Help me please

I thought I was going to read something well spelt out about the topic authored by you. Never knew you'll be the one asking me. But then, what happened? Why did he had to go?

eyenCalabar: I thought I was going to read something well spelt out about the topic authored by you. Never knew you'll be the one asking me. But then, what happened? Why did he had to go?

It was long distance and he felt it was not working because I stopped seeing him as often as I used to before but there was also someone else in the picture which made things worse

Mindependent:
It was long distance and he felt it was not working because I stopped seeing him as often as I used to before but there was also someone else in the picture which made things worse

It therefore means it wasn't his fault. You know he is a man. Again, hardly to see a long distance relationship surviving nowadays. So right now, what's the change? Do you still want to continue with the long distance relationship or he is back to town and you want him back?

I want it to go back to how it was when I used to travel
To see him

Bia @op leave this guy alone now is he the only man alive? you have already opened 3 threads about trying to get this same guy back werin b ur own self the way u dey go u fit do jazz oh! beta watch yourself you cannot force anyone to be part of your life who does nt want to be. so quit giving yourself sleepless nights

first you decided to get over him on this thread, www.nairaland.com/1183769/how-get-over-guy, when you couldn't you now decide to steal him back smh https://www.nairaland.com/1274192/how-steal-guy-girl I pity u, its like the stealing idea dint work prolly cuz his present gf dey go cele so her prayer dey hot well well, you are now here asking how to win him back. honey you are confused

lumideezle: Bia @op leave this guy alone now is he the only man alive? you have already opened 3 threads about trying to get this same guy back werin b ur own self the way u dey go u fit do jazz oh! beta watch yourself you cannot force anyone to be part of your life who does nt want to be. so quit giving yourself sleepless nights

first you decided to get over him on this thread, www.nairaland.com/1183769/how-get-over-guy, when you couldn't you now decide to steal him back smh https://www.nairaland.com/1274192/how-steal-guy-girl I pity u, its like the stealing idea dint work prolly cuz his present gf dey go cele so her prayer dey hot well well, you are now here asking how to win him back. honey you are confused

Yes I am that is why I'm here asking for your help, the girl is nothing compared to me sef

Mindependent:
Yes I am that is why I'm here asking for your help, the girl is nothing compared to me sef

she is nothin compared to u abi? But he chose her over u... Guess u dont know how to fvck that's y he dumped u easily, and i could swear he's not even thinkin about u

But why would you want to go back to your ex though?

Babe, stop it. You don't need to go back to your ex, if he is over you, he is over you. Just live with it.
You gambled away your chance in making the relationship work and he moved on, you need to move on and make your ex stay where he belongs, the past.

jackbauerspower: But why would you want to go back to your ex though?

I guess some dicks are sweeter than honey

jackbauerspower: But why would you want to go back to your ex though?

Because he's mr perfect ie the best I ever had

sakaguchi: Babe, stop it. You don't need to go back to your ex, if he is over you, he is over you. Just live with it.
You gambled away your chance in making the relationship work and he moved on, you need to move on and make your ex stay where he belongs, the past.

But how can I move on , it's easier said than done

lrguru:
she is nothin compared to u abi? But he chose her over u... Guess u dont know how to fvck that's y he dumped u easily, and i could swear he's not even thinkin about u

Why don't u come and confirm whether I know how to or not! Anuofia

Mindependent:
Because he's mr perfect ie the best I ever had

hmmmmmm, u just want him to have a taste of you again

jubrealguy: hmmmmmm, u just want him to have a taste of you again

Maybe

Mindependent:
Maybe

Call him and tell him ur stuff us missing his stuff, his stuff will respond sharply, i'm sure

@OP
Well, since you are still bent on being with this guy again, why not just put a call through and try to tell him how it has been with you since he left. After all, you are a woman. Tell him you'll like to see him atleast even this time would be the last. He'll definitely give you a chance. BUT then, be warned, men don't really care. Even though you see him today, he can still place you in the past.

Personally, I'll advice that you move on. Take your mind off him ...the beautiful ones are not yet born ...the best is yet to come ...better is not enough my dear. Don't settle for less. That guy is less for you as far as am concern.

