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Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by greatgod2012(f): 5:20am On Nov 02, 2013 |
bellong: this is one of the reasons why the op is finding it difficult to let her go, the op himself, as godly as he claim to be do not see anything wrong with cohabitation, which is a sure sign of faulty foundation, and secondly, he has taken the forbidden fruit with her, hence, his confusion. He doesnt want the girl to accuse him of being used and dumped, but marriage is more than that, remember it's till death do you part, except you believe otherwise. A broken engagement is better that a broken marriage, IMO. op, seek for forgiveness from God and from her, tell her you can no longer cope with her greed, untrustworthy and not having respect for other people's marriage, because, frauding a married man is definitely going to have effect in that man's marriage, separate amicably with her, then, in your next relationship, be careful and be more focused, like Bellong said, there are so many simple ways you can text an indeed Godly girl and she wont know she is being tested. May God help you. P. S.......please and please, let that girl go, she'll definitely meet her type. It is well. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 7:03am On Nov 02, 2013 |
Please where did the OP say they were cohabiting? Could be the lady went visiting. Op, come and clear this up. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by wwwlord: 7:11am On Nov 02, 2013 |
bellong: @Op, You've made some great comments and they are well noted but read what i wrote again,sending her out of my apartment when she came to beg doesnt mean sending her packing. Not sure i mention ever cohabiting there. thank you |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 7:50am On Nov 02, 2013 |
wwwlord: I thought as much. . . |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by greatgod2012(f): 8:06am On Nov 02, 2013 |
wwwlord: Thanks for clarifying. You may disregard my point above on cohabitation then. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Acidosis(m): 8:41am On Nov 02, 2013 |
All these church fellowship girls should pls stop embarrasing Jesus Christ.. This is the reason why I despise new generational fa. gots on suit, tie & pimped hair... They'll never tell these ash.awo choristers & fellowship girls the truth.. ..But messages of grace to cheat, sin & speak in tongues with heads uncovered.. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 8:47am On Nov 02, 2013 |
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Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 8:49am On Nov 02, 2013 |
Wow. 24 Year old trying to collect 170k for her convocation from a married man abroad....mehnnn that girl na sharp runz girl ooo. Sooner or later, she will milk more than 170k from you when she starts with you. She will place u like a trophy on a shelf to show off and brag to her so called friends! A big Golden fish at last! Move on with ur life ooo! |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 8:54am On Nov 02, 2013 |
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Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 8:59am On Nov 02, 2013 |
OP is finding it difficult to let go because he has invested so much, mostly financially in the relationship . If you let her go now, the money you invested initially you will forget and move forward. If you stay with her, possibly marry her, I can 100% assure you no matter how much you earn, you will never move above a particular line. She will bring problem to you, sleep with highest bidder even when you give her almost all your earning. The more you give, the more her taste increases. The more she gets into one problem or another. I had friends like your girl, they never change. Although they are very nice and lovely. Homely too ...but you can't remove that "wanting more" attitude from them. If you are sure you can go on with it, then all the best! |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by jaybee3(m): 9:01am On Nov 02, 2013 |
@OP You want make i hook you up? Greedy people don't change. It's in their DNA Ask yourself this question, "would she date not alone stay with me if i didn't shower her with material things" |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 9:06am On Nov 02, 2013 |
@vivanc, abeg where you take get your 92% from |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 9:08am On Nov 02, 2013 |
jay bee: @OP How are we sure you won't get the worst person for him. The one that will behave like a kitten but she's real warrior . |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by jaybee3(m): 9:13am On Nov 02, 2013 |
Chillisauce:Easy pisse, his criteria aren't necessarily out of this world. Homely Church girl Not too young nor too old Working Surely if i enter house of praise or christ embassy i would come out with enough numbers. There are still so many girls waiting on the lord na so why must the dude allow himself enter one chance abi wetin dem dey call am |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Acidosis(m): 9:14am On Nov 02, 2013 |
Chillisauce: So ...because a man once had an accident means he won't travel again? |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Acidosis(m): 9:16am On Nov 02, 2013 |
jay bee: Yes the bolded means one chance ... |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by eagleeye2: 9:31am On Nov 02, 2013 |
wwwlord:Pay attention to the bolded. If you really Love yourself. Make no mistake about it, if you don't cut your losses now, you will live to regret ever getting entangled with this girl. Her family (not to mention her friends) is fully aware of her RUNz and you are simply a customer willing to enrich them. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by bukatyne(f): 9:31am On Nov 02, 2013 |
