ifyalways: So,its 2020 and I'm at a wedding reception. The groom is Dayokanu and the bride is Coogar's cute,innocent lil' sister.

I am coogars guest so I sat beside him. I couldn't make the church service though and only saw the groom at the reception. I became dizzy and couldn't believe my eyes. Dayo from Egbeda? Dayo aka "fear no skirt" ? Dude banged anything in skirt! 3 of my hood girls told me they had DC's for him at different times, I personally remember seeing him hanging out with about 6 different ladies at various times. Fortunately, I never banged him.

So,I call my friend Coogar and say, " Is that your sister's hubby or the best man?"
Coogar: Yes,that's him.The groom.
Me: Dayo?
Coogar: Yeah. You know him?
Me: ooh dear,I do. All the way back to Egbeda, our high school days to Uni. His nick then was fear no skirt , he got 4 of my GF's preggie, dated the widow of chief ABC, bla bla. . .
Coogar: Wow,I remember that nick. "Dayo the baddest guy", he chuckles. I even lost one or two chicks to him,his game was so slick.No sweats.He was just being a guy then,having fun,testing the waters. Now he's a man,changed,responsible and matured. He's good now. Relax"

Double standards. Hypocrites. Pharisees.

Na lie o

guys there go dey shake head among themselves saying they wish the babe well cause they know leopards don't change their spots
they will also say they hope the gal knows the guy she is marrying

nice story ify but the reality is that the damage is mostly always more on the woman

a man with 12 ex-babes is not as damaged as a babe with 12 ex-boy friends

You may call it hypocrisy or whatever but Thats life...

pickabeau1: nice story ify but the reality is that the damage is mostly always more on the woman

a man with 12 ex-babes is not as damaged as a babe with 12 ex-boy friends

You may call it hypocrisy or whatever but Thats life...

At the end all, it's a cycle..the experience the guys get are all gotten by doing it with the girls.

The only difference is that the guys hail themselves while the ladies just keep mute.

Chillisauce:

At the end all, it's a cycle..the experience the guys get are all gotten by doing it with the girls.

The only difference is that the guys hail themselves while the ladies just keep mute.

Not sure i get you... the guy moves on and starts his family with a 'good ground' but the damaged girl is TTC or left alone like the guy who went to canada leaving her in the lurch,,,

Some will have a second family if they dont want to divorce

pickabeau1:

Not sure i get you... the guy moves on and starts his family with a 'good ground' but the damaged girl is TTC or left alone like the guy who went to canada leaving her in the lurch,,,

Some will have a second family if they dont want to divorce

So what about the men wey dey blow blank ...is it not same as TTC.
Some ladies abort 20 and still bear kids, while some...virgin till marriage and still TTC.
The ones blowing blank, would you say they were "runs" men?

coogar:

even you would agree a man that got 12 women pregnant is not the same as a woman that aborted 12 times. haba, men don't carry wombs so what's the comparison?

it's the world we live in. a female virgin at 25 would be applauded. a male virgin at 25 is an object of ridicule by the society. the general conception is he must be impotent to have abstained so long.

This is nothing but hypocrisy. If you will forgive the guy, so should you be able to forgive the girl.


My point remains though..I'd want to know if my relative knew.

Chillisauce:

So what about the men wey dey blow blank ...is it not same as TTC.
Some ladies abort 20 and still bear kids, while some...virgin till marriage and still TTC.
The ones blowing blank, would you say they were "runs" men?

hahaja... that is congenital... nothing wey u fit do

A woman who has congenital issues having babies is different from one whose womb is mutilated from multiple abortions

I have not yet heard of men having blanks due to too many shots fired

pickabeau1:

hahaja... that is congenital... nothing wey u fit do

A woman who has congenital issues having babies is different from one whose womb is mutilated from multiple abortions

I have not yet heard of men having blanks due to too many shots fired

It very possible, when the quality of s perm becomes watery due to frequent expulsion.


Don't ask me how I know this.

