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Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by coogar: 1:59pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
bukatyne: when will you people get there? you have been on this journey for more than 100 years & we still have majority of the nigerian women relying solely on their partners to pay their life bills.
the only support an average nigerian woman understands is money. your advice means nothing to them. |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 2:03pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
sauer: What I don't understand is why women are often in such dire need of men and of marriage. I think if more women begin to stand alone and choose for themselves what they and only they want, and not what the society wants, just maybe they'll gain more respect among the menfolk. Women need men and men need women.. there is this interdependence which is often best achieved in marriage! There are some problems that only a loving word from you spouse or a good night lovemaking can solve. Ideas can be viewed and developed from both POV and launched. Marriage is for companionship and partnership. However, most women don't know the purpose of marriage and see it as a status change or bills paying venture. 'I need a man to pay my bills and I offer him sex, food and laundry services'! I guess they have nothing to do with their lives and want a steady meal ticket 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 2:04pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
coogar: Please na... your support means a lot to us I know how many times I encourage my man with a kiss and he bounces back! I know how often he encourages me, tells me I can achieve a thing and I go on to achieve that stuff... We need each other Then avoid the 'average Nigerian woman' or leave them for the 'average Nigerian man'! |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 2:05pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
Nashville: Gbam! I dey your back! Some men like them that way sha! 1 Like |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by Nobody: 2:21pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
I think more awareness should be created for women to understand what 'woman empowerment' is all about. Throughout my school days, it was a general impression that women would always end up in the kitchen, educated or not. It was not until when I completed my degree and started working fully before I realized how important 'woman empowerment' really is. It is also important to have a partner that understands this 'mentality' & is willing to encourage his partner to achieve her dreams. I'm not married yet oo but my fiance has really aided in helping me build confidence in myself, etc, etc. |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 2:25pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
theLORDreigns: I think more awareness should be created for women to understand what 'woman empowerment' is all about. This is cool! Welcome to the thread! |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 2:27pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
I am so sorry to the guys for not welcoming them Welcome Pickabeau1 Welcome Nashville Welcome Sauer Welcome Coogar |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by Nobody: 2:34pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
bukatyne: This is not supposed to be a gender bashing thread so let be truthful because we are all part of the same society. One of the biggest problems with our society including the men is that we naturally reject successful single women. I have a few female friends in their mid thirties who are doing very well and achieving their dreams. But no husband, not because they are bad girls but because our men are threatened and feel these women will not be submissive. I know some successful married women as well, but most of them married early and their success came after marriage. Truth is that our society as a whole kinda rejects successful young spinsters, so lots of women after school just want to marry before becoming "old cargo". And sometimes they just marry any guy that comes their way forgeting about how the guy can contribute to or kill their dreams. 1 Like |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by Nobody: 2:37pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
bukatyne:thanks |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by coogar: 2:40pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
Nashville: perhaps if they are in their mid-20s, they would have more suitors. who really wants "aunty" as a wife?
successful young spinsters are in high demand.....it's only when they get too old that men are skeptical. if i meet a single lady that says she's 36, i would be curious to know her history between age 21 & 36. |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 2:42pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
Nashville: This is also true. I think guys should be educated/ have a change of orientation regarding that. Most of them certainly did not have a successful role model esp. mothers. A son with a medical doctor for a mum wouldn't be scared to marry one. I also believe that some of the women might have missed out the men for them because they are not 'successful enough' or they were not observant There might be exceptions though |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 2:42pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
coogar: |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by Nobody: 2:55pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
Nashville: So I was told, but now I know better. It depends on the awareness level of each and every individual. One of my bosses once told me that I should not be afraid of my capability as a working class woman because as some men will be threatened by me, some other men will be drawn to me. |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by Nobody: 2:59pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
theLORDreigns: Agreed it is at a young age. Men will be drawn to a 25 year old successful young woman who knows what she wants. By the time this woman is 35 and she is even more successful, she will be very attractive to divorcees, aristos and alhajis. Most of the young men that would have married her will probably have second thoughts. It all has to do with age! |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by Nobody: 3:14pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
Nashville: Yes. We have them in my office too... (above 35) Now I have to go for a meeting sef. Mcheeew |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 3:18pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
theLORDreigns: I will tell ya boss |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by Tgirl4real(f): 3:26pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
Nice discourse. |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 3:30pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
