omonnakoda: LAGOS — Emotion ran high, Monday, at the Bar Beach Police Division, following revelation by a Primary 5 pupil of how her 57-year-old father had been having carnal knowledge of her in the last three months.

The primary school pupil during interrogation said her mother brought her to her father after years of separation, adding that since the sacrilegious act began, her father had been giving her N200 as pocket money to school.

Unsure of who to confide in, she said she told her mother during one of her visits only for the father to dismiss the claim, stating that he could not bring himself that low as to having carnal knowledge of his biological daughter.

But the bubble burst after she summoned courage to tell her head teacher, who invited the police.

According to the pupil, “ when I was reunited with my father, I was happy because I was living with an aunt in the village since my parents separated. He usually told me that I would take the place of my mother in his life since my mother had divorced him. I did not know what he meant until he started having carnal knowledge of me at night.

“At a point, I got tired and insulted him. Then, he started beating me and changed his loving nature. He would beat me and strip me Unclad and have his way whenever he wanted.

When I attempted to scream, he would hit me harder and cover my mouth. He later apologized, telling me he would buy me a car. All I want at the moment is for my father to be punished for what he did to me.”

But her 57-year-old father, Nwafor Iko, described her daughter’s claim as mere allegation. Ikoro said he only beat his daughter after he discovered she was in an amorous relationship with an unnamed man.

The matter, according to Police sources, was immediately charged to the Igbosere Magistrate Court, from where Ikoro was remanded in prison custody until his application bail would be considered.

bukatyne: I am trying to understand the mother's blame here:

Was the she one that laid the bed for them or did she determine the girl the father should sleep with?

TV01:

The mother is in no way to blame for the heinous act of the father. That is his evil and his alone.

The facts are clear;
- She was responsible for upkeep (so she had enough money to cater for them)
- She mean't to send them allowance at her mothers
- She was more than capable of looking after these kids.

- She left for another "man"
- There is no mention of her visiting or trying to secure custody for the two years since the man "claimed" them
- She knew her husband was an abuser and spendthrift. Did she send money to them there? How? I'd doubt that.
- At a guess she put her new relationship before her children.

QED, a simple unbiased look at the facts as presented. She could have done better for those kids, therein lies her culpability. It's nothing to do with the crime per se.

Don't let those with agendas in to poison relationships between men and women. She is not being faulted for his actions, but her own

Twisting the story by alleging she may be living in a cardboard box under a bridge or such nonsense is typical of our own dear "moral crusader. Whilst trotting out the old "men will soon be here to blame her for not fulfilling his sexual needs", is the sorry refrain of the forums leading bull-dyke (ooops, I thought everyone knew!)

Lets be more critical and objective than to allow those with hidden agendas to lead our discussions,whoever they are, avd most especially when they are toxic.

TV

bukatyne: The abuse obviously started after she left their father.

bukatyne:
I'm afraid that those blaming the woman for the act of the father are actually trying to say that 'a father is not capable and responsible enough to take care of the children he birthed.'

bukatyne:
If the woman was leaving for another man, who was the best person to leave the kids with if not their own real biological father? Does the children not belong to the father anymore? Wouldn't the father claim the children?

bukatyne:
If the mother were to sleep with her son, would we find a way to blame the father?

bukatyne:
Even when women try to defend men saying they are responsible and such behaviours are out of line, some men in a bid to shift the blame to the woman would end up painting themselves as irresponsible, illogical and senseless creatures who can't think for themselves and differentiate between right and wrong.

TV01:

And I won't argue that point



She is not being held responsible for what he did. I stated that quite clearly.
We have seen clearly what this particular man he is capable of.



So why did she take them to her mother in the first instance? She alleges "battery", so she must have known he was an irresponsible, abusive man. And poor to boot. (vote her kids are seeing this as her 'leaving for another man')

The childrens immediate well-being should have been priority. The notion of claiming is somewhat misplaced here,and not really an excuse.



