**clears throat**
Lemme go straight to the matter......
I'm a gentleman in my 20's; going to mid 20's. I've never been in a relationship with any girl before**i'm straight**except with one girl whom I've known for quite sometimes now. But it was an obscure one, though I had feelings for her.
To me, I thought I was in a relationship i.e I thought there was something between us. Not until last month when I discovered some weird behaviours she portrayed: taking longer than usual to pick my calls, not replying my messages, etc, so, I intimated her with the afore-stated behaviours which she didn't deny.
Unfortunately, I received the greatest shock of my life when she said she was 'over' me. She 'categorically' told me that she used to have feelings for me, but she ain't gat no feelings for me any more. Ouch! I was petrified and dumbfounded. Anyway, I tried my best possible to persuade her, but all to no avail. She later told me her decisions were made based on how I took her for granted: not being there for her when she needed my presence, etcetera etcetera. So I had to let go of her; disheartening, though.
Nevertheless, there's this girl I met 2 years ago at a function. She came straight up to me, eventually we got indulged in some impromptu decisions. Then, we became friends, we chat often. From her gestures, I perceive she's giving me all the green lights I could ever want or need in asking her out. At times, she subconsciously intimates me with relationship talks. But hey! I'm not into her that much. Her dp's, status, pm's etc all state she has a thing for me. Dp's like "I swear down I'm in love with someone..." Pm's like "He's so sweet as candy but he's too stubborn."
I even thought my not asking her out this long would get a message across to her. But, hell no! She's a loving girl but I don't buy the idea of dating someone out of pity.
So, fellaz, I need your candid advice to handle this situation.
God bless!

ok straight to biz...
you don't love the one that loves u and the one you love don't love u ba??
its simple really, wait for the one that ll reciprocate ur feelings.

Bless you too

That's quite blunt. Anyway, thanks for contribution.

I read all that and I have just one question.

What do you want us to do now?

@OP , my opinion?
Buy a cyanide pill.
That is a relatively less bloody means to end a life of misery.

^ ^ Dies

To sincere, o didn't see any situation here

i think you would break her heart if you started dating her because you do not know how to handle a relationship yet. You yourself said you do not love her so maybe try not to be close to her anymore because you do not want to give her fals hope. Also let her know that you are not ready for a relationship. One more thing if you want a relationship try get someone you are really attracted to but remember that she might break your heart

Let her know that you don't feel the same way about her. That might be a tough one cos most girls can't handle it but one way or the other, you have to pass the message across to her. This post would be incomplete if I don't mention that it serves you right with dt first lady.

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Mynd_44: I read all that and I have just one question.

What do you want us to do now?

CRY

Her dp's, status, pm's etc all state she has a thing for me. Dp's like "I swear down I'm in love with someone..." Pm's like "He's so sweet as candy but he's too stubborn."

Shola!!! Cele tan e, o tan abela

story story..

The male species are damn confused..
@op this is just one big hoot.

U do not have a problem unless u wanna create one for urself !!!

If U re not into her so be it (she is gonna hate U very soon ) !!!

alutacontinua: Let her know that you don't feel the same way about her. That might be a tough one cos most girls can't handle it but one way or the other, you have to pass the message across to her. This post would be incomplete if I don't mention that it serves you right with dt first lady.

How?

jhydebaba: Shola!!! Cele tan e, o tan abela

jhydebaba: Shola!!! Cele tan e, o tan abela

Mynd_44: I read all that and I have just one question.

What do you want us to do now?

Hey, bro! Try and be more sensitive to people's awkward situation. Thanks for your quota, anyway.

Same here

clemz85: To sincere, o didn't see any situation here

I guess my post's quite explanatory. I think I've done all I could to make her know I'm not game. She sends lovely messages which I don't reply, but she always insists I reply her back. Which at times I reply back with words like: "tnx", "k", "aii".....reluctantly.
The issue is, I'm not ready for any level of commitment at the moment.
Thanks!

.....ermmm,op wuz her number? Lemme talk to her

Op, you have a misleading title! You are not in any dilemma.
you obviously need to eat.

Move on with your life, she's just not into you.... you ain't into the other, get laid, and live your life... time waits for no one... Trust me, it's better she cut you off than having one of your friends maintain her borehole... move on

Please i'm still looking for the OP's dilemma in the post

Bibol: Please i'm still looking for the OP's dilemma in the post

Some people just love finding trouble when there is none

Hit it and move on. Dammit.