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| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Burger01(m): 7:45pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
A man turned you to a 'punching bag' and you still call him 'your husband'! Women!! Smh.  2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by andyanders: 7:46pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Having gone through your past post titled "Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive" and the responses people gave you in the past, I would categorically state here that you knew his abusive life and still went into the marriage, so be it. You got what you wanted despite the warnings many people gave you. Hang in there and maybe arrange your funeral ahead of time. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 7:50pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Burger01: A man turned you to a 'punching bag' and you still call him 'your husband'! Women!! Smh.How is she supposed to describe him? My wife? One man like that? How will you read the story if she said ONE MAN slaps me.... 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Standing5(m): 7:50pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Texas.Cowgirl:You can't blame the husband as it is dificult to conclude a lady he isn't married to is lazy because it not her responsibility to cook always. |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by paranorman(m): 7:51pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Hey beautiful, i can only imagine d kinda hole you got urself in baby.. But i've got something for you, hope its useful: first, you need ta get evidence of this ungodly treatment.. I mean a concrete evidence, and an eye witness (your maid would do).. Call the two families together; your husband's and yours, make sure ur parents are present... Get the pastor along... Create one hell of a meeting.. Let them know what you are going thru.. Table the matter, show'em ur evidences and let ur witnesse(s) speak... If you are considering divorce, let'em know about it... I dont know ur faith, but if you are a christain, make your ways right with God, give ur life to Jesus genuinly, fast and pray before embarking on this... Seek guidance from ur pastor and let him know of ur plans but ur husband has to caught unaware... Have faith. God words says the heart of men even kings are in his hands(Pharoah and the Israelite; Esther, the king and Hamman are an example)...And please, continuing performing ur wifey duties... God never fails, He will turn his heart. I have a feeling you are good woman.... Keep wondering why atimes good women falls into this and good men get hunted by their marriages to bad women... Another thaing: gettin an eye witness may b an issue because i am sure ur maid would want'o speak while puttin her job's security at arms way.. She is the perfect witness.. If you can get one who's willing or if she willing, it'l b great... Good luck baby, God b with you. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by FOLYKAZE(m): 7:57pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Is your husband a muslim guy? I think such barbaric act is common among muslims,,, if she wants to clear grounds, then she should get a gun and turn the fight to punch against gun.......blow the motherfvcker head |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by GooseBaba: 7:59pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
benzion72: Get alawiye iwe kefa and read how a woman milk a lion with patience and learn to control your tongue. That you grow together and feed him does not give you a license to disrespect him. What about the ones that the lion devoured before they could apply the milking App.... Guy reality is different from story telling ... |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by johnwell(m): 8:00pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Did you take this and others advice into consideration? Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusiveby sharp man(m):5:58pmOnJun 06,2012 sharp man:Quoted from one of your advicers last year!!! why are crying? when the whole world adviced you last year did you consider the advice? why did you even open such thread & upon all the advice you still fall victim? or are you among those that belief that wo/man can change (for good) after marriage? or were you desperate? Here we go again, your brain has been bombarded with so much confusion; i.e. - pray - fast - divorce - run for your life - inform both families - seperate - etc my dear, count God out of your mess, he showed you signs from the begining & you still go ahead in making your choice, God honours your choice, He (God) is not an author of confussion, so enjoy the fruit of you choice!!! am out>>>>> 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by dgysoft(m): 8:04pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
marriage is patience just one blow you are giving up. life it self is not bed of roses. find a way of making up with him. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by GooseBaba: 8:09pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
dasparrow: @Post Bros calm down..! It akes two people to fu..ck so what's with the guy defiling her body? She sef defile his body..and if your daddy created it for marriage why do people still get the whole benefit without marriage e.g sweetness of the punny and pregnancy... Guy reason well |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Nobody: 8:09pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
A highly entertaining Nollywood saga I must say. I believe this is the first time I've actually seen anyone come back for a sequel! Apparently, the first part was so successful that you both had to return for another production innit? Well kudos for entertaining us all! Part 1: https://www.nairaland.com/957132/fiance-verbally-abusive So seven pages of people begging you to leave and you decided to listen to the few halfwits who told you to stay. So now you really expect people to expend their energy giving advice that you won't take? Not me! As for your first sentence that you never knew you would be here, well that's a bold faced lie! Abeg keep the script consistent. You were told by hordes of people that this is exactly what would happen when you get married. So you knew exactly what was up. Therefore, I expect that you should also know exactly what to do next as you surely must have planned ahead of time no? |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Oluwaseytiano(m): 8:11pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
FOLYKAZE: Is your husband a muslim guy? I think such barbaric act is common among muslims,,, if she wants to clear grounds, then she should get a gun and turn the fight to punch against gun.......blow the motherfvcker headU must be pretty stupid to think only muslims beat their wives. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Sirgen05(m): 8:14pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Joavid: divorce is the only way u get out aliveNO! If u are a Christian, u should not think of divorce! It displeases God! Meet ur Pastor and his parent and iron it out! |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by GooseBaba: 8:15pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
GatJokez: You guys are a true Nigerians... A question for a question..!!   |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by switosman(m): 8:15pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
