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| Advice for Future Husbands by kingkoboko: 4:08pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
1st of all, by "husband-material", I mean a man or young man who's ready for marriage. 2ndly, I neva marry o! Dis na just my personal suggestions. Ok, 1. NEVER TELL A WOMAN WHAT U HATE IN A WOMAN Women ar natural pretenders. So if u make d mistake of tellin her what u hate, she only do d things u luv so as become ur wife. Jst allow her display her good & bad sides freely so u can know her fully before proposin. 2. TEST HER Do all u can to test her in everyway. E.g, give her little money to prepare food to observe how economical she can be. 3. INTRODUCE HER TO UR MOM, SISTERS OR OTHER FEMALE RELATIONS I say this because women can read their fellow women like books. If ur female relation, esp ur mom, dislikes ur wife-to-be, u better ask her why & be careful o! 4. LEARN HOW TO COOK It's very important for every man to know how to cook o! It'l save u from over-dependence on ur wife for food. And incase u end up marryin a foreigner, u can teach her how to prepare ur favorite meals. 8 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by kingkoboko: 4:36pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
5. COMMAND HER Women luv men who can command them. It doesn't matter if she's older than u or richer or more powerful or feminist. U should only marry a woman who respects u. Luv & respect are almost inseparable when it comes to women. She can respect u without lovin u but she can't luv u without respectin u. 6. DON'T MARRY A LIABILITY Being a housewife is good but being a housewife & workin woman is better. What if u lose ur source of income or worse still, die, what then happens to ur children? Marry a woman who can be ur life insurance. Besides, u won't like it when she asks u for N5 to buy pure water. 7. HOPE FOR "HAPPILY-EVER-AFTER" BUT PREPARE FOR DIVORCE I personally, professionally, romantically (Psquare, make una no vex o!) don't believe in "till death do us part". This is because u could end up dying of high blood pressure if u remain with an unrepentant cheating or abusive woman. On d other hand, u could end up commitin murder. Isn't divorce better than those worse options? 4 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by kingkoboko: 4:50pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
8. MASTURBATE DON'T ADULTERATE M.ast.urbation is better than adultery. Keep that at d front & back of ur mind before u marry. Remember also that konji generally affects we men more than women so don't expect ur wife to be ready for jigijigi or kwokirikwo anytime wey e dey hungry u. That is when d soap or vaseline comes in handy. *winks* 9. LISTEN TO GOD NOT UR PASTOR "She is destined to be ur wife" Na lie!!! "She is ur only missin rib on earth" Na wash!!! There are many false prophets & fake pastors connivin with desperate single women out there o! Its best for u to kneel down by urself & ask God to show u ur wife. U could ask Him to do this by using a very clear sign & u must never ever reveal d sign u asked God to show u to anyone. That na how Abraham servant find Rebecca for Isaac abi? SO NA WETIN UNA TINK BOUT MY ADVICE NA? E MAKE SENSE? 47 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Enegod(m): 5:21pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
a very intelligent write-up..unfortunately, some girls here with cocoanut heads gonna disagree..smh 5 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by MrsChima(f): 5:23pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
I disagree. 2 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Goldenboy007(m): 5:29pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Enegod: a very intelligent write-up..unfortunately, some girls here with cocoanut heads gonna disagree..smh Mrs.Chima: I can't stop laughing !!!  you must like looking for trouble you didn't even allow his response to cool down before you fired back !!! 8 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by dmcdad: 5:40pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Nice one... Your command get as e sound oooo. In as much as you need to exercise your right as a man, yet using that word "command" made it seem aggressive to me. And your item 7 Is a no-no for me... That's never an option for me. 5 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by MrsChima(f): 5:53pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Goldenboy007: Lol. He ain't shit. |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Enegod(m): 6:26pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Mrs.Chima:  |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Nobody: 6:30pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
I agree with every other point but that 'command' thing sounds kinda awkward. |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Sanboy25: 6:34pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Very nice one but I do not agree with the point 6.  |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by braine(m): 6:59pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Nice write up. Very practical. |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by MrsChima(f): 7:11pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Enegod: Hey suga.  |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Enegod(m): 7:15pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Mrs.Chima:hey boo boo |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by haitto99(m): 7:17pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
mrs chima,wetin be your own na  ? |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by daisyella: 7:30pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Everybody wan give advice dese days  |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by MrsChima(f): 7:31pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
haitto99: mrs chima,wetin be your own na Own what? Be more specific. |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by kingkoboko: 7:46pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
DERAILERS UNION OF NAIRALAND (D.U.N) MAKE UNA FREE MY THREAD NA. ABEG. EJO. MBOK. BIKO. OR ELSE... *lookin 4my koboko* ABI UNA NO KNOW SEY DIS POST NA FRONT PAGE MATERIAL? *winks* 3 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Skinni10ne: 8:58pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
I def agree with #6. Marry a woman who is a problem solver, hardworking and resourceful. U nvr know tomorrow. But i dont agree with commanding ur wife. It works for some women, not for me. Once a man commands me, im out. It means he talks more than he listens. I believe in mutual respect, compromises and understanding. Couples should always try to learn from their partners. I strongly disagree with #7 'prepare for divorce.' Divorce should NOT be an option, this way couples work hard to make it work. If u prepare for divorce, uve given up b4 u even started. 17 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by haitto99(m): 10:22pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Mrs.Chima:everybody dey agree....na only u dey negative |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Nobody: 11:06pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
