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5 Daddys' Wahala Affecting Their Daughters' Relationship by simplyOJ(m): 10:26am On Oct 31, 2013
There are perhaps a million reasons why single women are plagued with relationship obstacles. Therapists often cite "Daddy Issues" as a reason for the problems that some women have with men. Most will agree that the kind of relationship a woman has with her father plays heavily into the romantic decisions she makes as an adult. But not all Daddy Issues are the same.

1. The Absent Father:

Relationship Problem: Hidden Resentment Against Men.

The Absent Father is perhaps the most popular problem that many children are faced with. In this case, the daughter knows who her father is, but has little to no contact with him. Maybe Dad died when she was very young. Maybe relations between the parents were so strained that communication with Dad is non-existent. More often than not, the absent father is the subject of resentment by one or more parties in the household. As a result, some women grow up believing that men are "supposed" to abandon their families. They enter relationships with a defensive approach to love.

2. The Absentee Father:

Relationship Problem: Confused Expectations.

In this scenario, the father lived in the household with his family, but was often emotionally or physically missing a good deal of the time. Men who travel extensively or work long hours usually have less time to spend with their offspring. These dads sometimes make up for their shortcomings by providing material things instead of bonding emotionally with their daughters. Like girls raised with absent fathers, these women frequently grow up with a skewed perspective of the male role in households. Some women ultimately seek out men who are emotionally distant. Others may send mixed messages to their significant others---a caveat to any smooth romance.

3. The Missing Father:

Relationship Problem: "Overcompensation"

This is the dad who simply was non-existent. Some little girls have no idea what their fathers look like. Some don't even know their names. In any case, the missing father can cause just as many issues as the dad who was in the house each and every day. Having a great big Question Mark for a dad can have all sorts of effects. Promiscuity and/or relaxed boundaries are just a few of the results of dealing with a Missing Father. The circumstances surrounding the dad who just "doesn't exist" usually dictate how a woman feels about men as romantic partners. Feelings of abandonment may prompt a woman to "overcompensate" in various ways for her father's absence.

4. The "Terrible" Dad:

Relationship Problem: Extreme Mistrust.

Then there is the father who made life for his child a living hell. Usually, these relationships are so dysfunctional that even after therapy, the scars are still tender. Any kind of tension or abuse has the potential to completely derail an otherwise normal dating existence. A woman who harbors negative feelings for her father will more than likely carry some of these emotions over into her love life. These women distrust men, and often enter romances from a defensive position.

5. The Overly Doting Dad:

Relationship Problem: Sense of Self-Entitlement

On the other end of the spectrum is the dad who took the phrase "Daddy's Little Girl" a bit too far. Nothing Daddy's little girl could do could ever upset the doting father. As such, these little princesses sometimes grow up to become what the world likes to call spoil brats. This assessment may not be entirely fair. But some women who have been over-indulged by their fathers are very difficult to please; no man they encounter can compete with the extravagant treatment they've received. These women may even find that their social/domestic skills have been hindered as a result.
Re: 5 Daddys' Wahala Affecting Their Daughters' Relationship by rhazhaqh: 10:33am On Oct 31, 2013
Daddy's effect!
Re: 5 Daddys' Wahala Affecting Their Daughters' Relationship by Jordanmusa(m): 11:16am On Oct 31, 2013
Psychologically true, just about every young nigerian girl born in the 80s and 90s fall into one of the five categories. No wonder they have nasty expectations from men!
Re: 5 Daddys' Wahala Affecting Their Daughters' Relationship by Nobody: 11:52am On Oct 31, 2013
angry
Re: 5 Daddys' Wahala Affecting Their Daughters' Relationship by Danhumprey: 12:31pm On Oct 31, 2013
So true,most especially number 5. embarassed
Re: 5 Daddys' Wahala Affecting Their Daughters' Relationship by crackhaus: 12:45pm On Oct 31, 2013
Has anyone ever heard of getting your sh1t together and moving on?
That's good advise for anyone with daddy or mommy issues, #I'mJustSaying...

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