ur people angel shey may God change our dirty mind 2 gud

Vikin:

I don't know if you read my post very well.

1.The man is traveling and requested her to be with the MIL in his mothers house and not in his own house.
2. You really should learn how to address someone.
3. You advise her to stay alone on her first pregnancy just because she and the man is one, even when the husband is traveling?

Je comprend très bien mais avant de parler. Il faut que tu comprend très bien les discussion.

Now go back, re read the post and write something reasonable.

dasparrow: @Post

If it is for a few days, then okay. If it is for months on end, I say good luck. Nigerian in-laws are no joke. Many of them have a tendency to treat their daughter-in-laws like crap.



Stop all this unnecessary preaching and learn to write proper English first. Do you know what the person might have gone through in the hands of their in-laws to make him or her reach this harsh conclusion? Many Nigerian families are hell and Nigerians generally do not know how to mind their darn business and love acting like they know it all. Why do you think our people are generally disliked in every country they step foot in?

Personally, I am not a huge fan of all this in-law brouhaha. There are people in my own biological family that I can barely tolerate. What makes you think I want to tolerate heifers from another person's family all because I got married?


May God deliver u and forgive u english teacher listen to your self tolerate
"All because you are married" from all indication you are a very wicked person that's why u are not accepted every where you go and ucan't tolerate your family members 1day somebody will take away your child away from u without remorse and you will be a stranger to your own child please don't ever complain since is a good step

Wislet: 1. I know how to address people.
2. You should state your point more clearly next time, and not type something else when you mean another.
3. I never advised that she stay alone on her first pregnancy, I addressed only ONE THING- YOUR calling a WIFE a GUEST in her own house.
So, get it right next time.