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Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Controversy: 8:18pm On Oct 30, 2013 |
"A good lasting relationship is one which never holds a grudge and makes good use of every opportunity to make things right. "" Today I want to share with you something that is very important in not just your relationships but our everyday lives. It has nothing to do with gender, age or race; no preference at all. Three words that make extra impact than their actual meaning. Some of you guys might be wondering what inspired me to write about this, but the truth is something very important did. About a year ago, I lost my mum(God bless and rest her soul) and before I did, we had this big argument. Then I saw all the wrongs in my right and decided to go and apologize. I went and asked her to forgive me. She did. Then I travelled to Port-Harcourt and she died few days later in an accident. Too many questions, too many unsaid words and expressions, but now my point in this shared story is: what if I never apologized and I travelled with anger and hate in me? One, I will never have gotten a chance to right my wrongs. Two, I will probably never forgive myself for my actions. Three, I will never live past the guilt. Notice how the word 'never' is used repeatedly in these statements. It just shows how serious it can be. You might just have one opportunity to make everything work, but because of ego and pride you let it all away. A lot of us let pride and ego take the best part of our life that we forget what is and what should be. For example there are certain men that believe that a woman should always apologize when there is an argument. This school of thought should be corrected because really anyone could be wrong. It takes the bigger person to accept the responsibility and make amends. There are also other people who believe that the benefits of “seniority” include junior ones apologizing to senior ones, even when they are obviously not guilty. All these examples might seem mere to you now but most people actually live by it. “I am older than that Jane girl so why should I apologize first? Am I her mate?” Thoughts like this only make you a big shareholder in Regrets Plc. # teamNOGAINS I remember my last year in school, my final week precisely. I had a stupid funny argument with my best Friend Cynthia and because of that she didn't appear in any of my Ankara Day pictures. Till today, I look through my album and just wish I walked up to her that day and apologized and took a picture to make us remember that day together. The argument we had was not even worth taking that moment away! Not even close. I can't even remember what we argued about but every look at that album takes me back to that day without her in the pictures. Sadly, pride took all that away and that's only because I let it. Imagine the case of one of my Friend, whose permission I have taken before sharing this. She said she had been keeping malice with her boyfriend for about two weeks over something she couldn't even remember ,and she had no way to break their silence. She really missed him and had a lot of things she wanted to share. She wished she did otherwise because everything that happened was her fault. She let the opportunity to make it right for a whole two weeks pass by. She was unhappy and disturbed. She could have saved herself this much stress by just simply admitting she was wrong and owning up to it. The mistake most people make is that they keep waiting for the other person to apologize first because they think if they apologize first, it makes them weak. That's a big misconception. Rather, the one who is the first to offer a handshake of peace is actually showing a deeper and bigger level of maturity. My dear friends and loved ones, my point in this whole long story is for you to learn how to say you are sorry. Show it in your actions, say it with words, write it, sing it, look it; just make the message clear. Because every extra moment you spend apart for not saying how sorry you are is an extra baggage of regret in the future. A good lasting relationship is one which never holds a grudge and makes good use of every opportunity to make things right. When you are ready and willing to apologize, you do yourself a favour by first satisfying your conscience, and then transferring the guilt and pressure of your wrong to the other person or persons involved. If I can take a bold step to apologize, it’s up to you to meet me half way and forgive me! As hard as it is to own up to your wrongs, it is easier and mind-relaxing when you do. Don't forget every added second to life is a blessing! Don't waste it on regrets. 5 Likes
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Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Nobody: 8:38pm On Oct 30, 2013 |
Nice. . . Btw, the man is not always taller than the woman. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by wasak(m): 8:43pm On Oct 30, 2013 |