Chillisauce:
It very possible, when the quality of s perm becomes watery due to frequent expulsion.


Don't ask me how I know this.

interesting .... so the more partners one has, one runs the risk of fertility challenges.... strange

Not sure it has the same potential impact as multiple abortions though

pickabeau1:

Not sure i get you... the guy moves on and starts his family with a 'good ground' but the damaged girl is TTC or left alone like the guy who went to canada leaving her in the lurch,,,

Some will have a second family if they dont want to divorce

With all the forms of contraception available, she could be ever ready but never pregnant. There is no reason to allow male promiscuity and victimise the ladies involved.

Chillisauce:
It very possible, when the quality of s perm becomes watery due to frequent expulsion.


Don't ask me how I know this.

That happens on a short term basis.

It doesn't cause infertility.

deols:

With all the forms of contraception available, she could be ever ready but never pregnant. There is no reason to allow male promiscuity and victimise the ladies involved.

NObody is victimising any lady ,,,,
we are saying how it is

Will you allow your blood brother to marry a course mate u knew was promiscous in school days and had had multiple d & Cs

Lets be real here and just not brng theoretical stuff

Its a fact, due to people marrying later to set up careers and stuff, people will run the field but moderation is key

pickabeau1:

NObody is victimising any lady ,,,,
we are saying how it is

Will you allow your blood brother to marry a course mate u knew was promiscous in school days and had had multiple d & Cs

Lets be real here and just not brng theoretical stuff

Its a fact, due to people marrying later to set up careers and stuff, people will run the field but moderation is key

How many career people run the field?

deols:

That happens on a short term basis.

It doesn't cause infertility.

Why you come spoil show na

bukatyne:

How many career people run the field?

Are you dating your first boyfriend
If you are then you are not the people the statement referred to

Chillisauce:

Why you come spoil show na

so u sef know say u dey misyarn

pickabeau1:

interesting .... so the more partners one has, one runs the risk of fertility challenges.... strange

Not sure it has the same potential impact as multiple abortions though

What I was trying to say its that things happen for a reason,
One is TTC doesn't mean they perform a lot of D&C.

I had some very bad friends during school days, they all got married while in school and got their kids too.

While some very good girls, got married after school..very good..but they are still TTC.

What went wrong. I'm not in the position to judge.

Don't be surprised, OPs sister in law might even be the first to get twin boys.

pickabeau1:

Are you dating your first boyfriend
If you are then you are not the people the statement referred to

How does this relate to 'due to career, people run the field'?

Yes to your question

pickabeau1:

so u sef know say u dey misyarn

And I thought I was carrying you along

Nice point.. in my experience na the runs babes sef dey fertile pass


They know how to treat men and even may be prggers before D day... so no shaking


But e dey happen wey lacerations exist in the womb

True at bolded..
Do you know in the old days, people used to divine to know the fertility of women...

Chillisauce:



What I was trying to say its that things happen for a reason,
One is TTC doesn't mean they perform a lot of D&C.

I had some very bad friends during school days, they all got married while in school and got their kids too.

While some very good girls, got married after school..very good..but they are still TTC.

What went wrong. I'm not in the position to judge.

Don't be surprised, OPs sister in law might even be the first to get twin boys.

Don't mind Deols, Chilli.

She don't know that as long as that side is involved, most men always piss on their boxers whenever u tell them too much bleeping equals blank!

bukatyne:

How does this relate to 'due to career, people run the field'?

This is what i meant.. nowadays its getting rarer for people to be single relationships into marriage.. more common are 2 or 3

Some may be principled to be chaste thru the relationships but a minority... so its reasonable to expect some mileage

Extreme mileage is what is frowned upon.. You get now? phew

That is commendable of you.. i wish you success in your relationship

Chillisauce:

And I thought I was carrying you along

I just dey look u.. hahaha

deols:
This is nothing but hypocrisy. If you will forgive the guy, so should you be able to forgive the girl.

hypocrisy? how so?
women have so much more to lose - it's biology!! saying it's hypocrisy is laughable. men don't carry wombs, women do.