Well, sounds good to me for the most part. All but number 5. I'd rather have my respect be reciprocated with respect than commands. I knew some folks would disagree with 7. I actually agree with it. A lot of folks put all their eggs in one basket and cry when the unexpected happens. Preparing for the unexpected doesn't mean you distrust your partner or love him/her any less. It simply means that you don't know tomorrow. I'd rather carry an umbrella in my car 24/7 than be caught in torrential downpour with shelter nowhere in sight. 2 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by canalily(m): 11:36pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
 no o o o o ! ! My dear i disagree with you for this o o oh! If there is tru love nd a tru heart of forgivenes, nd a true mind for reconcilation, with that undastanding i dont think divorce should come into play. Our hearts are hardend! ! Thats y we pray for divorce! !1 Like |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Nobody: 11:54pm On Aug 16, 2013 |
canalily: And if it's domestic abuse? |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Skinni10ne: 12:10am On Aug 17, 2013 |
ogugua88: Well, sounds good to me for the most part. All but number 5. I'd rather have my respect be reciprocated with respect than commands. Isnt marriage all about putting all ur eggs in one basket? If ur husband abuses/cheats then u can divorce him...but that isnt preparing for divorce. Preparing for divorce is a mindset that shows u dont have faith in ur partner no? Its like ur not fully investing in the commitment. 4 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Nobody: 12:31am On Aug 17, 2013 |
Skinni10ne: Isnt marriage all about putting all ur eggs in one basket? If ur husband abuses/cheats then u can divorce him...but that isnt preparing for divorce. Preparing for divorce is a mindset that shows u dont have faith in ur partner no? Its like ur not fully investing in the commitment. That's not true at all. Are you trying to say those who sign prenuptial agreements aren't fully committed? Come on. Just like an unmarried couple can be 100% committed to each other, those who choose to sign prenupts and/or prepare for a bleak tomorrow in case it happens can still be fully committed to and fully trusting of one another. Divorces are high everywhere, including our Nigeria. I don't know if I'll be married to the one I love forever. I'd surely wish to be. In case my wish doesn't come true as circumstances can and often do change, I would like to be able to provide for myself and children if there are any. I'd rather be the woman saying "it didn't turn out as I wished, but that's okay", than the woman crying to a judge saying "he said he would never do this to me" and demanding spousal and child support. 2 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Godson201333(m): 12:42am On Aug 17, 2013 |
Hey kingkoboko ...Ya making sense,I know no woman is gonna starve me with food..Imma run to kitchen to cook mai noodles 1 Like |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Skinni10ne: 1:00am On Aug 17, 2013 |
@Ogugua88 Funny enough, i do believe that those who have prenups do not trust their partner 100%. This is my belief. Theyre not sure if the person is for them or money, thats why they got a prenup. If they were sure, no prenup. They are not fully invested in the commitment which is why they didnt put all their money in it. And with unmarried couples...some women didnt have a 'choice.' And u dont have to demand for spousal support bcuz of a divorce. I believe wives should be independent, work & save for rainy days for their family, not to prepare for a divorce... I understand what ur saying though. Expect the unexpected and plan for it. And if the unexpected does happen, u wont lose a lot. I respect that. 3 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Kgdavid(m): 2:14am On Aug 17, 2013 |
1. is just common sense but at some point way before marriage ill tell her my one golden rule. don't ever lie to me....ever. even if she cheats i can forgive but cheat and lie is the end of the story. 2. don't test her all the tym just a few really serious ones. e.g take her out and tell her she can't order beyond a certain amount.  do it more than once and you'll see her true colors 3. is exactly correct.... dunno why but females are always onpoint. ur female friends are also very gud cuz somehow even if drs nuthin going on between yu and dem they get very jealous and are quick to spot faults 4. that one is basic.... i'm gonna be cooking with wifey....(from time to time o! and i mean from very long time to very long time) 5. command her respect... but don't command her all the time. one day she might just flare up and refuse to do as you command..what are you going to do then especially if she makes her own money? beat her? divorce her? starve her of that thing? (yea ryt ). the day she finds out thta your commands are merely barks without bites then ur respect goes down by 75%7. na brother...wen i get in it im in it everday, all day and all the way. saying i do will be crossing the rubicon and burning the bridges for me and it should be for everyone too! 4 Likes |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by sunny3kng(m): 3:45am On Aug 17, 2013 |
Its obvious the OP just conjured up all these trash. I choose to belive what the Word of God says...any way I don't blame you, I blame your education ***my 2cents, nothing personal*** 1 Like |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by canalily(m): 6:46am On Aug 17, 2013 |
ogugua88: what kind of domestic abuse, humm? Thats y i said if there is that true lv 4rm a true heart, nothing lyk domestic abuse. Our hearts are hardend i repeat! ! If we embrace the mind of christ truely, i doubt any form of domestic abuse. |
| Re: Advice for Future Husbands by Nobody: 8:07am On Aug 17, 2013 |
Skinni10ne: @Ogugua88 Isn't a divorce considered a rainy day? No one expects a divorce in the same token that no one expects a spouse to die young and suddenly or be maimed and rendered disabled. These are some reasons why people seek independent women, just in case. About prenups, I don't think being sure has anything to do with it. A lot of divorcees were certain that their spouses wouldn't hurt them, and they ended up hurt and unprepared for post-marital life. I'm sure I won't crash my car because I'm a safe driver, but I wear my seatbelt anyway.  2 Likes |
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