991: next time, as she lifts her palms to slap you, hold her hand, look directly into her eyes and say, 'Don't You Dare!!' believe me fear go catch her.

FXKing2012:

Everything is within our power, it boils down to our will and belief.

Anyways, try to always act very mature and she'll see that her baby is a big girl who deserves more respect.

P.S: You sound like a very good girl and I'm impressed.

FXKing2012: Are you the only one she slaps or is that how she slaps people around her? We need to know if she's possessed with the spirit or just trying to show you who's boss. You are a big girl and I see no reason why you should be slapped around even by your mum.

At 23yrs, many of your mates are married and some even with kids. I think you need a boyfriend and/or a job for the slapping to stop. You need to depend less on her for her to respect you more.
On a second thought, maybe she slaps you just because you are a stubborn diva who wears skimpy clothes.

StateOfMind:

Was about to type this before I read your reply. Since mum has refused to listen, stand up to her! Hold her hand..stop her midway (well, that's assuming you see the slap coming).

I don't even buy the idea of slapping someone, I have never slapped someone and I can't remember the last time I got slapped. Its not a healthy form of correction at all.

Btw, your opening post is funny Op..lol

staicey:

Try being fierce? Uhmm.. I can remember the last time i tried shouting at her angrily, all she did was just go into her room and locked the door. She refused talking to me for days, all she would do then was just serve food, take hers and leave me to notice that food was ready. I wasnt enjoying the lifestyle one bit. How can i be living with my own mum and not talking to her in the same house? Its sad

byvan: U ve got to carryout your threat the next time she slaps you or it ll never stop.You are an adult and she has no right to be hitting you at this age.I am a mother and I can't picture myself hitting my kids when they are adults.You have to really scare her or else she might slap you even when you are someone's wife.As for the bf advice given to you by some guys here,scratch that.

Don't let anyone talk you into keeping a bf to boost your income,its a st**pid idea.The issue of having a bf or not is yours to decide and no one else.

byvan:
Don't let anyone talk you into keeping a bf to boost your income,its a st**pid idea.The issue of having a bf or not is yours to decide and no one else.

ooman: she slaps you because you are cute and pretty, probably jealous of you. Dont worry, it will all be over soon.

FXKing2012:
Why is having a boyfriend always related or linked to hav.ing s-e-x? That thinking is really myopic.

FXKing2012:
Why is having a boyfriend always related or linked to hav.ing s-e-x? That thinking is really myopic.

staicey:

Hmm

I guess am still too naive for this

staicey:

...and prolly because i love God too

well, thanks. But i took after her and she's prettier, trust me.

greatgod2012: @ op im a mother, and i cant think of d last time i slapped my kids, not to talk of an adult, i guess your mum is naturally aggresive, what i will advise you is that, when you are both in good mood, walk up to her and tell her you have something that is really bothering you, and since you claim she loves you, she will want to give you attention, go to her, kneel down and tell her your mind, that you dont like d way she slaps or shout on you, let her know what you will likely do if such repeat itself, say whatever you want to say with all humility as well as with all seriousness, remind her that some of your mates are already mothers, and you dont believe somebody of your age should always be slapped like that.
Ask her if shes transfering d anger she has towards your dad to you, ask her if she will be happy if her own mother treat her like that at that age, ask her so many thought provoking questions, that she will know that she has actually gone beyond normal, let her know this is not d best way to correct you, even, if you err.
And one more thing, make sure you always behave well.
I wish you all d best.

Sisi_Kill: Tis hard for me, an outsider, to picture someone whose mommy "still takes out and buys stuff" as an adult.

I bet it's 100 times more unpicturable for the mommy who does the taking out and stuff buying....can't blame her then for thinking the old tried and true albeit uncalled for method of disciplining a kid is appropriate in this case

FXKing2012:
Why is having a boyfriend always related or linked to hav.ing s-e-x? That thinking is really myopic.

991:
next time, as she lifts her palms to slap you, hold her hand, look directly into her eyes and say, 'Don't You Dare!!' believe me fear go catch her.

staicey: I no longer find this funny whenever it happens.

Hello? I just clocked 23 some weeks back and only for mum to slap me 2days back because i didnt make her coffee hot enough to her satisfaction. Wtf?
My mum loves slapping me around and this annoys me. Not that she doesnt love me because she still buys me stuffs and takes me out and for the fact that am the only issue, well...you know the rest but this case of slappings, i dont like. I've told her several times and after moments of apologies tendered from her, she's doing it the next minute


please, y'all whether singles or married, tell me if this sh-it is normal because am already loosing a hold of myself. I dont like this one bit

I might just move in with my dad or sue her!!

greatgod2012: @ op im a mother, and i cant think of d last time i slapped my kids, not to talk of an adult, i guess your mum is naturally aggresive, what i will advise you is that, when you are both in good mood, walk up to her and tell her you have something that is really bothering you, and since you claim she loves you, she will want to give you attention, go to her, kneel down and tell her your mind, that you dont like d way she slaps or shout on you, let her know what you will likely do if such repeat itself, say whatever you want to say with all humility as well as with all seriousness, remind her that some of your mates are already mothers, and you dont believe somebody of your age should always be slapped like that.
Ask her if shes transfering d anger she has towards your dad to you, ask her if she will be happy if her own mother treat her like that at that age, ask her so many thought provoking questions, that she will know that she has actually gone beyond normal, let her know this is not d best way to correct you, even, if you err.
And one more thing, make sure you always behave well.
I wish you all d best.

ooman:

oh, believe me, younger generations are way prettier than old, that is one reason to be jealous.

Concerning you loving God, you are just wasting your time.

Sisi_Kill: Tis hard for me, an outsider, to picture someone whose mommy "still takes out and buys stuff" as an adult.

I bet it's 100 times more unpicturable for the mommy who does the taking out and stuff buying....can't blame her then for thinking the old tried and true albeit uncalled for method of disciplining a kid is appropriate in this case

FXKing2012:
Exactly why I advised her to try and depend on her less. If I'm picking all the bills then dont blame me if I treat you like a kid.

ihedioramma: ask ur mum to goback to ur father, that is what will make u happy if ur father has not marryd other woman. i think that will make ur mum more happy with and will not make u angry any more .about what u ask me yes i am.

all-out:


A colleague of mine actually came crying to the office one morning that her 15 yr old son did this to her, she was simply perplexed! Guys with grown-up son started advicing her on how best to curb the boy.

@ OP: Nor go try am with ya mama ooooh! Make slap nor go graduate to blows!

First up your game, start serving her scalding hot cofee and avoid doing anything that'd warrant slap, don't wait to be told to do the right thing!

Start depending less on her, it might mean doing away with additional perks she gets you!

staicey:
depend less.. depend less.. How??
I've got no option. I school, i earn peanuts on my small job. Its not even like i depend much on her. I hardly even ask her for things. She just buys them for me. So if she does, i should reject them simply because i wanna be a big girl? You are also forgetting the fact that am her only child, so buying stuffs is endless..

drnoel:

u got slapped at 23 yrs and u are complaining. I just spoke to someone whose mother slapped her yesterday at 28 yrs. Its must be something nigerian...

staicey:

Funny enough, mum never grew up in naija. I even spent most of my years in naija than she did. Unless you are saying its something in their genes which i dont wanna believe

staicey:

Hes living with another woman. I think they're married but he keeps telling me they are not.

As for my mum, she doesnt wanna. Its not a "today's case" (15 years case)