I'll say this for the last time, she is not to blame her for that. And it wouldn't change if the positions were reversed either.



His crime has no excuse or justification - by men or women. And the mother could have done better. For what it's worth, I'm happy to think that she wishes she had.

TV

bukatyne: Oh yeah, that is human nature for you. Even if the mother was still staying with them when the father molested them, she would have wished she did better.

Deeone_bangin!:
Their mama na oloriburuku..Daz all

taryour:

My dear I understand you perfectly well,I read and understand the story very well too.she took a great step by leaving her husband for her safety. My point is that she must have been aware that the useless father had gone to take thoes kids from her mother where she left them initially. And for christ sake she herself knew leaving them$ with their father wasn't safe which was the reason she took them to her mother. Now my point is when she heard their father had taken them back,why dint she go back there and fought tooth and nail with the man to have them with her,even if it meant crying and attracting neighbours and sympathisers to her aid,and woe betide who will stop her then. Everyone in that environment can not be insane to see how insane it is for those kids to stay with their father alone at such age with the kind of job he does. What good thinking and act can come out of a bus driver/agero/tout who goes abt with messed up life. No matter how much suffering she was going tru in ibadan where she was,either squatting or living in a one room or half room or even an uncompleted building without a room,her kids are stil safe with her and would have provided them more protection. Debrief you and I know this very very well,NINE months isn't a joke oo. If I leave my husband (God forbid) I go with my kids either their father is rich or poor, good or bad. Gaskia

ty osho:

i dont believe you should apologise debrief.The man defiled his daughters because that is who he is and not necessarily because of the absence of his wife.We have heard cases of men defiling daughters in homes where the mothers are present.An irresponsible man is an irresponsible man.That is first and foremost the koko before trying to weigh the mothers' action or lack of it.

Deeone_bangin!:
Their mama na oloriburuku..Daz all

peppy luv: Pls shake ur head 4 ur silly ugly sister that got molested by....( U knw na)

debrief08: Tayour did you read the story?
She said she left the girls with her mom, left her home where she was being battered even though she was responsible for the upkeep, she left the girls with her mom, their father went to take them, who will deny a man the custody of his kids? Except she went to court which am sure she couldn't afford to while she was trying to hustle for their feeding and probably education.
Please let's stop always trying to blamde women for the actions of others. They are his kids for Christ Sake, you can hate your husband or wife but no one will expect you to hurt your kids even the court.
The woman just left a home where she was unsafe and was trying to start a new life and provide for her kids.
The kids should be safe with their dad since they can't trust him who will they trust?
This is not some distant relative, its their father, even if she went to court a judge would have probably awarded custody to their father since they are above 8.
Please stop blaming people who did nothing wrong, blame the person who committed the act.
What was she suppose to do? Do you even know if she has a house where she is or if she is living on the streets or perching with someone and her only focus is saving enough money to care for her daughters?

olamisegbe: poor woman. Guess she is a learner.if u dnt hv d financial capability to take care of d kids, take legal actn nd hv in custody ur kids with FULL TIME ALIMONY

bukatyne:

Oh yeah, that is human nature for you. Even if the mother was still staying with them when the father molested them, she would have wished she did better.

bukatyne:

Oh yeah, that is human nature for you. Even if the mother was still staying with them when the father molested them, she would have wished she did better.

lawsonoladie: what, y z e beggin 4 forgivnes wen e was sleeping wit his daughters didn't e no its wrong? e shld b dealt d most severe punishment there is 4 such crime [color=#000099][/color]

AB$I:
i beg ur pardon,the bible's judgement for such is DEATH and nothing less

TV01: Firstly, the "Bible Thumpers" will in all likelihood say no such thing, as it's not actually in the Bible. Secondly, if you were the "Christian" you expediently claim to be when it suits you, you'd know that.

Siena, ever the "gallery playing womans wrapper".

TV