So what are you going to do now? Get more skills, further your education, get professional certificates, draw up goals in life, work on yourself -interpersonal communication, attitude, ordering your steps, etc. Just strive to be self dependent. I bet you by the time you are done with yourself, men would be lining up begging. You'll be the one to select. Don't put yourself in a position which you'll have to beg for every little thing because that's what you are trying to do. When you force yourself on a man, you are putting yourself in a position you'll always have to beg which is very bad. It'll kill your self-respect as a human. Strive to be strong and self dependent. Strive to be excellent. Forget about so-called love feelings which would die-off when you start seeing dissapointments in the relationship. Forget about your age because there are so many who got married for that reason, 10-15 years after nothing is happening in their marriages. No happiness. No satisfaction. Just nothing. Why? Because they entered into wrong relationship.

Again, don't make yourself a victim of love. Yes! Love can victimized. When you are placed below your worth in the name of love, you have become a victim of it. And you'll never be happy with yourself for the rest of your life. Fighting to change the situation would only take you to a Juju man's house or crying to God everyday over an issue that you had the power to change. But you were too blind to see problems coming. Don't stoop so low. Where are you in life circle right now, what do you think can be done to make a step further? Remember, you are a princess, recognize that and live in that consciousness. Respect yourself. Respect your beauty. Respect your parents (death/alive). Respect me.

However, if you feel your mind is made up to be with this guy and even if it'll make you resort to any means in order to keep him for yourself, remember, anything that is not of God don't last. They only give shortlived happiness and satisfaction. So the choice is yours. Life is so fair to present us with ability to make choices. I can only add to your choices but the power to choose resides with you. I can't choose for you. You choose. But whatever your choice may be, make sure it is good with God and man. Don't make a choice you'll regret in future. Have foresight. All the best.

eyenCalabar: @OP
Well, since you are still bent on being with this guy again, why not just put a call through and try to tell him how it has been with you since he left. After all, you are a woman. Tell him you'll like to see him atleast even this time would be the last. He'll definitely give you a chance. BUT then, be warned, men don't really care. Even though you see him today, he can still place you in the past.

Personally, I'll advice that you move on. Take your mind off him ...the beautiful ones are not yet born ...the best is yet to come ...better is not enough my dear. Don't settle for less. That guy is less for you as far as am concern.

So what are you going to do now? Get more skills, further your education, get professional certificates, draw up goals in life, work on yourself -interpersonal communication, attitude, ordering your steps, etc. Just strive to be self dependent. I bet you by the time you are done with yourself, men would be lining up begging. You'll be the one to select. Don't put yourself in a position which you'll have to beg for every little thing because that's what you are trying to do. When you force yourself on a man, you are putting yourself in a position you'll always have to beg which is very bad. It'll kill your self-respect as a human. Strive to be strong and self dependent. Strive to be excellent. Forget about so-called love feelings which would die-off when you start seeing dissapointments in the relationship. Forget about your age because there are so many who got married for that reason, 10-15 years after nothing is happening in their marriages. No happiness. No satisfaction. Just nothing. Why? Because they entered into wrong relationship.

Again, don't make yourself a victim of love. Yes! Love can victimized. When you are placed below your worth in the name of love, you have become a victim of it. And you'll never be happy with yourself for the rest of your life. Fighting to change the situation would only take you to a Juju man's house or crying to God everyday over an issue that you had the power to change. But you were too blind to see problems coming. Don't stoop so low. Where are you in life circle right now, what do you think can be done to make a step further? Remember, you are a princess, recognize that and live in that consciousness. Respect yourself. Respect your beauty. Respect your parents (death/alive). Respect me.

However, if you feel your mind is made up to be with this guy and even if it'll make you resort to any means in order to keep him for yourself, remember, anything that is not of God don't last. They only give shortlived happiness and satisfaction. So the choice is yours. Life is so fair to present us with ability to make choices. I can only add to your choices but the power to choose resides with you. I can't choose for you. You choose. But whatever your choice may be, make sure it is good with God and man. Don't make a choice you'll regret in future. Have foresight. All the best.

Thank you soooo much!!!! You truly speak words of wisdom! God bless you

EYENCALABA
Your tone sound like my friend Dailynews or are u the one?
how l wish missindependent will honour this divine advice..how l just wish..

chikeorji123: EYENCALABAR
Your tone sound like my friend Dailynews or are u the one?
how l wish missindependent will honour this divine advice..how l just wish..

