A whole lot of people these days experience difficulty in their relationships. I'm aware of d different factors dt could make a relationship go sour but i consider gary chapman's five love language theory as a major factor.
1 words of affirmation: many people like to be spoken good of, praised, and appreciated with words. Whenever their partner fails to do so, they feel unloved.
2 acts of service: some people live to be served. They feel loved whenever someone washes their clothes,and cooks for them. They like to come home to a neat apartment. Any short of service makes them pout.
3physical touch: these group like being touched. Some of them like sexx a lot and are sometimes misunderstood. A child in this group always likes to be carried. A child dt's not in this group could be slapped by an adult and within a short period forget d slap but d child whose language is touch may forgive but will never forget because...you know why.
4 gifts: one whose language is gift appreciates gifts irrespective of d cost. But one whose language is not gift may have to consider d value of a gift before appreciating it.
5 Quality time: anybody whose language is quality time will rather sit and gist rather than go to a dance/party.
Nb; one can have more than one romantic language.
The easiest way to know one's language is to listen or pay attention to d very thing he or she complains about a lot.
If its quality time, d person may be complaining dt you don't spend time with him or her. If its acts of service, he or she may want u to cook or wash for them but i think you need to be careful lest you come across as 'trying too hard'.
If its physical touch...very sensitive, you may be misunderstood as a maniac and some other times touching someone can send d person some carnal message whereas you mean no harm.
What we were denied as a child or we lacked as a child often turns to become what we crave for as adults and as such when others provide us with dt thing we lacked, we consider d person romantic hence romance language.

@dondav read it again

what is romance language? i don't understand!

So ATMC , u know all this and you are still keeping me waiting.

@itbomb .after you refused to teach me, i learnt d hard way

ATMC: @itbomb .after you refused to teach me, i learnt d hard way

I'm so sorry to hear that, so can you pls come back and 'learn' me what you learnt?
I can be a good practical student , u know.

Once beaten, twice shy

On a more serious note.
I ve been having problems with No. 4 'gifts':
It is said that ' where a man's [or woman's] treasure is , that is where his heart is.
The value of a gift is relative
To me , a gift of 10gigabytes internet would be much more romantic than a freshly pluck rose flower from Paris.
And for most girls , a BB curve 1 is more preferred romantic gift to a candle light dinner anywhere.
Gifts ruin relationships when the value of it is correlated with the quality and frequency of gifts especially when it is one-sided cos most girls believe the only gifts they can give are boxers and sexx.

Dt's a very wrong impression of girls. Same thing goes for some of us girls, most guys think they can get every girl with gifts, it only works when her love language is gift otherwise d guy will be beating a bag of sand. The reason you give a damn about d cost of gift is cos it aint your love language, if it is i tel you, you wont look d gift horse in d eye. Same goes for girls.

Quite a number of times we speak our love language to others thinking its theirs but its not true. When in a relationship you must speak d others language. You don't give a gift cos you appreciate gifts and so you expect dt he or she do same...no, you must labour to find what his or her romance language actually is. It could be quality time you never can tell.

So, ATMC, whats ur romance language

ATMC: Quite a number of times we speak our love language to others thinking its theirs but its not true. When in a relationship you must speak d others language. You don't give a gift cos you appreciate gifts and so you expect dt he or she do same...no, you must labour to find what his or her romance language actually is. It could be quality time you never can tell.

Timeless

@spike c quality time and yours?

ATMC: @spike c quality time and yours?

Words of affirmation, physical touch and quality time.

Acts of service are mainly for women (Am not lazy BTW)
gifts is a general thing. IMHO, if it becomes too much, it sends a wrong impression. so i would say once in a while

I must say physical touch is for women only :-P how often do your cuddle a fellow guy but we women do cuddle our fellow females freely. Just joking

ATMC:
I must say physical touch is for women only :-P how often do your cuddle a fellow guy but we women do cuddle our fellow females freely. Just joking

lol..i meant from the opposite gender.
Tinkling, hair, toe and palm scraping. All those little stuffs that sends shivers down your spines. Me likey

But do these things actually send shivers down one's spine cos mine don't feel this shiver thing, seriously

ATMC: But do these things actually send shivers down one's spine cos mine don't feel this shiver thing, seriously

You need to change your bf...lol

Even my cousin (female) can send a tonne of it down my narrow spine

ATMC:

I haven't seen the pics

My boyfriend noticed and seized my password

ATMC: My boyfriend noticed and seized my password

Dull thread

I guess you didn't like her enough else you would have bothered to speak her love language...its good you quit on time

spikes C:




Dull thread

HATER

ATMC: HATER

Were u hoping for frontpage
Mogbe

My own na physical toch...bt no b say u go come dey touch me anyhow o! U knw nw..

^ nobody's going to do dt to you, just tell d right one when its time dt that is your love language and you 're on for fulfillment in your relationship.

spikes C:


Were u hoping for frontpage
Mogbe

smh you know very well dt this thread is not a trial.

ATMC:
smh you know very well dt this thread is not a trial.

Is it for me

Ok,i get it, thank you
If u had led me to the right path of knowing this ur love romance language, i wouldn't have been wasting my time since nah....



Chai, all those gifts

Heeya