I find it difficult to beat kids,so house,what the best way of correction,isolation or spanking/flogging.

A kind gentle talk educating the child on why the deed was wrong and shouldn't be repeated would do.

However children can be naughty for no reason and then they need spanking just to get them back into their senses. I personally can't spank or beat a child except it's absolutely necessary.

Well i dont beat my son so i talk a lot a real lot of talking and he gets it eventually. When i get frustrated and he has his tantrums i walk away calm down and then come back again.

i teach and i face challenges regarding correction of children and i hardly talk.

I have two daughters and the last is a toddler. Spare the rod and spoil the child makes a lotta sense to me now. So any time the older one misbehaves I simply remind her that I have a cane as tall as she is. She go just maintain her champion fiam. By the way I am interested in fashion designing can we talk?

It depends on the child. My first son does not respond to beating at all. In fact, he will turn it into a game. Isolation was just a waste of time cos he wont stay at all. But i realised that he responded well to deprivation/prizes as in carrot and stick method.

If i want him to finish his food, i will tell him that he can play with Barney when he is done and he will just start rushing the food. If he is playing roughly wilth his toys, i tell him that i will take them away if he continues like that. If he does continue, i take them away for the rest of the day. No amount of crying will make me change my mind. And he is just turning 2.

That has been my experience so far.

i spank my toddler n also talk to her. Its not easy talking to her mostyms cos she doesnt really understand dat much. But when i scream n shout at her, she wil adjust hersef.

i think i will go for the carrot and stick method or better talking,thanks peepz your advice is tremendious.thanks

cocospice: i spank my toddler n also talk to her. Its not easy talking to her mostyms cos she doesnt really understand dat much. But when i scream n shout at her, she wil adjust hersef.

Of course she does, because she get SCARED.

What someone called the carrot-method is actually very good. If you act good; you get good things. If you act bad, the good things get taken away.

A smack on the hand when a kid is thiefing things from the table after being told many times not to, I can support.
But beating, spanking, screaming and shouting? Nah.

10 is a crowd

BLACK PARENTS VS WHITE PARENT, WHO TREAT THEIR KIDS BETTER??
White parent : *Knock knock* "May I come in?"
Black parent : *Boom boom* "Open up this damn door! You don't pay no bills to be locking sh*t."
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White parent: "you embarrassed me 4 fighting in school"..
black parent: who won? You better have whooped their A'ss"
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WHITE kid crying, parent ;'awww stop crying jack,that's a good lad'.
BLACK kid crying, parent ;'KEEP CRYING AND ILL GIVE YOU A REASON TO CRY!'
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Black Parent : *Yells your name.* You: What?*Silence.* Whaaaaat? *More silence...* WHAAAAAAT DO YOU WANT?? Black Parent : WHO YOU YELLING AT?

Flog am silly!

Biblical values.

I will tell your daddy when he comes back. That stuff can scare kids especially when the dad is a mighty koboko warrior

Its SIMPLE..just hav a grinded bottled pepper ready,nd make sure they are aware of it...N/B..'dont kip out of the reach of children'...

Spare the rod and spoil the child

blank: But i realised that he responded well to deprivation/prizes as in carrot and stick method.

A thousand gbosa!!

I go rush them with better smack down .

On a more serious note though, I don't know how I'll deal with mine when I have them but so far with my cousin's kids etc,

I just isolate the one that effs up and it does work, I don't even know where to hit kids, they just seem so fragile but if na teenager eh, I go wooze am better slap(s).

Its good to nurture effective a healthy communication culture between and your kids right from when they are still toddlers,I don't beat my daughter but listens to me more than her mum who hit her at any given opportunity.
I talk to her and she knows when serious or joking,if ask her to sit on a particular spot till I return that's where she will sit even her mother try to take her away from there.

Use Kung-fu or Broken Bottle to gain respect and obedience... Hope this helps, cheers!
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yuzedo: Use Kung-fu or Broken Bottle to gain respect and obedience... Hope this helps, cheers!
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lmao. lolzzzzz. Guy, abi i dey pepper

•MEKKY-bob•:
Its SIMPLE..just hav a grinded bottled pepper ready,nd make sure they are aware of it...N/B..'dont kip out of the reach of children'...

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Its varies with the different types of kids, some need threats, some needs a gentle talk or advice, some need public disgrace to stop it, some need whip.. so first, study the child and know what scares him/her and this has to be done in his/her early stage of life (5-7 years) after this age, u will need to work harder to be able to correct them, for me.. after warning that child on same thing for 3 times, if it happens again, use ur whip..

Austin G: Its varies with the different types of kids, some need threats, some needs a gentle talk or advice, some need public disgrace to stop it, some need whip.. so first, study the child and know what scares him/her and this has to be done in his/her early stage of life (5-7 years) after this age, u will need to work harder to be able to correct them, for me.. after warning that child on same thing for 3 times, if it happens again, use ur whip..

Lol! Nice one. But, I couldn't help laughing at your comment.

Isolation works for me like magic.........."go and sleep in your room".......he/she will go, spend like 15-20 minutes there and come back on their own, well behaved.
However, if its a serious offence....."egba tinrin" comes into d matter, after which explaination why he/she was spanked is done to them, and why they shouldnt do such again, helps alot.
May God help us all.

all4naija: I think it is through education. Educating them on the advantages of doing something right and the disadvantages of doing something wrong.

Doesn't really work well(for some parents and kids)....The best answer to that question is LOVE. When you love the child, you know what is good for him/her and what is not.
You know when to use the whip and how to use it for both his safety and your conscience(ie, maybe you've corrected him on that particular thing on three occaions, then you use the whip, but you can as well forgive him too and caution that the whip is available if he misbehaves again. Rather than whipping or spanking him on the first occasion). Forgive me, I can't remember the exact verse in the Bible that says, "children are naturally silly, but a good spanking and love will bring them upright".

You understand his feelings and reasons why he did what he did. For example, during my secondary school days, a pastor came to my school and while preaching, talked about how he's son was caught with money. If you know him. HE is a known pastor and the whole school was surprised why the boy stole when the dad could afford what he needed the money for; lesson fees. Now when the dad(pastor) asked his son why he stole the money, the boy soberly reminded his dad that he has been asking for the money for over 2weeks, and the dad being a busy man, was always on the slogan(remind me tomorrow dear, I'm very tired now),this went on for about 2weeks and then punishment in school began, so the boy stole the money because he was scared of being flogged in school or driven away from classes for failing to pay his lesson fees. Now he did the wrong thing for the right reasons.
If it were some dad, they'll pounce on the innocent child immediately without knowing the reasons for his actions. Nigerian dads are good at that; I mean no criticism please.(Junior is this what i taught u, to steal? now come here, and they start flogging the child like a thief). I just think the whole thing relies on love to correct your child. Some children might be the mischievious type and you'll think there is no amount of love that can correct him. No, try love, plus the stick-carrot method and see the wonders.

e-gbow will calm any unruly child down.

Puff puf pass to junior.

Tested and tried method

cocospice: i spank my toddler n also talk to her. Its not easy talking to her mostyms cos she doesnt really understand dat much. But when i scream n shout at her, she wil adjust hersef.

But that shouting of a thing has its side effects...either ways shout small and beat small.

As for me,my two little twins are giving me alot of headaece with their restless playing ,could you imagine they hadly allowed me to watch tv or do anything I want do...I mean I dont have my own time again lol

But thats just the fun ot it

jackbauersballs: e-gbow will calm any unruly child down.

Puff puf pass to junior.

Tested and tried method

LWKMD