"A good lasting relationship is one which never holds a grudge and makes good use of every opportunity to make things right. ""
Today I want to share with you
something that is very
important in not just your
relationships but our everyday
lives. It has nothing to do with
gender, age or race; no
preference at all. Three words
that make extra impact than
their actual meaning.
Some of you guys might be
wondering what inspired me to
write about this, but the truth is
something very important did.
About a year ago, I lost my
mum(God bless and rest her
soul) and before I did, we had
this big argument. Then I saw
all the wrongs in my right and
decided to go and apologize. I
went and asked her to forgive
me. She did. Then I travelled to
Port-Harcourt and she died few
days later in an accident. Too
many questions, too many
unsaid words and expressions,
but now my point in this shared
story is: what if I never
apologized and I travelled with
anger and hate in me?
One, I will never have gotten a
chance to right my wrongs.
Two, I will probably never
forgive myself for my actions.
Three, I will never live past the
guilt.
Notice how the word 'never' is
used repeatedly in these
statements. It just shows how
serious it can be. You might just
have one opportunity to make
everything work, but because of
ego and pride you let it all away.
A lot of us let pride and ego take
the best part of our life that we
forget what is and what should
be.
For example there are certain
men that believe that a woman
should always apologize when
there is an argument. This
school of thought should be
corrected because really anyone
could be wrong. It takes the
bigger person to accept the
responsibility and make
amends. There are also other
people who believe that the
benefits of “seniority” include
junior ones apologizing to
senior ones, even when they are
obviously not guilty. All these
examples might seem mere to
you now but most people
actually live by it. “I am older
than that Jane girl so why
should I apologize first? Am I
her mate?” Thoughts like this
only make you a big
shareholder in Regrets Plc. #
teamNOGAINS
I remember my last year in
school, my final week precisely.
I had a stupid funny argument
with my best Friend Cynthia
and because of that she didn't
appear in any of my Ankara Day
pictures. Till today, I look
through my album and just
wish I walked up to her that day
and apologized and took a
picture to make us remember
that day together. The argument
we had was not even worth
taking that moment away! Not
even close. I can't even
remember what we argued
about but every look at that
album takes me back to that
day without her in the pictures.
Sadly, pride took all that away
and that's only because I let it.
Imagine the case of one of my
Friend, whose permission I
have taken before sharing this.
She said she had been keeping
malice with her boyfriend for
about two weeks over
something she couldn't even
remember ,and she had no way
to break their silence. She really
missed him and had a lot of
things she wanted to share. She
wished she did otherwise
because everything that
happened was her fault. She let
the opportunity to make it right
for a whole two weeks pass by.
She was unhappy and
disturbed. She could have saved
herself this much stress by just
simply admitting she was wrong
and owning up to it.
The mistake most people make is that they keep waiting for the other person to apologize first because they think if they
apologize first, it makes them
weak. That's a big
misconception. Rather, the one
who is the first to offer a
handshake of peace is actually
showing a deeper and bigger
level of maturity.
My dear friends and loved ones,
my point in this whole long
story is for you to learn how to
say you are sorry. Show it in
your actions, say it with words,
write it, sing it, look it; just
make the message clear.
Because every extra moment
you spend apart for not saying
how sorry you are is an extra
baggage of regret in the future.
A good lasting relationship is
one which never holds a grudge
and makes good use of every
opportunity to make things
right. When you are ready and
willing to apologize, you do
yourself a favour by first
satisfying your conscience, and
then transferring the guilt and
pressure of your wrong to the
other person or persons
involved. If I can take a bold
step to apologize, it’s up to you
to meet me half way and forgive
me! As hard as it is to own up to
your wrongs, it is easier and
mind-relaxing when you do.
Don't forget every added second
to life is a blessing! Don't waste
it on regrets.

nice read...
unfortunately !!! the youths of nowadays are so overwhelmed by purposeless pride...
this particular topic affected. me in my relationship until I learnt to. say. sorry even when She's d 1 @ fault.
these days we keep saying sorry to each other to the extent that we don't even know when the other is @ fault..
Lol...life's already hard.. y make it harder?

Mens might mean am sorry but he won't say it...but womens say it but never mean it...

It's all her fault, but am sure gonna apologise on sunday.

Summary pls...

Nice write up but if u do smthing bad and u apologise for it i dont expect u to repeat the same thing that hurt me.I prefer u dont say sorry if u dont really mean it than say sorry just for saying sake cos if i apologise to when i offend u i mean it and make every concious effort not to repeat that same offence.I hate people who say sorry just for saying sake.

Op...

More grase to ur elbow... But dere are limits to where all dis apology things can go... When someone wrongs u and u let it pass a time will come when dai will begin to take u for granted.. And d cases u analyzed are ones in which u knw u are at fault but f its d oda person dat is at fault n refuses to apologise will i now go apologise to him for wronging m.. Definitely not

Ok. first, op am sorry for nt reading evrytin u wrote there.

Second, to all the Nlders guys i ve insulted..., am sorry.

Third, to all the Nlders sistas i ve insulted...., am sorry.

Fourt, to all the guys i ate their money and played a fast one..., am sorry.

And, finally, to all the witches and wizards in my office..., am sorry too.

op, nice write-up........som peeps stil trying to pass d buck, i wonda wen d blame game is gonna end in dis country.

You keep doing hurtful things and think a simple sorry will make it all go away.

nyere84: Ok. first, op am sorry for nt reading evrytin u wrote there.

Second, to all the Nlders guys i ve insulted..., am sorry.

Third, to all the Nlders sistas i ve insulted...., am sorry.

And, finally, to all the witches and wizards in my office..., am sorry too.

aunty... that ur picture na elele o...chai!!!

nyere84: Ok. first, op am sorry for nt reading evrytin u wrote there.

Second, to all the Nlders guys i ve insulted..., am sorry.

Third, to all the Nlders sistas i ve insulted...., am sorry.

And, finally, to all the witches and wizards in my office..., am sorry too.

Lol........this really crack me up.

sexkillz: Nice. . . Btw, the man is not always taller than the woman.

Bro,please forward this to the Front Page. There are alot of lessons to be learnt.

Danhumprey: Bro,please forward this to the Front Page. There are alot of lessons to be learnt.

seconded!!

wasak:
seconded!!

Thank you. Front Page seem dry today.

wasak:
seconded!!

thirded

poshdiva: You keep doing hurtful things and think a simple sorry will make it all go away.

my dear,dats why deir is a thing as forgiveness.....even though som rili dn't deserve it, u stil hav to forgive anyway. its far beta dan to kip hate and grudge in d mind

I usually don't believe that there is love @ first sight. But from what have seen so far from your profile pix. There is really love @ first sight. Controversy I am really in love with u.

send me your contact asap.

Danhumprey: Thank you. Front Page seem dry today.

Fourthed, i insist this is a front page material. Pple may turn a new leaf with this thread.

Hmmm. Nice writeup.

Thanks op. You don't no what you just did for me. God bless you.

I am really sorry for opening this thread....