Authors note:

During my study in psychology I made a personal research on the function of the parents in the family. This research made me discover something deeper than you would imagine. Here is a brief summary of my finding:

The mother: Her relationships with her kids are more physical; she carries them in the womb for nine months, beast feeds them, bath them, feed them etc. All these makes her your mother, and a child’s life long interaction with the mother is based on these.

This form of relationship when healthy helps build the child’s self-awareness and provides the child a healthy feeling of belonging. It helps the child set future goals at a young age and knows where she/he is heading to. This is when the child can confidently say, I want to be a doctor with determination. The mother’s relationship is more of a learning thing. The child, through this, can discern wrong from right, good and bad, dos and donts. It also helps the child discover the kind of person he/she is i.e. personality traits, desires, introvert/extrovert, external/internal locus of control etc. mother-child relationship also makes the child love his/her world and in turn it makes him/her feel loved.

The father: His relationships with the kids are psychological; he only knows they are his children based on awareness. The physical contact is minimal; therefore he shares something more internal with them. This relationship is all in the brain.

This relationship if healthy helps the child in building a high self-esteem, self-worth, healthy need to achieve and a healthy feeling of self love. The fathers-child relationship helps the child build strong desire to achieve goals set out as a result of healthy relationship with the mother. Such child tends to control his/her world and is not easily swayed by external information that is contrary to belief. He/she is not afraid of authority figures but will have respect for them. The child most times ends up being a leader. The intelligent quotient of a child with healthy father relationship tends to be much higher than his/her counterpart.

Generally a combination of both relationship helps build a friendlier child, less promiscuous child, more determined child and reasonable child.

Some facts to note:
1. Mother-child relationship makes the child love his/her world; father-child relationship elicits self love.
2. Father-child relationship is extremely important, but seriously lacking in our environment. Mother-child relationship is more common and often over rated.
3. Father-child relationship is usually more effective and much more important for the girl child (father-daughter relationship)
4. The girl child learns more by observing and listening, while the male child learns more by experience (he is a bad listener).
5. It is better to have a problematic male child than a problematic girl child. The former is more likely to change than the latter.
6. Personality traits must be taken into cognizance in child upbringing.
7. It is much better to build a relationship with your children than to see their upbringing as a training activity.
8. Nothing is a guarantee in child upbringing, humans have a way of coming up with surprises.

Please note that these are my personal finding and are therefore subject to criticism.

wow! Really nice story, keep up the good work.

Frankie.....thanx for the moral lesson...so useful....a useful tool for reshapening families

That was great Frank and I was like wow! Wow! After reading the new update. You came back with stronger than before, your gifted dear.

There is one big thing that didn't sit well with me though, the ladies monthly thingy. Would you atleast use another word? Discharge sounded too erm....you know.

HumbledbYGrace: That was great Frank and I was like wow! Wow! After reading the new update. You came back with stronger than before, your gifted dear.

There is one big thing that didn't sit well with me though, the ladies monthly thingy. Would you atleast use another word? Discharge sounded too erm....you know.

thanks, when i started writing again, i found out it was even the only way i could get my mind a lot of things. about the monthly thing... can u help me suggest another word? as a lady i mean

frank3.16:


thanks, when i started writing again, i found out it was even the only way i could get my mind a lot of things. about the monthly thing... can u help me suggest another word? as a lady i mean

m glad you have something to fall back on dear.

Please use Monthlies its kinda non offensive.

HumbledbYGrace: m glad you have something to fall back on dear.

Please use Monthlies its kinda non offensive.

thanks, i have just effected the correction.

where my guys at?

frank3.16:


thanks, i have just effected the correction.

where my guys at?

its sunday afternoon lol, they will be here don't worry

And thanks

frank3.16:


thanks, i have just effected the correction.

where my guys at?

We full ground brekete

Story is so so so so so on point. Well done

E for make sense for film sha

An0nimus:
We full ground brekete

Story is so so so so so on point. Well done

E for make sense for film sha

ya, i already have it on script but its too short... most nigerian producers like em too long. u know, the part one and part two thing

frank3.16:


ya, i already have it on script but its too short... most nigerian producers like em too long. u know, the part one and part two thing

lol now I know why Nigerian movies take 6hours. Ya'll do a lot of writing.

Oga frank....i hail o....nice story

thank u sooo much,4 d story remain bless.So Sorry abt ur Losss.d Lord is ur streght.tanx once again

Frankie, we D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ your bck. Thumbs up to U̶̲̥̅̊. Nyc one.
Luvd Your̶̲̥̅̊ update on d father-child ish...

Hey frankie, e make sense wella, and ur research are well gotten, it shows more abt the family which i need 2 put down, (future use sha) u make sense. WAT A WONDERFUL PIECE FROM A WONDERFUL, BRILLIANT WRITER

i enjoyed the story.....thank you.

thank you guys, and thank you all for thanking me.

lol @Damexx, i have been waiting for your comment, nice you know u feel this way about the story.

and too all who enjoyed the story... what can i say, you all have been great and u are all helping me cope with this unfortunate situation i found myself.

and for those who haven't read my other stories, cyber lover and tenth generation, pls do. thanks

i also intend to open a thread in the family section on the family issue i pointed out.

Dear lord, thank you for blessing me with dis write-up.

adunolaoye: Dear lord, thank you for blessing me with dis write-up.

now that was funny... thank u lol

the story is nice, short and didactic, an invaluable story for this generation.


i was following like then, lost the link and searchd the archives for it.

it was worth the read. but you did not correct those typos that were pointed out......

more ink to your pens
adios!

princesa: the story is nice, short and didactic, an invaluable story for this generation.


i was following like then, lost the link and searchd the archives for it.

it was worth the read. but you did not correct those typos that were pointed out......

more ink to your pens
adios!

thanks babes... your taking chance story is making me wish i could write like u, i am following u like ur scape goat

frank3.16:


thanks babes... your taking chance story is making me wish i could write like u, i am following u like ur scape goat

i feel flattered

frank, dis. was really wonderful. u are unique as always. i'm so sorry about ur love that passed away...

zinylizzy: frank, dis. was really wonderful. u are unique as always. i'm so sorry about ur love that passed away...

thanks for ur concern... lizzy and thanks for reading

Wow! This is so unlike u.
Frankly speaking, this story though very short has taught me a lot to put in to practice. Thanks dude!

lol avicky... where have u been, i missed u.

Nyc story,u jst nid 2 gt d time frame ryt

Uncle frank, this is beautiful. More power to you!

I think this idea of ''lost key'' can be practice at home if such family life is in jeopardy.Uncle frank can kids try this at home?I must say,well done!

Melancholy: I think this idea of ''lost key'' can be practice at home if such family life is in jeopardy.Uncle frank can kids try this at home?I must say,well done!

lol... the kids must be ready to face the consequences of their action, both past and present because everything will be exposed.. thank though

frank, I've come to learn at your feet, how do you write so many story and finish them all, yet you're not tired midway?

What a brilliant work!!! One thing that I learn't is that Family is very important and shouldn't be joked with. Family must come next after God before any other thing.