Tgirl4real: Nice discourse. Welcome Tgirl4real Thanks... What are your contributions? Would like to hear from you |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by pickabeau1: 4:09pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
I see no diff Joseph had a dream and went thrui hell to actualise it i.e. his destiny They are used interchangeably and God uses dreams to point one in the direction of his destiny In the talents you refer to gifts which may or may not be destiny David had the gift of music but he was destined to be king some people have a gift which is their destiny granted thhough... eg Samson Some gifts are diabolical but still help you partially to your destiny eg Jacob Thanks for the welcome bukatyne: |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 4:19pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
pickabeau1: I see no diff Joseph's dream was given to him by God which is different from what I wish to be... David been a King did not stop him from writing Psalms David was destined to lead the Israelites... He had been leading right from the battlefront. His kingship was just a platform to fulfill his destiny |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by pickabeau1: 4:24pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
Not sure I get what you are saying Joseph had always dreamed of his brothers bowing to him... He became the leader of the world then ... David was destined to be leader and once anointed, he was able to face the lion n all... bukatyne: |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 4:35pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
pickabeau1: Not sure I get what you are saying Joseph did not imagine his brothers bowing to him.... God gave him the dream/vision i.e. it was not his own idea just how it was not David's idea to be a King. Dreams and Destiny are sometimes linked but they are different (at lease as defined in the OP) |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by pickabeau1: 4:57pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
ok.. for purposes of this thread ,.. i will accept they are different if i understand you dream is divine while destiny is more of your personal stamp on the sands of time Hence my question.. thousands of years ago it was perfectly acceptable for a woman to be a homemaker Now with professions and all, some women still asipre to focus their all on their home and hubby Mitt Romney;s wife is an accomplished homemaker, and hosts all his political ish Let me requote the destiny/dream post bukatyne: bukatyne: |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 5:00pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
pickabeau1: ok.. for purposes of this thread ,.. I will accept they are different I have edited to show you want I mean And Destiny supersedes dreams As for such women, that is another kettle of fish |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by pickabeau1: 5:04pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
In that case.. The Bible is not explicit on the roles of the woman in modern times That context has always been in the framework of the family For me .. with modern realities, there are some bounds you have to abide with - Dont be unemployed as times have changed. Have a business or source of income - If you are a heiress, find something worthwhile to leave your legacy as an individual - Strive to be the best in what you are doing rather than relying on your sexuality to get what you want |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 5:06pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
pickabeau1: In that case.. The Bible is not explicit on the roles of the woman in modern times It was not explicit on roles of men either |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by pickabeau1: 5:08pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
bukatyne: I think it is.. Genesis says the earth would not yield with out struggle The Isrealites were mostly farmers and shepherds Some became craftsmen and musicians etc This was so until the Industrial Age Through the Feudal ages men worked, women stayed home |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by ladygogo: 5:12pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
I believe a woman is first of all an individual before being a Mrs or mama bomboy. We can be anything we want to be if we set our minds to it. That said, women can live purposeful and fulfilled(yep!) lives outside of being a wife, mother and having a traditional career path. Mother Theresa is a perfect example. I'm always glad when i see women in male-dominated professions like Engineering, Welding, Plumbing, IT, Accounting, Law, Medicine etc. but we still have a long way to go, because even in these professions you hardly find women in active practice. For example, in accounting and Law you hardly see a female making Partner; the same applies to medicine-most females end up as medical officers or GP's. Be that as it may, i still believe we will get there. We will get there coogar! liff us. |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 5:14pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
lady gogo: I believe a woman is first of all an individual before being a Mrs or mama bomboy. We can be anything we want to be if we set our minds to it. Welcome lady gogo I believe most women do not have the drive or end up with wrong partners |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by coogar: 5:21pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
lady gogo: I believe a woman is first of all an individual before being a Mrs or mama bomboy. We can be anything we want to be if we set our minds to it. this journey is now longer than exodus. i can't wait to see you guys get there. i hope it happens before my demise. |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by Nobody: 5:49pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
bukatyne: Nashville: Yes you are right, but most unmarried & working-class women above 35yrs are no different from the women who are equally above 35yrs & not working. At that age, generally it is considered that there is something wrong with a woman for her not yet getting married early enough. It is not limited to only the working-class 35yrs & above women. |
Re: The Woman: Her Destiny, Her Dreams, Her Talents And Her Man by bukatyne(f): 5:51pm On Nov 05, 2013 |
@Lady gogo: it is also not enough for a woman to be in a 'male dominated' field; she must have the drive There is nothing wrong in a woman studying arts or G & C as long as she is not there because she is a woman! For example, I have the passion to motivate and inspire women starting from their teens; I also have the drive for relationship stuffs... I am looking at becoming a lecturer /teacher in future so that I can connect to my target group. I also like to write so I know I would write books on the subject. There are also a lot of things I have drive/ passion for. I have never dreamt to be a banker and I know my dream of lecturing is not lesser than a banker. No dream is too small as long as it will better the lives of the target people and it is in line with God's will |
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