Bludeville: in a moment of carelessness, indispline, temptation, and even misguided confidence

C. whyte:
Well as the saying goes, if you love me you won't cheat on me.

If you truly love someone you wouldn't want to hurt him/her and cheating definitely hurts.

k2039: You cheat discreetely if you don't want to hurt you spouse, she doesn't have to know.

k2039: You cheat discreetely if you don't want to hurt you spouse, she doesn't have to know.

k2039: Love is not enough, discipline plays a big part in fidelity.

No matter how much a man loves his wife, if he lacks discipline when it comes to the opposite sex, he will always cheat.

sexkillz: I can tell your age from this comment. "you cheat discreetly" kmt.

binger: Love is not enough. I mean realistically speaking,we are humans & loving someone does not guarantee u won't hurt the person.
Self-control and self-discipline are imperative in this case.

Mynd_44:
How can you claim to love if you don't have discipline? Is that not supposed to be included in love? Love is the total package not some buzzing at the back of your head as if you are high off sugar you know.

binger: Love is not enough. I mean realistically speaking,we are humans & loving someone does not guarantee u won't hurt the person.
Self-control and self-discipline are imperative in this case.

Mynd_44:
Seriously? So you can actually tell someone you love her and still sleep with another person?

I must have missed the memo where they defined love according to your dictionary

binger: @bold,how can a conscious effort(discipline) be interwined with an unintentional feeling(love)?? That is far from reality.
You can fall in love and have no discipline or self-control. Loving someone wouldn't make u thoughts and wants tied solely to him/her. We are humans and at a point,we tend to sway.
It is the discipline we've cultivated in ourselves that keeps us from messing up.

sexkillz: Love brings self control and self discipline by default.

You can't love someone and cheat on them. Its not possible. It's like trying to mix oil and water.

binger: My answer to this lies above.

binger: @bold,how can a conscious effort(discipline) be interwined with an unintentional feeling(love)?? That is far from reality.
You can fall in love and have no discipline or self-control. Loving someone wouldn't make u thoughts and wants tied solely to him/her. We are humans and at a point,we tend to sway.
It is the discipline we've cultivated in ourselves that keeps us from messing up.

Mynd_44: I find it shocking to read that people actually say you can be in love without being disciplined.

Mynd_44:


Hope this answers your misconceptions Binger?

k2039: Discipline has everything to do with a center core value and not love at all.
You can love and still cheat, otherwise it's safe to assume most people don't love their wives based on statistics and vice versa.

If you aren't discipline as a man when it comes to the opposite sex, no matter how much you profess to love your wife you will cheat.

Most people love God and yet they sin.

sexkillz: Loving is unintentional?

No wonder relationships are on a downward spiral. People don't know what love is.

So you love her and your love means you are not committed to her solely?

What discipline do you keep yapping about? How can you even fall in love without being disciplined in the first place? Now you fall in love, a disciplined man, what makes you wanna remain disciplined and faithful to that one woman you chose over all the others, if not for the love you have for her?

Wow Wow Wow.

binger: Nope! And actually,they aint misconceptions. The so called ''self-control by default'' is completely transient and felt when the r/ship is all new and fresh.
With time,u must tend to look sideways,temptation will come,u will have negative thoughts...it is only an imbibed self-discipline & love that'll keep u frm derailing.
Love alone can't do it because we are humans and emotions can vary when the going gets tough.

sexkillz: Loving is unintentional?

No wonder relationships are on a downward spiral. People don't know what love is.

So you love her and your love means you are not committed to her solely?

What discipline do you keep yapping about? How can you even fall in love without being disciplined in the first place? Now you fall in love, a disciplined man, what makes you wanna remain disciplined and faithful to that one woman you chose over all the others, if not for the love you have for her?

Wow Wow Wow.

Popowaa: Love puts u in check,love makes u think about de feelings of de other person,hw can u say u luv sm1 and hurt de person by cheating on him/her.when u love sm1 u dont want to see him/her hurt so if u really love de person deep down den u ve no excuse to cheat.

sexkillz: I think people should just stop using the word love.

It's dismal reading things like this.

You love a woman, you cheat on her, your cheating on her hurts her and makes her cry, she feels worthless cos she can't understand what you found in the other woman that she doesn't have, then you turn around and tell her "baby, don't cry. I love you. Cheating is normal, cos I'm human"

Yeah farking right!

k2039: It's safe to conclude that love doesn't exist.

People get hurt in relationships(not necessarily infidelity). Sp are you saying when one party gets hurt, he/she is not loved by her/his partner.

Mynd_44:
Oh please brother stop justifying the fact that it is not love

binger: Get my drift man. Falling in love is unintentional. That is why the word 'falling' is used. U don't plan to fall into a ditch. Same way,u don't plan to fall in love with a particular person.