So you've reached that point in your
relationship where you want to take it to the
next level. Some people think that sex is no
big deal, but others see it as something they
only want to share with an extra-special
person. Although you never want to force your
girlfriend to have sex with you, you can always
soothe some of her fears and reassure her that
you really are a person she can fully trust.
After you do this, sex comes naturally.


Part One: Build Her Trust
Be dependable. If you want to make
your girlfriend want to have sex with
you, then you should show her what
an amazingly dependable guy you
are. If your girl is going to trust you
enough to have sex with you, whether
it's her first time or if she's had sex
before, then she has to feel like she
can depend on you. One of her fears
may be that as soon as you have sex,
she won't be able to rely on you
anymore because you would have
gotten what you wanted. So, prove
her wrong by being an upstanding
and dependable guy.
Show up when you say you're
going to show up. If you routinely
pick her up half an hour late for
your dates, she'll think that you
don't think she's so special, and
she'll be less likely to have sex
with you.

Don't be a flake. If you say you're
going to take her to the beach
over the weekend, do it. If you
don't stick to your word, she won't
be able to trust you.
Be her rock. Let her talk to you
about her problems and
insecurities while knowing that
you can make her feel better.
Don't go hours or even a day or
two without returning her phone
calls or texts. This will make her
feel like she can't depend on you.
Give it time. Some guys can be
ready to have sex with a girl in the
time it takes to down a beer, while
some girls can take months, or even
longer, to decide that they're ready
to make love. And some girls -- sorry,
gentlemen -- are really adamant
about holding out for the one, and
don't even want to have sex before
marriage. So, don't rush into it -- wait
for the girl to trust you first.
If your girl is barely comfortable
with kissing, then you shouldn't
bring up the "s-word" for a while.
However, if you and your
girlfriend are already comfortable
hooking up in bed all the time
after just a few weeks, then you
can start thinking about taking it
to the next level.
If you want to make your
girlfriend want to have sex with
you, the worst thing you can do is
bring it up or try to force it when
it's way too early. This will turn
your girlfriend off and will make
her much less likely to sleep with
you.

Don't act like you're obsessed
with sex . Let's face it -- if you're a
male of a certain age who is
desperate for his girlfriend to have
sex with him, then you probably are
obsessed with sex. But that doesn't
mean you have to make jokes,
innuendos, or even blatant references
to sex all the time. The last thing you
want your girlfriend to think is that
you're a horndog who is so obsessed
with sex that you don't care which
lady comes into your bed. You should
make her feel special, like you want
only her.
You don't have to hide the fact
that you're a man with needs, but
you should avoid being vulgar,
talking about sex all the time, or
talking about other people who
have sex all the time.

Don't make derogatory comments
about other women. This will
make your girlfriend feel like a
piece of meat. Remember that
you're not with your bros, but
with your special lady.
Be loyal. If you want to make your
girlfriend trust you, then you have to
be loyal to her. She'll never have sex
with you if she thinks you're talking
to or checking out other women, or
even hanging out with other women.
Though you don't have to be rude to
or ignore other women, you should
have a laser-sharp focus on your
girlfriend so she knows that you will
always be there for her, especially
after you start having sex.

Spend lots of time with her. Make
sure that you plan at least one or
two dates every week, and that
you check in with her at least
once a day if you're not together.
There's a difference between
being loyal and being possessive
and smothering your girlfriend
with affection. You should make a
point of seeing her when you both
want to hang out, but don't try to
see her 24/7 or she'll begin to pull
back.
You should not only show your
girl that you're loyal by being
loyal to her, but by showing that
you're a loyal sibling, friend, and
teammate. Show loyalty in many
aspects of your life and your girl
will be impressed.


Part Two: Treat Her Well
Treat her like a lady. If you want
your girlfriend to have sex with you,
then you should treat her like a lady,
not just like someone you want to
hook up with. To do this, you have to
be a gentleman and be courteous,
kind, understanding, and generally
admirable. Open doors for her, give
her your coat when she's cold, pull
out chairs for her, and help her carry
her heavy bags.
Make sure to compliment her to
let her know how great she looks
or how special she is.
It's important to be a gentleman,
but don't do anything that feels
too unnatural to you, or she'll be
able to tell that you're not being
yourself.

Clean your home. This may sound
silly, but if you want your girlfriend
to really feel special, then you
shouldn't invite her to hang out at
your place if it looks like the set for
World War Z. You need to make sure
to remove any dirty laundry off your
floor, clean your counters, and make
your bed look and smell as clean and
inviting as possible.
Not only will this make your lady
feel special, but it'll make her feel
more inclined to have sex with
you. She won't want to get it on if
your bed is covered in candy
wrappers and dirty underwear.
If you drive her around a lot, you
should also keep a clean car. Give
your lady the respect she
deserves by making sure she has a
clean seat.
Show an interest in all of her --
not just her body . Your girl's
biggest fear may be that you don't
care at all about her mind because
you're too busy obsessing over her
body. So, you have to prove her
wrong. Show her that you are about
who she is as a person, about her
hopes and dreams, and about what
makes her tick.
Ask her about her friendships, her
childhood, and her favorite
experiences.
Show her that you value her
opinion. Ask her what she thinks
about the current political
situation in your state, or about
the state of your new outfit.
Make eye contact when you talk to
her. Show her that everything she
says is important to you.
Take her out on romantic dates. If
you want to build the sexual tension,
you have to build the romance first.
Make her feel special by taking her
out, dressing up, and picking a
romantic spot for dinner, a drink, or
even just for stargazing. You don't
have to do anything corny or out of
your element to make her feel special.
Though you and your lady can
have fun at baseball games,
birthday parties, or at a loud,
sweaty concert, these events will
be less conducive to lovemaking.
Doing something romantic once in
a while will show your lady that
she really matters to you.

