pickabeau1: Women are strong and can achieve all they want ..

You have women who work 24 hours to provide an education for their children and provide an edge

In Morocco, these women carry heavy loads to provide for their famillies




http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24706863

coogar:

this journey is now longer than exodus. i can't wait to see you guys get there. i hope it happens before my demise.

bukatyne: @Lady gogo: it is also not enough for a woman to be in a 'male dominated' field; she must have the drive
There is nothing wrong in a woman studying arts or G & C as long as she is not there because she is a woman!

For example, I have the passion to motivate and inspire women starting from their teens; I also have the drive for relationship stuffs...

I am looking at becoming a lecturer /teacher in future so that I can connect to my target group. I also like to write so I know I would write books on the subject. There are also a lot of things I have drive/ passion for.

I have never dreamt to be a banker and I know my dream of lecturing is not lesser than a banker. No dream is too small as long as it will better the lives of the target people and it is in line with God's will

pickabeau1: Nice one....

theLORDreigns:

@Coogar, this is where we used to be...

»Retro ads depicting women as 2nd rate and thought
nothing of it. And although we have come a long way, we still have lots of hills to climb. Society has stereotyped for years and continues to do so. Below are some retro ads that boldly stated “it a mans world”. Dafuq were they thinking?«

Source: www.radass.com/2013/07/08/retro-ads/
www.icanhasinternets.com/2010/05/25-horribly-sexist-vintage-ads/

bukatyne:

See the way the woman is smiling sef! Like she won lottery

theLORDreigns:



That's the former impression of 'a good housewife'

*yimus*

I've been trying to upload more since, it finally worked. Check again, I've editted it.

bukatyne:


We have certainly come a very lonnnnng way

It is well

True2myself24:

Wow, very interesting article.

pickabeau1:

Yep

@buka..nice one being your dream

pickabeau1: nice perspective to the debate @dami

@topic I hope it does not go too militaristic.. i like the spirit of 'exhorting' so far

damiso: Nice thread....am too tired to be typing epistles cos right now am sick of typing and screens.I haate courseworks now and I used to love them o Chai adult education no easy o.

I think I have mentioned it before on NL that I think my husband complements me to be what God wants me to be.Me I dont believe all this romance fairytale ish of 'My Husband completes me"(Ok sometimes I might use it as a romantic endearment but its just a figure of speech ).I think that's where we women sometimes miss it, looking for that man to complete us. God created us all with a purpose. Try to look for your purpose. It might not be a popular consensus on this thread but I believe that part of that purpose (not all) might be to raise a positive next generation. In my opinion this is for both genders. Both myself and my husband one way or the other have had to let go of some things that would have yielded financial gain just so we could spend some more time together as a family.

Which brings me to my next point, Destiny, dreams etc is not necessarily financial sucess like Bukatyne has demonstrated. We Nigerians (sorry to generalise) often allude sucess=money.I like earning money am half ijebu but we have to understand that for some people fulfilment might not be from a paycheck or living the high flying lifestyle. Which is why I am always seen to be defending SOME stay at home mums on NL. Yeah there are some lazy liability women who mooch off men but not ALL stay at home mums (those doing it for the right reasons, not been forced, not being abused, controlled, manipulated etc) are dreamless, or not fulfilling destiny. Nigerian definition of stay at home mum often is not earning money but a good friend of mine does not earn money but is running a youth programme similar to what Bukatyne wants to do In a very deprived part of London. She started it while she was home with her kids and I (God forgive me) was one of those people back then who judged her for leaving her job. So purpose or destiny or dreams whatever differs.Phew I have typed o.

ireneidiva: I am a woman! I choose a male dominated profession. I am one of the best where i currently am. I know i will eventually rise to the top. I have dreams and i know where i want to be. Armed with this knowledge, i ignore people that remind me that i'm a lady and i need to slow down. The man in my life has to understand this and cope.

lady gogo: Lol. really hilarious adverts! @ the lord reigns

bukatyne: Pickabeau1,

I was just turning your idea that a woman's 'dream' might be to 'help her husband'

For a man that is an average worker or let's even say the manager/executive director, please highlight how the wife wants to help that she will make it 'her dream'

pickabeau1: Dont get me wrong

I endorse your notion that a woman should acheieve her potential but I am saying some may see theirs as being a helper

I feel that is a valid call

Professions as you call it are a result of the Industrial Revolution

You get?>

bukatyne:

And I feel it is not a valid call

bukatyne:

I like your drive however I don't think your man should be made to 'cope'

Better still, involve him in your dreams and harness his strengths to cover up for your weaknesses (because believe me, we all do)

ireneidiva:
i did not want to type an epistle. Of cos all you have stated is the whole point in me picking that guy- Someone who understands me and helps me to be the best i can be. Cope in the sense that if what i choose to do takes me away from the home a lot, he can still take care of things until i return.just as i will do for him.

pickabeau1:

opinions differ.. remember i mentioned mitt romney's wife who is there to help his political career
There are people i know here in naija who are home-centric...

some even started a small baking thing as a hobby

Some businesses started as this

Some just still stay family-focussed

lady gogo: Lol. really hilarious adverts! @ the lord reigns

bukatyne:

I am sure Seun Osewa works from home

theLORDreigns:




Is Seun Osewa a lady?

bukatyne:

Lol!

I was trying to tell Pickabeau1 that staying at home and working is different from staying at home doing nothing

bukatyne:

Lol!

I was trying to tell Pickabeau1 that staying at home and working is different from staying at home doing nothing