The OP n phcboy may have a case n can hold the ground on it but the fact remains from both post OP is emotional troubled. Phcboy also has shown that he is troubled too. Beating her to enforce a personal boundary is not the best approach. U n Op need to undergo psychiatric profiling by a qualified prof. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by GooseBaba: 8:16pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Rhemmymatician: Hahahahajanjahahaan!!!' |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by DrBaby(f): 8:17pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Ok, so I av read thru all d posts, d thread she opened before dey married, some of the guys posts n responses to diff thread etc...I did this cos I was quite touched by the whole scenario...haba, less than one yr marriage. One thing I noticed is d guy neva respected d girl at any point in time...he neva made her feel like she was worth anything....and he shldnt expect much frm her...cos she wont b motivated to please n satisfy him if she has lost her self esteem frm d start. Also readn thru his response to other threads...he doesnt come across as a guy that has respect for any lady...he probably blivs women r sex objects ( so sorry but my conclusions r solely based on ur comments...u can read thru dem to refresh ur memory). Now lady u saw all des bt u stl went ahead for reasons best known to u...mayb swags, money, infact wateva...bt I knw u r convincd now that swags dont pay bills. Anyways...d situation as it is...its obvious u both r very young...and being that I do not subscribe to divorce...I will advice u both seek counselling... We all learn as we grow...u both can grow n get better...u both need to swallow ur pride n be ready to salvage d situation. Breakin up has no promises...so until u both av exhausted all possibilities in dis marriage....do not divorce If d house is still too heated for now...dear lady, take a break but stil fight for ur marriage. Am sorry portharcourtboy if it looks like am lashn at u..am sorry, but pls break off frm d idea dt women r plenty everywhere...its one of d things dt has brot d world to where we r now... U do not knw wat stunt d next woman will bring along so appreciate wat u av... Il kp prayin for u guys...bt pls...u both need to change for d better...God help u both. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by mjames: 8:18pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Sapphire86: Aunty u berra leave and find sumwhere else 2 live. U can b praying for him to change but u ve to take care of urself. If he beats you to death, what will you tell God for dying before your time? I wonder ooo |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by adeprinze(m): 8:19pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
So sad; personally I think you don't need our opinion you are in it, you receive all the beatings,slaps, punch etc. You know what to do. I have a lawyer frd who has taken it upon herself to pursue any case of close frds and relatives that is in a situation as you are currently going through because she once made the mistake of petting a frd to stick her marriage and make it work even when the frd was afraid to go home sometimes, unfortunately news got to her after one of her frds visit that she had an argument with her husband and that was her end, the man cried it was a mistake, but that was really her END. You know what to do. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by InvertedHammer: 8:25pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
/ Sign up for a kungfu class as soon as possible. Running away will not save you. Divorce may not save you. He may eventually hunt you down and "off" you if his ego is threatened by your leaving him. This guy needs to be stopped. Just like bullies, you have to stand up to him. I recommend kungfu, taekwando or kokoshinkai. So once two of you get over the panel-beating stuff, you can now sit down and negotiate your marriage. Start tomorrow! // 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Doctorazz: 8:28pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
I was severely slapped on the ear/face for reading ur "toasting msg" to a certain girl,that was not in any self defence MR.Thanks everyone,i know i will leave sooner or later,but as advised i will go to court to get a restraining order. |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Nobody: 8:36pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Dan Dan Dan, gen gen |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by InHim4Him(m): 8:38pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Nairalanders are very very funny. Divorce or not, did any of you bring them together in the first place? It will always be their choice to live or die. However, what I see are not people needing help in any way, but experienced counsellors. I can imagine some silly guys and gals boasting, "Ah, if it's me blablabla........" Listen and take counsel rather than making empty boasts. |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Nobody: 8:39pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Rhemmymatician: . She posted stuff on here, her 'brute' husband saw it, and she hasn't posted again since then. If u av her number call her to make sure she is alive o.I can confirm that the OP has been beaten to pulp by her husband Portharcourtboy. I made a call through to her....pls is anyone with police no? |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 8:39pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Doctorazz: I was severely slapped on the ear/face for reading ur "toasting msg" to a certain girl,that was not in any self defence MR.Thanks everyone,i know i will leave sooner or later,but as advised i will go to court to get a restraining order.Yaaay!! I neva thought you'd have the balls. But nw dt u av made ur decision to leave, watch for your safety. If he feels he has nothing to lose, he can hurt(not slap/punch kind of hurt o) you, I'm saying something fatal! |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by dokunbam(m): 8:44pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Oya do something fast before this punching become news in punch newspaper 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Okeikpu(m): 8:50pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
If u see a truck running towards you, just stand gidigbaa,no run o |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by blackbeau1(f): 8:56pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
PortHarcourtBoy: This is the problem with Nigerians...your username says it all. It is only those who think they are still 'boys' that beat up their spouses. Real men know how to beat up their wives WITHOUT the use of their fists 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by judano: 9:03pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Rhemmymatician: So let's be real now. If you ask me, I think doctorazz is prolly on punishment( stool down, kuru maga, ijoko idera etc) atm. She posted stuff on here, her 'brute' husband saw it, and she hasn't posted again since then. If u av her number call her to make sure she is alive o. |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Nobody: 9:26pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
bear with him. forgiveness is the key . preserve your marriage at all cost . remember :"for the best and the worst" 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by kliq(m): 9:31pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Rhemmymatician: That said. Portharcourt boy, just 1 Question: you have 'known' OP for a very long time before marrying her, its not possible for her to hide her flaws for 8 yrs. WHY DID YOU STILL MARRY HER despite all these shortcomings u mentioned?that's bcus she trapped him with d pregnancy tin "Looking back now,he always had the signs of wife battery,but in a way,i blame myself,because when i should have left,i discovered i was pregnant thereby being trapped in such a terrible situation." |
| Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by DollyParton1(f): 9:44pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
CAMEROONPRIDE: bear with him. forgiveness is the key . preserve your marriage at all cost . remember :"for the best and the worst"The most stoopid post ever. 5 Likes |
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