gluv01:

Doesn't really work well(for some parents and kids)....The best answer to that question is LOVE. When you love the child, you know what is good for him/her and what is not.
You know when to use the whip and how to use it for both his safety and your conscience(ie, maybe you've corrected him on that particular thing on three occaions, then you use the whip, but you can as well forgive him too and caution that the whip is available if he misbehaves again).

You understand his feelings and reasons why he did what he did. For example, during my secondary school days, a pastor came to my school and while preaching, talked about how he's son was caught with money. If you know him. HE is a known pastor and the whole school was surprised why the boy stole when the dad could afford what he needed the money for; lesson fees. Now when the dad(pastor) asked his son why he stole the money, the boy soberly reminded his dad that he has been asking for the money for over 2weeks, and the dad being a busy man, was always on the slogan(remind me tomorrow dear, I'm very tired now),this went on for about 2weeks and then punishment in school began, so the boy stole the money because he was scared of being flogged in school or driven away from classes for failing to pay his lesson fees. Now he did the wrong thing for the right reasons.
If it were some dad, they'll pounce on the innocent child immediately without knowing the reasons for his actions. Nigerian dads are good at that; I mean no criticism please.(Junior is this what i taught u, to steal? now come here, and they start flogging the child like a thief). I just think the whole thing relies on love to correct your child. Some children might be the mischievious type and you'll think there is no amount of love that can correct him. No, try love, plus the stick-carrot method and see the wonders.

greatgod2012: Isolation works for me like magic.........."go and sleep in your room".......he/she will go, spend like 15-20 minutes there and come back on their own, well behaved.
However, if its a serious offence....."egba tinrin" comes into d matter, after which explaination why he/she was spanked is done to them, and why they shouldnt do such again, helps alot.
May God help us all.

all4naija: I totally disagree. Educating you child is done out of love in the first case. Beating a child will end the him in having bad idea about life generally and the family in particular. I don't how much impact this can have on a society but I think Nigerian society is a reflection on how the kids were raised and treated.

There is no way beating a child can be of better solution when other ways are available to help the child understand what he is doing is wrong. We have read many comments of parent who beat their kids end up them repeating the same thing. Beating will only strengthen the child in committing crimes and adapting to a hostile life.

gluv01:

I understand what you mean, but if you read my comment again, I said depends on how many times the child has done that. And even if you are to whip that child, it should be for a very good reason. And it also depends on the society too as you said.
And i think the education stuff is part of the love too. Yea...

africanrapper: When I become a Husband and Father, I will use the 'stick' approach ONLY when it becomes absolutely necessary. My whole body is full of scars of strokes my father gave me (using a stretched Iron cloth hanger) several years ago.

Even till today, I can never wear only singlets - even when I'm with my male friends. If I do, you'll start hearing questions like: "Uche, what's reason for these scars?" , "Uche, were you a cultist in School"?.

I can't stand the sight of seeing such scars on my beloved children - let alone remembering that I gave them those marks. God forbid.

When I must discipline my children, I will use the Isolation method or the Carrot method (as described by someone here).

#africanrapper

all4naija: First and foremost, I apologize for my bad typos. There is no one way of educating a child but not through beating. Don't you ever beat a child for doing wrong. A correction by explanations and giving the child reason why not to do such a thing again will be of great help to better adulthood. Even when he does it again and again, in education there is always the sense of guiltiness that can push him to learn. This will give him the ability to reason and apologize. In the case of beating , the child may repeat the wrong and look for means to hide it from the parents thereby committing another crime of lying complicating the issue the more.

Children are humans and are bound to repeat wrong. That should not be viewed as a weakness on their side that deserves a beating. The psychological impact of beating a child can be devastating to the social life of a kid without the parents knowing it.Another thing, children learn very fast. So, don't let them learn how to beat people.

JallowBah:

Wow..I am sorry. That is terrible.

A good friend of me told me her uncle used to beat her bad ( her father travelled much with his work ), and that the only thing that led to, was for her to act even more rude. She knew she would be beaten no matter if she listened or not, so she could might as well not listen..

