shericoco661: Am a married woman with two kids,a boy and a girl.when i gave birth to my baby girl my husband ex-girl came to my house.She is married with two kids.that faithful day when she came,i was in the kitchen preparing meal.Fortunately,the girl was my school mate in secondary school.immediately she saw me she told my husband that she knows me too well in school.meanwhile i like to stay on my own then.After telling my husband how i behaved in school then.she then came into my kitchen and opened my fridge,entered all the rooms in my house including my husband's bedroom.i wasnt happy with her attitude that very day.when she was about to go,my husband saw her off.when he came back i was tellin him about the girl's behaviour he then said that he didn't see anything wrong in what she did.then i decided to tell him that i don't want to see her in my house again.what he told me was that she is our family friend.she used to call my husband and am not happy about that.it's true that my husband don't use to hide anything from me but i can't take it just like that.i love my husband and kids.pls advice me on what to do.

Illuminatus:
Did he tell you non explicable that she was his ex girlfriend? If he did, then it's unusual that she's now your FAMILY FRIEND. But that doesn't mean that it's weird. My main concern is the way you said she went into all the rooms. Did you know that she was your husband's best pal before she visited? Even if you did, the way she gave herself express access to EVERYTHING is chilling. Maybe you shouldn't have given your husband the ultimatum. You could talk to him and ask him to explain his relationship with her. If he's as open as you claim, he'll tell you about it which will make feel a little better. But tell him that her access is also frightening. Well, good luck

mozonto: A man has no right in another man´s house

Bigcake: Op if u have hot water pls use it wisely on her face. She is sleeping wit ur husband and perhaps trying to move in hence the reason why she inspected every corner of the house. And to prove it all, ur belove husband saw nothing wrong in her moving round d house. Op does ur house look like an amusement park or museum? Pls secure ur marriage now else u will cry like a baby wen she succeeds. One question, can u also bring ur ex to move round d house in dat manner?

achyc2002: Trust first. If u trust ur husband and believe in what he can do and what he can't, then the whole thing is solved. The lady in question may be an agent of destruction, u need to apply wisdom and don't be carried away by what she does.
But still, always talk to your husband calmly abt it.

Bigcake: Op if u have hot water pls use it wisely on her face. She is sleeping wit ur husband and perhaps trying to move in hence the reason why she inspected every corner of the house. And to prove it all, ur belove husband saw nothing wrong in her moving round d house. Pls secure ur marriage now else u will cry like a baby wen she succeeds. One question, can u also bring ur ex to move round d house in dat manner?

freecocoa: then again it depends on her level of maturity and understanding, it might actually be a harmless visit.

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Bigcake: Op if u have hot water pls use it wisely on her face. She is sleeping wit ur husband and perhaps trying to move in hence the reason why she inspected every corner of the house. And to prove it all, ur belove husband saw nothing wrong in her moving round d house. Pls secure ur marriage now else u will cry like a baby wen she succeeds. One question, can u also bring ur ex to move round d house in dat manner?

freecocoa: I don't see anything wrong in still being friends with one's ex provided boundaries are known and respected.

OP you sound like a very possessive person(not judging) please don't see any woman that comes near your hubby as a threat, such mindset no good at all, though that lady was wrong to go into all the rooms in your house, then again it depends on her level of maturity and understanding, it might actually be a harmless visit.

Just talk to your hubby calmly telling him you don't like his female visitors roaming about the house.

P.S Okafor's law doesn't apply to all exs.

byvan: Slice off this cancer before it ravages your home, you have no business being friends with your husband's ex,what ll you people have to talk about?his anatomy? There is nothing matured about a married person keeping in touch with exes,exes belong to the past and should remain there.I do not know the softie method to solve this,its obvious you are on the soft side . Why didn't you just tell her outrightly"hey,its rude to roam around that way in people's homes,can you kindly go back to the sitting ",looking at your eyes, she wouldn't dare object.Are you sure you know everything about this relationship of theirs

I mean how do you stand and watch your hubby's ex entering into every bedroom in your own home ? ? why ll she be in your home in the first place.Your hubby really need his thinking cap on here, how will he feel if you invite your ex over too ? ? He actually saw her off after the visit?? damn ! ! that's rubbish.However you decide to do it,let this rubbish stop before it becomes 8legged,i don talk my own.

Nashville:

I completely agree with you. In fact the husband sef is very disrespectful. Didn't you guys go for marriage counseling? How can he invite his ex to your house, let her visit every room and even see her off. It may be ok if someone was showing her around but not an ex. Please OP, tell your husband you do not like it at all. Tell him it is rude and disrespectful and there is nothing mature about it. How would he feel if you also invited your ex to see the house?

Tinkybabe:

I don't think there's an excuse whatsoever for what the ex did.She went over the board.What I can infer from the OP's post is that they don't have a connection,doubt if they talk in fact. Her action was a show of gross disrespect to the OP and quite frankly I wouldn't relate OP's outburst to possessiveness.

After all said!Nothing might be between she and your husband,she might just be a froward and forward person. I'll suggest you discuss with your husband,diplomatically expressing your displeasure at her forwardness.