okay,
i have this problem with my girl,
i wanted to have, not sex, but just a physical contact thingy but she doesnt want to,
we dated for like 5 months and these 5 months we keep arguing about it, about how i really want it and she doesnt, we still did it tho, everytime we meet,
recently this problem got bigger, this time she keeps avoiding the topic and when i started touching the topic, we got into a quarrel again,

is it wrong for me to touch my girl? is it wrong for a couple to just touch each other, ?
i don't see this problem is a big deal for most couples, but why does this problem post a big deal in my relationship, ? can someone answer, ?

im a chinese and so is my girl for your info,

Sorry mate, but I can't understand how a man can enjoy 'touching' a girl that doesn't want him to 'touch' her. Your relationship is not healthy. You're in the relationship for her body, and you feel cheated if you don't get access to it. She's in the relationship for your attention, and she feels used if she has to barter her body for it.

You don't care about her feelings: you are willing to stir up arguments in order to get what you want - that is, her body. Why not leave the girl alone engage the services of a professional prostitute? Sorry I'm being harsh.

well i love her not bcoz of her body,
everytime we did it she didnt comment anything,
only until yesterday she really put this problem into a big one,
am i wrong, ?

I feel that this is not something to have an argumnent about. if she wants it, do it. if not, don't do it. Simple!

so ur saying that i dont have to be so persistent, ?
the time will come when she thinks shes ready, ?

she dont love u that much,i think

eveseh, i thought that too, i dont know if tats true or not,
until now to the people i tell this story, most of them said that im wrong, only u eveseh understand wat i mean, thanks T_T

Don't just judge and condemn her, How old is she and what about about u? could it be she's not yet matured to handle that , plus if it's so important for u to touch your girlfriend whichever way, I'd suggest u leave d poor girl alone and look 4 TOUCHABLE girls, plenty out there init ?

im 20 and shes 21, i love her so much but shes been like so stubborn, maybe i shudnt be forcing her to do that, ?

maybe there r times shez in the mood to do it so then do it den. respecting eachother's policies i did say is very imp. in a relationship if u either of u can't keep up, make it a quiteda earlier the beta or sumthing not necessary would come 2 it

You're even saying she's "stubborn". It's as if her body is your property for touching purposes.

keele:

eveseh, i thought that too, i don't know if tats true or not,
until now to the people i tell this story, most of them said that im wrong, only u eveseh understand what i mean, thanks T_T

u are welcome,u know am the one and only eve the frist lady on da plante
i always put the truth where the truth belongs :
anyway thanks for that compliment

no not that stubborness im talking about, of course we quarrel about other things and there are some things where i should get mad and shes the one who got mad, strange isnt it?

I don't get it.

pls i must confesss that the does not love you b/c sex is only the final stage of love making
petting is always sweeter b/c you experience so many things.

@keele
is it by force that she must allow you to touch her body?

na wah o,

@ keele, could it be that you 2 are not compatible? You obviously have very different opinions, you are looking for 2 very different things from this "relationship" and you both react very differently to situations.  It seems like a lot about you irritates her. Do you derive any fun from being around her? Is it just the challenge of winning her over that you like? I really don't see the common ground in this relationship. Could it be the most obvious reason, that she doesn't want you and she is just hedging her bets and options till someone better comes along? Not liking it when someone you are in a relationship with touches you (no matter how strange it may seem) is one thing. But getting mad at someone because they touched you is something else. The only people that I get mad at when they touch me are people I don't like. i.e. People I can't stand.

Sorry to be so blunt dude, but move on already. Maybe she will eventually come around. And by that I don't mean that you should stick around her to find out if that time will ever come. I mean move on and do other things. Give her time to decide how much she values your '"relationship." If she never comes around, she never cared that much anyway and that seems to be the case here.

You've spoken my mind.

Seun, you know you and I are often on the same page.

You and this dude need to talk.
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-2181.0.html

Both of you should take a hint when the answer is plain as day.

@Keele
Don't take it personal bro. I think she maybe a lil insecure about her body. She not want you to discover any of her flaws. It's hard to live up to the Super Model Image. Also may just be a shy person. Try not to ruin the relationship over it, ok?

hmm its not about touching her hands or anything, i mean touching her breast or other stuff, she doesnt want it, she said noone will touch me, only my husband will, means after getting married,

anyway we broke up already, then i realised maybe i was forcing upon her to let me touch her body, i really regret losing her, i mean breaking up this way, i think this is just not right, im planning to get her back, i said ill chase u again in 2 weeks, wat do u guys think, ?

This young lady might think that you are insincere. I think you should sleep on it & don't be hastily. A 2 wk wait is a good idea. Good luck!

well we broke up already, too late i think,

If she does'nt want it, then dont do it.

hmmm i thought so too,
but she seem to be waiting for it,

@Keele
Your girl doesn't want u touch her?Dude u smell really bad.I can smell u from here.
Nah just kidding.

she loves u and wats 2 b wit u but, she doesn`t want 2 be used & dump. if u love her u`ll wait 4 her. except of course u`re only interested in her ass & boobs

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