nice read... unfortunately !!! the youths of nowadays are so overwhelmed by purposeless pride... this particular topic affected. me in my relationship until I learnt to. say. sorry even when She's d 1 @ fault. these days we keep saying sorry to each other to the extent that we don't even know when the other is @ fault.. Lol...life's already hard.. y make it harder? |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Gabrielsylar(m): 8:58pm On Oct 30, 2013 |
Mens might mean am sorry but he won't say it...but womens say it but never mean it... |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by clixa: 10:05pm On Oct 30, 2013 |
Yea, to say i am sorry is good but it become really fuvking boring when it pass it's limit. Some people do say i am sorry for saying seek, but in their mind they aint really sorry. It's better to stay away from such people than always hearing the fuvking fake sorry. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Slyder(m): 11:30pm On Oct 30, 2013 |
It's all her fault, but am sure gonna apologise on sunday. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Exponental(m): 7:17am On Oct 31, 2013 |
Summary pls... |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Popowaa: 7:44am On Oct 31, 2013 |
Nice write up but if u do smthing bad and u apologise for it i dont expect u to repeat the same thing that hurt me.I prefer u dont say sorry if u dont really mean it than say sorry just for saying sake cos if i apologise to when i offend u i mean it and make every concious effort not to repeat that same offence.I hate people who say sorry just for saying sake. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by temi4fash(m): 8:01am On Oct 31, 2013 |
Op... More grase to ur elbow... But dere are limits to where all dis apology things can go... When someone wrongs u and u let it pass a time will come when dai will begin to take u for granted.. And d cases u analyzed are ones in which u knw u are at fault but f its d oda person dat is at fault n refuses to apologise will i now go apologise to him for wronging m.. Definitely not 1 Like |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Nobody: 10:08am On Oct 31, 2013 |
Ok. first, op am sorry for nt reading evrytin u wrote there. Second, to all the Nlders guys i ve insulted..., am sorry. Third, to all the Nlders sistas i ve insulted...., am sorry. Fourt, to all the guys i ate their money and played a fast one..., am sorry. And, finally, to all the witches and wizards in my office..., am sorry too. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by shegxi(m): 10:20am On Oct 31, 2013 |
op, nice write-up........som peeps stil trying to pass d buck, i wonda wen d blame game is gonna end in dis country. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Nobody: 10:21am On Oct 31, 2013 |
You keep doing hurtful things and think a simple sorry will make it all go away. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by wasak(m): 12:27pm On Oct 31, 2013 |
nyere84: Ok. first, op am sorry for nt reading evrytin u wrote there.aunty... that ur picture na elele o...chai!!! |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Danhumprey: 12:51pm On Oct 31, 2013 |
nyere84: Ok. first, op am sorry for nt reading evrytin u wrote there.Lol........this really crack me up. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Danhumprey: 12:59pm On Oct 31, 2013 |
sexkillz: Nice. . . Btw, the man is not always taller than the woman.Bro,please forward this to the Front Page. There are alot of lessons to be learnt. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by wasak(m): 1:01pm On Oct 31, 2013 |
Danhumprey: Bro,please forward this to the Front Page. There are alot of lessons to be learnt.seconded!! |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Danhumprey: 1:04pm On Oct 31, 2013 |
wasak:Thank you. Front Page seem dry today. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Nobody: 1:16pm On Oct 31, 2013 |
wasak:thirded |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by homesteady(m): 1:46pm On Oct 31, 2013 |
The mistake most people make is that they
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Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by shegxi(m): 2:24pm On Oct 31, 2013 |
poshdiva: You keep doing hurtful things and think a simple sorry will make it all go away.my dear,dats why deir is a thing as forgiveness.....even though som rili dn't deserve it, u stil hav to forgive anyway. its far beta dan to kip hate and grudge in d mind |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by dckng16(m): 10:00am On Nov 11, 2013 |
I usually don't believe that there is love @ first sight. But from what have seen so far from your profile pix. There is really love @ first sight. Controversy I am really in love with u. send me your contact asap. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Nobody: 12:32am On Dec 19, 2013 |
Danhumprey: Thank you. Front Page seem dry today.Fourthed, i insist this is a front page material. Pple may turn a new leaf with this thread. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by Nobody: 12:38am On Dec 19, 2013 |
Hmmm. Nice writeup. Thanks op. You don't no what you just did for me. God bless you. |
Re: Go Ahead, Say You're Sorry by thiefnubu(m): 10:15am On Dec 19, 2013 |
I am really sorry for opening this thread.... |
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