Dear OP, I am happy you did not enter one chance! Please desist from her like a plague and stop using your money to buy love! Even if you spent N10m, a girl that will not stay will not. You say you are inexperienced? I m not really better in that area but I have watched enough films to know some guys use the 'I am S, working at Y place' etc. Except you are been interviewed for a job, it is not really of importance where you work or your position esp to your prospective girl. If you can help it, please avoid unemployed ladies not that all working ladies are saints. Goodluck with your search. You guys should go to when is the right time to ask my boyfriend for rent money' thread to see what's up |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 9:34am On Nov 02, 2013 |
Acidosis: No let him travel himself, instead of sending someone. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 9:38am On Nov 02, 2013 |
jay bee: He has to learn himself. Nothing comes easy. Did he say he wants someone working? Nothing wrong with student. He just want someone for him. And him alone |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by eagleeye2: 9:42am On Nov 02, 2013 |
wwwlord:Guy, flee now and cut your losses. You female cousins won't be there when you keep awake at night or lose concentration in the office because you are wondering where you woman is at. Good girls abound there, and also learn to have a tick skin it seems you are easily swayed by emotions. I have been there, believe me. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by wwwlord: 9:56am On Nov 02, 2013 |
chaircover: @poster, i wont lie to you and say that breakups are easy cos they are not and it takes a lot of will power to be able to do so. It also takes you out of your comfort zone and that is why many many people stay with people that they know deep down in them that they are not the right person. Thanks,she said the guy promised 170k for her convocation but that she never slept with him. But after all this episodes i asked her if none of her friends slept with the man,he wont have the gut to come after her?. You need to see all the qualities the girl display around me,calm,respectful etc. Same person who attends Shiloh every year and claimed one of her prayer points at last year Shiloh is a good husband,in my mind i initially thought this girl knows what she wants but i never threw away caution completely and i thank God its all unraveling now. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by wwwlord: 10:02am On Nov 02, 2013 |
vivianc: When you said 92% of Nigerian girls have done or are doing this what is the hope for single guys,its disturbing. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by eagleeye2: 10:05am On Nov 02, 2013 |
wwwlord:Guy, that place no get meter and you have just been sold one of the oldest lies in a book. Think am naw? How will a married man give 3 girls 100k each and not do the do? Abi na him sister ni? 1 Like |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by wwwlord: 10:05am On Nov 02, 2013 |
bukatyne: Dear OP, When i say i am inexperienced,yes i am saying i dont know how runs girls operate but that doesnt mean i have never dated before. thanks |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by eagleeye2: 10:09am On Nov 02, 2013 |
wwwlord:Bros if you continue looking at these things, you will end up with an Asssshhhhh in a Born Against Clothing. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by EfemenaXY: 10:12am On Nov 02, 2013 |
wwwlord: Sorry to digress but I'd like to know what exactly you meant by this? In your original post, you used the phrase sent her packing and what you have here is really no different. I think what transpired between you both went beyond her merely visiting you. It's beginning to sound more like she was living with you - though it's up to you to concede to that fact or not - but either way, it sort of explains the attachment you have to her and why you seem unwilling to let go. I hope you know that if you've been sleeping with her like man and wife, then she does have certain 'rights' to your purse and you my brother, have no leg to stand on, much less wave the flag of morality in our faces. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by eagleeye2: 10:14am On Nov 02, 2013 |
Acidosis: All these church fellowship girls should pls stop embarrasing Jesus Christ..The God Hates Sin and not the Sinner type. I have seen them all. |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by wwwlord: 10:39am On Nov 02, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: Well i have clarified what i meant in earlier posts, there was an outburst of anger which led to me practically walking her out and threatening her to stay away, she already had a good rapport with my cousin who lives with me and she pops in from time to time.you can replace that word with any phrase that suits you but i just hate it when people act like they know more than the accussed. And i never waved any flag of morality in front of you, thinking over a decision already made and trying to sample peoples opinion doesnt have nothing to do with morality. I Never preached sainthood to you.Thanks |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by coogar: 10:49am On Nov 02, 2013 |
jay bee: @OP hook me up instead.... |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by vivianc(f): 10:52am On Nov 02, 2013 |
wwwlord: Yes it is, unfortunately every thing in life right now is so disturbing, for both guys and babes. If you hadn't caught your gf, would you have believed she does that? |
Re: Am Confused, Should I Take Her Back Or Let Her Go? by Nobody: 10:53am On Nov 02, 2013 |
coogar: Ileoba is available for u! Come on, wetin u dey find again? |
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