Godmother: Mehn, I hope her husband never gets to see this oh. Would do well. We all have an idea of what marriage in Nigeria is all about, but most women wud never come out boldly like this for fear of d repercussions

Amelian: Wow, am short of words.. .....and girls will still look desperate and sad, cause we are single...hmmm, life

A-ZeD:
This is bullsh*t.
So every woman who says her husband has never hit her is lying?

The author should note that if her marriage did not work out it doesn't mean other people's own did not work out.

ifyalways: Mystery seeks company. . .always.

babestell: You all need to take a chill pill. we know she is not insinuating that all married women who make these statements are lying. But we also know that most of the time people will not tell you the truth about the harsh realities of their individual marriages.

My senior colleagues in the office are always like you young girls should try and settle down, get married and have a family so that you will be happy. But I have caught at least 2 of them complaining to friends about how their husbands treat them. but when i confronted one she denied it and swore hussy was an angel (yet she comes to work with bruises).

Am sure a lot of people are in happy marriages but there are also a lot who are not but are actively denying it just so that they don't stand out in society.

brokoto: misery.

onegig: i weep for nigeria.

FXKing2012:
Waooooo....what a [b]lorry-load of trash.[/b]

Freiburger:
How on earth will you weep for a nation which doesn't give a damm about you?

jidewin:
hahahah FXKING are you sure?

babestell: You all need to take a chill pill. we know she is not insinuating that all married women who make these statements are lying. But we also know that most of the time people will not tell you the truth about the harsh realities of their individual marriages.

My senior colleagues in the office are always like you young girls should try and settle down, get married and have a family so that you will be happy. But I have caught at least 2 of them complaining to friends about how their husbands treat them. but when i confronted one she denied it and swore hussy was an angel (yet she comes to work with bruises).

Am sure a lot of people are in happy marriages but there are also a lot who are not but are actively denying it just so that they don't stand out in society.

debrief08: I agree with with her, I don't think she is refering to all married women but those but those who love to harass single women.
There are some married women who are fond of making singles feel bad and specialise in harrasing them to "go and marry". Really happily married folks know that a good marriage is not rushed.
Also she was in my oppinion speaking to the people who will advice you to stay and rot even in unpleasant marriages, who will never be real on what really goes on and always want to show how marriage defines them.
I tell my friends being single is not a crime or disease, don't pretend, don't out of desperation marry and swallow all misery.
Be real, when you face challenges that overwhelm you say so, if not you will die in silence.
So many of them in church wearing asoebi yet covered in bruises.
Why do you think Nairaland has so much traffic? So many people who pretend to their friends and family in real life find solace here.
A bad broken down marriage is not a thing to be ashmaed of, being single or divorced is not a crime, be honest and open and you won't die prematuredly from heart attack, HIV or beatings.

debrief08: I agree with with her, I don't think she is refering to all married women but those but those who love to harass single women.
There are some married women who are fond of making singles feel bad and specialise in harrasing them to "go and marry". Really happily married folks know that a good marriage is not rushed.
Also she was in my oppinion speaking to the people who will advice you to stay and rot even in unpleasant marriages, who will never be real on what really goes on and always want to show how marriage defines them.
I tell my friends being single is not a crime or disease, don't pretend, don't out of desperation marry and swallow all misery.
Be real, when you face challenges that overwhelm you say so, if not you will die in silence.
So many of them in church wearing asoebi yet covered in bruises.
Why do you think Nairaland has so much traffic? So many people who pretend to their friends and family in real life find solace here.
A bad broken down marriage is not a thing to be ashmaed of, being single or divorced is not a crime, be honest and open and you won't die prematuredly from heart attack, HIV or beatings.

naijababe:


God have mercy o!

debrief08: Thank You Biolabee, just came back briefly to deal with some work issues that required my personal attention, would leave again soon.
As for your comment, I didn't direct my response at anyone, what I said was people who are afriad to share their real life challenges to friends they boast to come here to look for advice.
I know for a fact that people lots of people have great marriagges, I have one, but I also know in the real society we pretend a lot and are encouraged to do so.
I shared here how I mistakenly left a brusie uncovered in church when I was with my ex and the pastors wife scolded me as if I committed murder.
Her piece from the introduction talks about those who stay and die in marriage even when they are unhappy yet pretending to all that all is well.
I was severally warned not to share my former marriage challenges and issues, even here I was told to stop speaking about my divorce because it didn't fit into "societial ideal"
The truth is people and events are not perfect, as soon as people admit what's wrong and objectively seek sollutions we would have better dtronger unions, this is not a woman problem but a pretentious societies problem.
We even write articles that advocate that people shouldn't share their burdens because those who advice them are "pretenders"
I believe people should be more open, objective and honest. Society should reduce judgement on single women, divorced and seperated people, as long as we continue to stigmatise those who refuse to stay in misery we will keep having women who pretend till their death

Coldfeet: BIG OROBOLICIOUS LIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Author borrow me ur ear lemme tell you about my husband! I will stand on the highest peek and shout it out for the whole world to hear MY HUSBAND IS EVERYTHING!! You just wrote there. As for number 5 not really clear to me but then why would I want to leave a man (borrowing the words of Princess) who took away my shame? A man who saw beyond the wayward and stubborn young girl I use to be and made me his Oriaku? A man who God used to liberate me? A man who makes my toes wriggle uncontrollable each time{u know na } A man who can't go an hour without hearing from me? Abeg pack well joor if your husband na agbero no come console your self here saying no woman can have it this good welder soda that hand weh u use type this lubbish.