Olaotan277: I've been dating my girlfriend for a year now and its been going good and normal, I love and respect her a lot and I'm sure she loves me just as well. It's been a long distance thing but we've been coping and we see wen we can.

Not to bore yu with the details of our relationship, I'll cut the story short

About a month ago, she changed towards me... she doesn't wanna talk, always looking for quick ways out of conversations...after trying to figure out what was wrong with her unsuccessfully...I was somehow vexed too and I started to act up, I thought I overdid it wen suddenly, she asked for a break up.

I was shocked, I pleaded with her not to...gave her many reasons not to and after a while, she reconsidered.

But her attitude didn't change, it was as if I was forcing myself on her, and each time I complained, she would say she needs time to be back to normal.

I would chill not to look desperate but my frustrations always got the better of me.

So last night after so much pressing and persuasion, she told me the truth.

She was ambushed and abused sexually by some guys some few weeks back, they were not successful in having an intercourse but what they did wasn't any better.

I think she might have lost her virginity to this unfortunate incident ...but i dont care bout that...i love her no matter what, i understand it is her body and it is her life, i also understand her feelings has been messed with, but i still love her, I havent lost the respect i have for her one bit.

The problem now is that, she is asking for a break up again, in fact, she has broken up...she claims she doesnt love me anymore, she does not need me and she doesn't love anybody anymore, she just wanna be alone, she said many things, mean words to get me to back off but I'm not the type that quits easily.
I love her so much, and i want to help her get through this but she just wont let me.
She has built this wall around herself and she wont lemme in
The only thing i wanna do is help her, but she claims she doesn't even want me to try...
I'm confused and clueless, I dont think i can live life well enough without her cuz she is the best thing to have happened to me.
I need help please

190-the-clown:


when they bang another dude its always the same story!!

sexually abused

190-the-clown:


when they bang another dude its always the same story!!

sexually abused

Guy, don't u have a heart It could be discerned from The girl's attitude that she was molested. So please get serious for once

190-the-clown:


when they bang another dude its always the same story!!

sexually abused

Ab025: Guy, I feel for u bt u have to understand that if she was really raped, and she lost her virginity through rape, things will be hard for u becos she is goin to be xperiencin some psychological trauma for a pretty long time o, my advice is u take it easy on her becos right now, u shud try to be her friend not her luver because she may be having issues trusting a man for a pretty long time, take it easy on her and don't blame her for d main time for not showin u enuf care or returnin ur luv, u shud be d one showin d care for now.

But if u feel u dnt really luv her or want to go all d way with her, then let her be.

isha.salam:
Hey I feel for you but I personally do not believe her story. I might be wrong though.
I think she just wants to do away with you. Simple.
Dont force youself or her into continuing the r/ship cos u both will be frustrated eventually.
Wish you the best.

190-the-clown:


when they bang another dude its always the same story!!

sexually abused

Olaotan277: Thanks, I'm only trying to help her, its not bout me...not even about the relationship...I jus wanna stand by her thru this difficult time and help...but she is literally pushing me away

fluid26: Dude, that girl is a dubious creature, and she's playing extreme mind games with you. Unfortunately, for you, she thinks several moves ahead and is far more intelligent than you may ever be. She was not a virgin while you guys were dating. She was (and probably still is) sexually active, and is pulling this stunt to gain total control of your thoughts and actions.

Her strategy is 'reverse psychology'. She studied your thinking and knew that if she came with the plea bargain formula, you'd have questioned her sincerity and ended the relationship.

Perhaps she's considering you for a long term union (or marriage). That may explain her manipulative strategy to zombify you.

Olaotan277:
I love her so much, and i want to help her get through this but she just wont let me.
She has built this wall around herself and she wont lemme in
The only thing i wanna do is help her, but she claims she doesn't even want me to try...
I'm confused and clueless, I dont think i can live life well enough without her cuz she is the best thing to have happened to me.
I need help please

jay bee:
You don't necessarily have to be tagged as a bf to help her bro. The last thing you had want to do to someone is suffocate them If they think they need a break.
Give her time and if she doesn't come around then simply move the Bleep on.
Don't ever force yourself on someone that doesn't want to be with you ya heard?

mollytinrox: Op no vex o, I go derail your thread small.

Egbon Fluid, how far na? Long time. You just dey dish out them advice sha. Shey when my own time come to seek advice you no go disappoint sha?

@Bro Op, there are many things that go on in a woman's mind that she cannot tell her man. If she is asking to be left alone, let her be. she's told you already now, and begging her and all that will only make her take you for granted. I've witnessed this so i know. please, move on already!

190-the-clown:


when they bang another dude its always the same story!!

sexually abused

Confusionist: the lady had it well planned out
Na only virginity she lost? What abt dignity?

Well, as for the OP, and u don buy the story!

If she was ambushed, she will be nicely fuccked!

If she wasn't fuccked, she won't loose that virginty cos, 'some guys' won't just ambush u to stick a finger in ur 'V'!!!

Well, where the girl be? Dem no born am well?
Abi no be me?

But i reckon say before person go collect banana from monkey, that person go don knw say the monkey's name be SULE!!!

I mean, a dunce! Period!!!
If OP undstnds!

modextus: Op i need to know your name and were you're from and if you're from kano..or you are a student of A.B.U i think we dated the same girl..aand if you're neither, then this girl ιѕ probably telling lies i dated some chic like her.

Olaotan277:
we didn't date the same girl sire

Emmy9ite: Op take it easy my brother. If you are really sure she was ambushed, this is the best opportunity to win her big time. You must prove to her that not all men are the same. Just make sure you stand by her through this trying times. BUT if she still wants you to Let her be, move on bro, you can live without her.

Tholudee: Bro,pls gv her a break.if something is really happening to her,she wl come back to you when she gets over it...if not then you have to move on...some of we ladies when our guys are taking us too important,we mess up...you are important too brov