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Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by clintwine(m): 10:39am On Apr 09, 2013 |
zeefa: ************************************************************************ She has no right over you, except the ones you give to her. Once you show that you are indifferent to the red passport thing, then she will not use that against you. Stop mortgaging your destiny with a red passport. You don't need a red passport to be a success . Now you know the kind of person your wife is, you need to start thinking out of the box, cover all your bases, so that you are not left hanging in some years time. If I were you, just stick to 2 kids. You didn't need your pastor to tell you to reduce this call to 30 mins. I did tell you earlier, if her advisor is a divorcee, then you stand little chance. This marriage stands a better chance if you can distance her from the MIL, this has to be done with wisdom, cos if you try to use the forceful method, then you will draw them closer. In as much as what you ever wanted in a marriage was a friend, you could tell anything and everything, but unfortunately, yours is not the case, as you have a friend that will use information you've given her against you. Finally, irrespective of what has happened, love your wife with all your heart but think and make decisions with all your head and not heart 1 Like |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by StOla: 8:23pm On Apr 11, 2013 |
Disobey the below advice at your own peril. Your wife is from a broken home and would therefore not attach the expected importance to having a lasting union despite the odds. Again, be wise about your finances. An unexpected divorce might turn decisions made in love to decisions made by fools. clintwine: |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by soreola(f): 2:50pm On Aug 15, 2013 |
@OP, you're in a marriage, till death do you part. So sad how we don't take these vows as vital and binding anymore. Maybe we have all been passed down this view of marriage as a bed of rose, have children and live happily ever after. I don't knw were you both are at this point in terms of your marriage but 1 thing I can see clearly is just each individual being themselves. Women, in general, will always seek for love (pls note "in general) and men will, generally, seek for respect. It's all in the bible. Your wife wants to know that you love her and that she means everything to you. She should be your confidant and like someone mentioned much earlier, you should share the very same things you share with your friend with your wife. She should know more about you than your friend even though u have known each other for a longer time. Flesh of your flesh and bone of your bone, you don't do things just to get something from them. You have to show ur wife that you love her all the time. Show her love and appreciation all the time!! (Most important point hence the repetition). Your wife will also need to respect you as the head of the home and as her husband. But you can't use her submission as a leeway to use her. Serve her, love her, nurture her, listen to not just her words but her heart. When you go out to dinner, pull ur chair a little closer etc. You can keep your friendship with Dayo but ur wife must always come first. Don't talk to him about her or your private issues. You wife should be the one you pour out ur heart to. You both must be mature and take turns in pouring out ur heart to each other. You have to be vulnerable to each other or u'll just end up playing silly and useless games. You need to both make the decision to leave ur personal issues out of the conversations you have with in-laws and friends regardless of how close you are to them. This is between you too and anyone can turn their backs on you at any point in time. let her know how you feel about her and her mom but you have to equally listen to how she feels about u and ur friend. Lastly, trust me, if she really loves you then she doesnt want to divorce, she just wants you to listen to her and make a change. Get a divorce and she how devestated she would be. Love you wife and love God, commit all into His hands. God bless you and your marriage. Just my 2 kobo ... Cheers! |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by zeefa: 4:51pm On Oct 18, 2013 |
When we have issues, the whole nairaland following my story contributed. I wish to use this medium to announce the arrival of our lovely baby. Morenike just gave me a bouncing baby girl$ I will upload her picture soon. Besides, we I have a lot of updates which I will share to the house later. Thanks to you all. 3 Likes |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by dominique(f): 5:38pm On Oct 18, 2013 |
Congrats man, may God bless her and provide for her parents to take care of her. Hope everything is sorted between both of you regarding your friend? Kisses to the little princess |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by bukatyne(f): 5:49pm On Oct 18, 2013 |
Congrats God be with your daughter and family. Good to hear all issues have been resolved |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by Nobody: 9:13am On Feb 15, 2015 |
Why would she have a problem with your friend? But since your friend's family is also taking issue with your friendship, I'd say this is more of a management issue. Don't let your friendship(s) ruin your relationship, nor your relationship your friendship(s). I know it can hard, but you gotta find the balance. Edit - I see your issue is resolved. Congratz! |
Re: She Threaten 2 Divorce Me If I Dont Dissociate Myself From My Best Friend. by BekeeBuAgbara: 4:03am On Mar 07, 2015 |
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