No.

eyenCalabar: @OP
Well, since you are still bent on being with this guy again, why not just put a call through and try to tell him how it has been with you since he left. After all, you are a woman. Tell him you'll like to see him atleast even this time would be the last. He'll definitely give you a chance. BUT then, be warned, men don't really care. Even though you see him today, he can still place you in the past.

Personally, I'll advice that you move on. Take your mind off him ...the beautiful ones are not yet born ...the best is yet to come ...better is not enough my dear. Don't settle for less. That guy is less for you as far as am concern.

So what are you going to do now? [size=16pt]Get more skills, further your education, get professional certificates, draw up goals in life, work on yourself -interpersonal communication, attitude, ordering your steps, etc. Just strive to be self dependent. I bet you by the time you are done with yourself, men would be lining up begging. You'll be the one to select.[/size] Don't put yourself in a position which you'll have to beg for every little thing because that's what you are trying to do. When you force yourself on a man, you are putting yourself in a position you'll always have to beg which is very bad. It'll kill your self-respect as a human. Strive to be strong and self dependent. Strive to be excellent. Forget about so-called love feelings which would die-off when you start seeing dissapointments in the relationship. Forget about your age because there are so many who got married for that reason, 10-15 years after nothing is happening in their marriages. No happiness. No satisfaction. Just nothing. Why? Because they entered into wrong relationship.

Again, don't make yourself a victim of love. Yes! Love can victimized. When you are placed below your worth in the name of love, you have become a victim of it. And you'll never be happy with yourself for the rest of your life. Fighting to change the situation would only take you to a Juju man's house or crying to God everyday over an issue that you had the power to change. But you were too blind to see problems coming. Don't stoop so low. Where are you in life circle right now, what do you think can be done to make a step further? Remember, you are a princess, recognize that and live in that consciousness. Respect yourself. Respect your beauty. Respect your parents (death/alive). Respect me.

However, if you feel your mind is made up to be with this guy and even if it'll make you resort to any means in order to keep him for yourself, remember, anything that is not of God don't last. They only give shortlived happiness and satisfaction. So the choice is yours. Life is so fair to present us with ability to make choices. I can only add to your choices but the power to choose resides with you. I can't choose for you. You choose. But whatever your choice may be, make sure it is good with God and man. Don't make a choice you'll regret in future. Have foresight. All the best.

That!

Just get busy, girl! Never try to win him back! NEVER!!! Like I said, just get busy. You're only jealous cos he's with someone else. Just let him remain where he belongs, your past! To heal faster, delete every, when I say every, I mean everything (including his phone number. If possible, change your line) that reminds you of him. Most importantly, GET BUSY!

lumideezle: Bia @op leave this guy alone now is he the only man alive? you have already opened 3 threads about trying to get this same guy back werin b ur own self the way u dey go u fit do jazz oh! beta watch yourself you cannot force anyone to be part of your life who does nt want to be. so quit giving yourself sleepless nights

first you decided to get over him on this thread, www.nairaland.com/1183769/how-get-over-guy, when you couldn't you now decide to steal him back smh https://www.nairaland.com/1274192/how-steal-guy-girl I pity u, its like the stealing idea dint work prolly cuz his present gf dey go cele so her prayer dey hot well well, you are now here asking how to win him back. honey you are confused

I thought i was the only one who noticed!

Mindependent:
It was long distance and he felt it was not working because I stopped seeing him as often as I used to before but there was also someone else in the picture which made things worse

the guy u sent ur unclad pics to?

DECOtech: the guy u sent ur unclad pics to?

No i sent the pic to a friend and I regret it now

Mindependent: Help me please

who wronged who? did you cheat on him or leave him or did he do it to you

WackyJ1:
who wronged who? did you cheat on him or leave him or did he do it to you

We sort of both cheated on each other, it was long distance I got lonely one night and spent it with a friend but nothing deep happened and he was also seeing someone so he wronged me more

Mindependent:
We sort of both cheated on each other, it was long distance I got lonely one night and spent it with a friend but nothing deep happened and he was also seeing someone so he wronged me more

Ha madam let him go,if he has moved on the best you can get from him is maybe one week on bleeping then after that, he will move on again, the relationship cannot be real and emotional as it was before