Be attentive to her needs. If you're
not attentive to your lady's everyday
needs, then how will you be attentive
in the bedroom? Your girl needs to
feel like you know when she's sad,
nervous, anxious, or even just cold or
hungry. Pay attention to her eyes,
her body language, and her words to
know if there's something bothering
her. If you act completely oblivious
when she's obviously upset about
something, then she'll think you're
not really paying attention to her.
If something's wrong, don't be
afraid to ask her what's up. This
will only show that you care.
Make sure she's ready to have sex.
If you really want to treat your lady
well, then you have to be able to have
an idea about whether or not she's
ready for sex. If you're her first
boyfriend, if she's sexually
inexperienced, or if she's deeply
religious or has other moral
convictions that make her steadfast
about not having sex, then you
should back off and wait for her to
trust you enough to even consider
having sex with you. But here are
some ways to know if she does want
to have sex with you:
If things have been getting hot
and heavy in the hook up
department, then she may be
ready to move forward.
If she's been talking about sex,
giving you sexual compliments,
and touching you a lot more, then
she may be ready for sex.
If she's been hinting that she
wants to sleep over, spends a lot
of time in or near your bed, or
invites you over late at night, then
she may be ready for more
intimacy.
If she has deep moral or religious
convictions that make her not
want to have sex, don't try to
force it. Accept that some girls
will never have sex until they're
married, and that there's nothing
you can do to change that.


Part Three: Turn Her On
Be prepared. If you plan on trying to
have sex, or even talking about
having sex with your girl, then you
should be prepared with some
condoms in case the mood strikes
her. This doesn't mean that you
should flash the condoms or make her
feel uncomfortable, but it does mean
that you should have some backup
just in case things do go in a
favorable direction.
If she wants to have sex and you
have to run out to the drug store
for some condoms, this may make
your first sexual experience fall
flat.

Set the mood. If you want your girl
to have sex with you, then you have
to set the mood. You should start the
evening by doing something romantic
to soften her up. Then, go back to
your (clean) apartment, which should
be stocked with red wine, grapes,
chocolate, and some light jazz on the
radio. Light the candles and turn the
radio on to get her in a romantic
mindset, and offer her something to
eat or drink.
If this feels corny, you should only
do what makes you both get in the
mood. If you just want to dim the
lights instead of lighting candles,
then that's fine too.

Kiss her. If you want your girl to
have sex with you, then you have to
be a master kisser. Even if you've
been kissing for a while, you should
still know how to kiss her in a variety
of ways and make your kisses feel
fresh. Don't overwhelm her and grope
her the second you lock lips. Instead,
take it slow, grazing your lips as you
touch her hair or stroke her face.
Take breaks from kissing so she
has time to come up for air and
want you even more.
You are not very likely to have sex
with your girlfriend if all you've
done is kiss. It takes a bit longer
for things to reach a natural
progression.

Play hard to get. If you really want
to make your girlfriend want you,
then you shouldn't act like a sexual
beast, moving rapidly from kissing to
touching, to ripping off your clothes
and practically levitating into the
bedroom. Instead, you should kiss
your girlfriend for a few seconds,
then hold back, stroke her, and talk
to her. Repeat this move a few times
and wait for her to go wild.[1]
Why does playing hard to get
work? Because this will make your
girlfriend feel like you like her,
but that you're in control of your
desires and aren't desperate to
get your hands all over her -- even
if you are.
This move will make her want to
be the one who asks for more.
Touch her. If you want to turn on
your girlfriend, you can start
thinking about doing more than just
kissing. Begin by lightly caressing
her arms, the back of her head and
hair, and then, as things progress,
stroke her breasts under her shirt or
wait for her to touch you. If your
clothes are off or partly off, you can
kiss her breasts or touch her through
her underwear to get her in the
mood.
Just make sure that your actions
are reciprocated -- if you're
touching her and she just lies
there and doesn't make noise or
do anything, then you're probably
making her uncomfortable. Make
sure she's ready for more before
you proceed.
If you're already in the bedroom
and hooking up, then you can
simply ask her if she's ready to
have sex with you. This doesn't
have to be elaborate or corny --
just say, "Are you sure you're
ready?" and be prepared for any
answer.

Don't ever pressure her. If your
girlfriend says she's not ready to have
sex with you, then you shouldn't
pressure her. Don't try making any
arguments -- saying things like, "But
we've been together for so long,"
"Everyone else is doing it," or "But I
really, really like you," isn't going to
make her feel any better. In fact,
trying to reason with her will only
make her more frustrated, annoyed,
and much less likely to sleep with
you.



Dhurmynick

Ok

sweet sweet

"Nautically"

Aint much of a big deal anyways