she left with out saying a word,and now she wants me back,after refusing to pick my call,see or even visit for the past 9 months,
we dated for 3 years,am in love with another,tell me what i should do ?

lets not be too hard here, invite her over and tell her u are in a new relationship, u dont need to hide from her and avoid her, just tell her the plain truth that while she left, u were heart broken but now u are in a relationship which u dont want to jeopardise, what has she been doing since 9 months wthout a word of explanation

chidalo:

she left with out saying a word,and now she wants me back,after refusing to pick my call,see or even visit for the past 9 mouths,
we dated for 3 years,am in one with another,tell me what i should do ?

Close all 9 mouths and say NOTHING!    she will get it in the end  

@OP
Guys that ask that sort of question makes me very mad
first question:Are u not a man
what sort of silly question are you asking
The girl dump your sorry backside for 9 good month and u're here asking what you should do,
You should know the answer to that question except you're either very silly or dumb like your ex figures you are,

Come back and tell us the answer and stop waiting our precious time here with your dumb question


Am actually very irritated with the op @ the dumb question

Girl wey no give you respect after going round the block she now feels that you want the left-over like a dog,

Is not how long u out for previously but how you were treated while in the relationship.

^^^ Guy you're too gbaski.

^^
and u zombie u too like blood~

SA Goddess:

Close all 9 mouths and say NOTHING! she will get it in the end

lmao,

It is a fair comment based on the post nah

Ignore her long enough and she'll get the message.

If U must speak with her make sure the time U have for that is seeded in between two more important appointments. 5mins should do, and tell ur new gf bout it before meeting up with the ex. Set it up for a public place U didn't spend good times in while U were together. At work would be good.

Three years is enough time for any smart person to have most of U as a person figured out. The most formidable "foes" are born from the very best of friends. If Ur new relationship is at all important to U, considering I assume those were three intimate years, U will use some or all of my advice.

An ex calling U is usually up t no good. Esp just 9months after.

You sucked 9 mouths!!!

AT first,do u think u both can trust each other again?if yr answer is NO!ithink u shld let her go but u can still be friends.

How poster take know say na exactly 9 mouths suck am? Does he know if any other human parts did anything too? That girl must like guys going downtown lots!

You have a new girl so whats your problem, do you want to return to your vomit?

How poster know say na exactly 9 mouths suck am? The girl must like guys going downtown lots.

@poster
Do you know if any other human parts (esp 3rd legs) did anything to her?

Well the topic got me lost there 4 a minute,if you are happy with your new love,why do you need anyone to tell you what to do?

Freecocoa how are you doing today.

@kay,am doing beautiful dear,hope you are great too.

freecocoa:

@kay,am doing beautiful dear,hope you are great too.

Good to hear that, am cool too! Just want to tell you how much I fancy your profile picture, you look yummy there. Anything for me

@kay,thanks,anything like what?you gatta be a lil more specific.

freecocoa:

@kay,thanks,anything like what?you gatta be a lil more specific.

Freecocoa you dey make me fall in love, fall love ooo, fall i love

Kay abeg make sure say u no wound as you dey fall,chei!how we do am naw as me no follow you dey fall?

All my body don peel self blood dey come out, you come dey make me summersault again, I don enter wahala ooo,

Take am easy o,if to say i dey near i for help you dress the wound,ok no worry i go catch you when you b4 u land as you summersalt,u hear.

haha, you better no wound yourself ooo, my weight big pass the one wey you go fit carry ooo

Ok,but i no want make you wound again o.

ok I go try to do that, If promise me your love,

I 4 like promise you o but somebody don collect am already.

I think you really love this girl

If not, you will not come to this extent to lament about her

Anyway, i suggest you try and continue with her

Let her know you still care about and love her all the same

shower her with some gifts and what have you

You'll never know the value of what you have until you lose it

Your advice dey too fantastic, by monday DHL go come deliver some nice things for her, am going to shop for her at harrods later in the dey, :

Kay,he was writing to the poster and not you.

freecocoa:

Kay,he was writing to the poster and not you.

lol, I thought he was even happy and advising me, Even at that what I have in stock for you from harrods will be delivered to you on monday morning by DHL.