chaircover: If I understand Biolas big grammer he is saying that once upon a time a lady would see it as the norm to cook and clean for her boyfirend

if so . . .then yes . .a long long time ago. But then, there weren't as many disappointments as now and you to a certain degree you knew that you will en up marrying your boyfriend but these days there is no guarantee whatsoever from either side, so people try and protect themselves.

You are far too kind!!

CC true, so many men taking opportunity of women and laughing at them calling the desperate for cooking and cleaning.

I don't even support the practice of acting wife when you are not one. You meet a guy the next week you are in his house making soup washing his clothes, then at the end of the day he marries a lady who doesn't even cook or entered the kitchen self, as you said its the disappointment that has changed that practice

However, My own point was not even that just to show that some cultural practices on courtship leaves so much room for error.

passionate88: I never saw that during my stay in the north. Kaduna to be precise, the women wether extremely wealthy, wealthy, rich, middle class or poor breast feed their child/ren. They cook and serve their husband. I even know of an ABU nurse that divorced his 3rd wife just because she couldn't cook on time when it was her turn to

Like I said "Real" Islamic Law, which may or may not be practiced.

debrief08:

Like I said "Real" Islamic Law, which may or may not be practiced.

If it ain't practice, then it isn't that relevant/concrete

chaircover: Funny enough Debrief it also goes the other way too and that is why boys should be taught how to cook and clean. Some long throat lazy men are married to the wrong woman because all she was good at was cooking fresh fish and cleaning the bathroom but has minus zero qualities in other important areas

If a man can cook and take care of his own surroundings, then he wont be caught unawares by Miss Maggi mosquito brain. Many men married for food LOL and when their wives fight them and refuse them food, they are in trouble because they dont even know the way to the kitchen.

Likewise many married women, they marry for the cash.

passionate88: If it ain't practice, then it isn't that relevant/concrete

It is practised Sir, some choose to some choose not to. The Bible says "Do Not Commit Adultery" "Do not Kill" " Do not be Covertous" some choose to obey some choose not to, doesn't make it irrelevant.

passionate88: Likewise many married women, they marry for the cash.

True women who want to marry a man who they can seat back and he works like a donkey to provide for them should also not complain when all he expects from them is to cook and clean.

CC, That is it, everyone should learn to cook, clean and be self sufficient including working with your hands to provide your needs, doesn't do either party good to be totally dependent on the other

chaircover:

LOL . . .many women have their own careers and jobs before they get married. Of course some marry for money, but most educated ones marry for love.

So these women should not go and marry men who believe that all a wife is good for cooking and cleaning their "Big House", same way a woman who wants a man to provide all her needs shouldn't go and marry one who believes she should bring her own part to the table.

Nothing wrong with wanting what you want just be sure you get a partner who agrees with you

chaircover:

LOL . . .many women have their own careers and jobs before they get married. Of course some marry for money, but most educated ones marry for love.

@bolded. STORY. BIG STORY, MONEY is always the motivating factor then she develope love for the man. Na who like to suffer?

Passionate passionate88



LMAO....

biolabee: Passionate passionate88



LMAO....

Mr. Biola, that's the basic truth. There was this thread where the op asked love or money which will you marry for?. All the girls choosed money. That's why I just laugh when I hear or read ladies say they want a "God fearing" man that's tall dark and handsome, they will also add that money is not a motivating factor when it comes to love.

I like clicking on related topics even if it's from 2005, I read one where a girl said when her in laws were coming to pay her dowry, she pleaded with the guy to add some money on top so that she won't be mocked by her relatives

Can you believe that?. That will just give you a glimpse of what is in her mind. MONEY. They want to out do each other, my friend had her honey moon in dubai, I wan to go to Paris. My friend hubby paid 1.5 million as her bride price I want mine to be 2.8 million so that nobody will beat it in 6 years time. Even if there are girls that are in a relationship, not for the money ALONE , they are very few. Very very few.

Passionate,make I ask u.
Where do they pay 1.5 as pride price specifically cos I'm speechless.

yellowpawpaw: Passionate,make I ask u.
Where do they pay 1.5 as pride price specifically cos I'm speechless.

Yellow, use ur head well na. So when my mama dey tell me say "I go kill u when u come house" e mean say she go literally kill me?, na figure of speech. But we all know that to some people "bride price" include the dreaded list. I hope u get my drift?.

Ok o!
*Sighs*
I for say.

yellowpawpaw: Ok o!
*Sighs*
I for say.

abeg o, no say. My hands dey up

I feel you sir


Remember the single thread where this was rehashed extensively.

Girls don't like saying money is a factor because in their mind it should be a given.

Security is a given in their mind dating from when they were gatherers and men were hunters

With modernisation, what I don't get is still why money is still so important to them

You take a working class lady out l,yet she still expects you to pay

passionate88: Mr. Biola, that's the basic truth. There was this thread where the op asked love or money which will you marry for?. All the girls choosed money. That's why I just laugh when I hear or read ladies say they want a "God fearing" man that's tall dark and handsome, they will also add that money is not a motivating factor when it comes to love.

Can you believe that?. That will just give you a glimpse of what is in her mind. MONEY. They want to out do each other, my friend had her honey moon in dubai, I wan to go to Paris. My friend hubby paid 1.5 million as her bride price I want mine to be 2.8 million so that nobody will beat it in 6 years time. Even if there are girls that are in a relationship, not for the money ALONE , they are very few. Very very few.

Mr BB,mind yaself!
I will take u out,buy something for u and still pay for takeaway for iya BB and d baby.

Some r diff anyway. Leave we single ladies alone.

How r u and family?
There is a thread I implicated u, go and defend urself.

Sighs(hunger)

Lol..

Dear ypp,

Family is well.
We will always appreciate a family outing
Who no like awoof

Let me look for the thread though I'm mobile at the moment

It is well

yellowpawpaw: Mr BB,mind yaself!
I will take u out,buy something for u and still pay for takeaway for iya BB and d baby.

Some r diff anyway. Leave we single ladies alone.

How r u and family?
There is a thread I implicated u, go and defend urself.

Sighs(hunger)

yellowpawpaw:
Some r diff anyway.

Yawn**** make I enter kitchen look wether that banga soup wey my mama cook still remain.

^^^ I like you already

So Real!

jidegirl12: ^^^ I like you already

So Real!

Thank you ma..