I have a 2 year old in the house, and most of the time; she listens. When I tell her to leave something, and she do not listen after the second time, I always tell her "I`m gonna count to three now." Before I reach three, she normally listen, and if I do reach three, I put her on a chair, and go down to her and tell her why I put her there. When she stops her "crying", I ask if she is finished, and repeat why she was put there.
She then tells me she understands, she say she is sorry and give me a hug, and goes to play.

I rarely have to do it more than 2-4 times regarding the same things before she learns.

Brand_new: A kind gentle talk educating the child on why the deed was wrong and shouldn't be repeated would do.

However children can be naughty for no reason and then they need spanking just to get them back into their senses. I personally can't spank or beat a child except it's absolutely necessary.

all4naija: Hello, JallowBah. How are you? That is what I call child education and it often works.

yuzedo:
Na Obatala go punish your ugly IBO head for posting your hideous picture where dem no send you! Odika you are suffering from Anumpama Syndrome?! Onuku!

MOD, please ban this ugly boy for posting this his house-boy picture on this thread! See his osaka jeans and china shirt sef! "Gil-Kiddy" LMAOOOOOO!!!! Dis one just land from villa! ur oga no lock him laptop today abi? You come dey "brazz" intanet..

feyiona: The best way is to talk to warn the child and if he continues smack him. By the time you have done this like twice or three times only the threat of a smacking will set him on the straight and narrow. We are beginning to take on take on the cultures of the White guys of not spanking. Look at what their children are turning to.
The major thing is don't smack any child in anger then you will overdo it

JallowBah:

Im good, and you?

Like someone said: kids are small human being, and deserve to be treated as such. They need to learn, and if they learn that you can beat them, they will beat others, and then what are you gonna do, beat them for beating..?

Austin G: Its varies with the different types of kids, some need threats, some needs a gentle talk or advice, some need public disgrace to stop it, some need whip.. so first, study the child and know what scares him/her and this has to be done in his/her early stage of life (5-7 years) after this age, u will need to work harder to be able to correct them, for me.. after warning that child on same thing for 3 times, if it happens again, use ur whip..

Sagamite:

So brilliantly said.

Funky-wannabees never get this.

JallowBah:

The problem for me here is that what one person consider whipping, I might consider beating.

A smack on the backside, just ONE, is for me ok, if the kid got some warnings already.
To lay the child over your knee and spank, on the other hand, not ok.

JallowBah:

The problem for me here is that what one person consider whipping, I might consider beating.

A smack on the backside, just ONE, is for me ok, if the kid got some warnings already.
To lay the child over your knee and spank, on the other hand, not ok.

ba7man: Children are constantly testing their boundaries so a parent has to be sensitive to know when they do this. They try somthing naughty and check your reaction, if you fail to react appropriately, they step up their boundary. Be very quick to spot these moments and nip it in the bud with a sharp reproach before it gets out of hand. Children also have things that make their lives worthwhile eg Video games, toys, new clothes, Choclate etc you normally treat them to. Withdraw these treats when they misbehave and let them realize it was their naughty behaviour that was responsible. If all that don't work, A "HARD RESET" will do.....check below for illustration.....

gluv01:

OMG You are mean

ba7man: Children are constantly testing their boundaries so a parent has to be sensitive to know when they do this. They try somthing naughty and check your reaction, if you fail to react appropriately, they step up their boundary. Be very quick to spot these moments and nip it in the bud with a sharp reproach before it gets out of hand. Children also have things that make their lives worthwhile eg Video games, toys, new clothes, Choclate etc you normally treat them to. Withdraw these treats when they misbehave and let them realize it was their naughty behaviour that was responsible. If all that don't work, A "HARD RESET" will do.....check below for illustration.....

mysticgal: I find it difficult to beat kids,so house,what the best way of correction,isolation or spanking/flogging.

mysticgal: I find it difficult to beat kids,so house,what the best way of correction,isolation or spanking/flogging.

jennykadry: Lmao Sagamilo . I knew your stance even before I clicked on the thread

Sagamite:

So fcking well said.

You are not funky. You are unlikely to end up with a child like this:

https://www.nairaland.com/984548/flogging-children-school-home-good/4#14263537

Let those that want to be funky, be funky!