My point remains though..I'd want to know if my relative knew.

whether he knows or not is irrelevant as far as i'm concerned. i will tell my brother everything. it's now up to him to either go ahead & marry her or make a complete u-turn.

his life is worth more to me than a doomed marriage.

pickabeau1:
interesting .... so the more partners one has, one runs the risk of fertility challenges.... strange

that's a lie from the pits of hell...
the more a dude shägs, the better for his sëxual health & the incidence of prostrate cancer is reduced to the barest minimum. a married man that is shooting blanks must have been shooting blanks since his birth - it has nothing to do with his sëxual history.

Not sure it has the same potential impact as multiple abortions though

abortion is way worse.....
yes, sometimes runs girl are the most fertile but why would i even want to take such risk? my chances are better with a non-runs girl than a chic that has been passed around the block. there's also the small detail of okafor's law to consider.

pickabeau1:

This is what i meant.. nowadays its getting rarer for people to be single relationships into marriage.. more common are 2 or 3

Some may be principled to be chaste thru the relationships but a minority... so its reasonable to expect some mileage

Extreme mileage is what is frowned upon.. You get now? phew

That is commendable of you.. i wish you success in your relationship

I believe there is a difference between 2 - 3 relationship before marriage and been a runs person.

I thought you were referring to a runs person

bukatyne:

I believe there is a difference between 2 - 3 relationship before marriage and been a runs person.

I thought you were referring to a runs person

play the field - have relations a bit here or there.. see more definitions

http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/play+the+field


play the field
to date many different people rather than just one. When Tom told Ann good-bye, he said he wanted to play the field. He said he wanted to play the field while he was still young.

play the field
to have many romantic or sexual relationships She's not interested in marriage at this stage, so she's quite happy to play the field.

i knew it was an urban legend.. hence the 'strange' qualifier

However dont be surprised some dodgy research will appear in the science journals soon

Thats how some researchers said men were responsible for menopause cos they left older women for younger


http://www.livescience.com/37430-male-preference-younger-women-menopause.html

Women go through menopause because men have consistently preferred younger women in recent evolutionary history, according to a study published today (June 13) in the journal PLOS Computational Biology.Thus, menopause is not evolutionarily advantageous and may be the result of a series of random, harmful mutations that accumulated in women but weren't acted on by evolution because the women had already reproduced by the time the mutations affected them.

Ok's LAW///// Abi,.. easier to enter a door once u know the key is under the doormat.. hahahahaha

coogar:

that's a lie from the pits of hell...
the more a dude shägs, the better for his sëxual health & the incidence of prostrate cancer is reduced to the barest minimum. a married man that is shooting blanks must have been shooting blanks since his birth - it has nothing to do with his sëxual history.


abortion is way worse.....
yes, sometimes runs girl are the most fertile but why would i even want to take such risk? my chances are better with a non-runs girl than a chic that has been passed around the block. there's also the small detail of okafor's law to consider.

pickabeau1:

NObody is victimising any lady ,,,,
we are saying how it is

Will you allow your blood brother to marry a course mate u knew was promiscous in school days and had had multiple d & Cs

Lets be real here and just not brng theoretical stuff

Its a fact, due to people marrying later to set up careers and stuff, people will run the field but moderation is key

Read what I wrote earlier. I agree with the Op. I would be angry if a brother knows and does not tell me aomething like this.

But I disagree that a guy being promiscuous is different from a lady being that.

The lady could even be wise enough to use protection amd the guy silly enough to contact STIs that may render him infertile. In women, The risk is not as much as you make it seem.

In that case, no problem

I think what you ladies have an issue is the reputational issues..


same actions

One is seen as a player and the other a ride...



Well i wish you all success in your campaigns.. maybe in 50 years time, promiscuity will be frowned equally by both genders

deols:

Read what I wrote earlier. I agree with the Op. I would be angry if a brother knows and does not tell me aomething like this.

But I disagree that a guy being promiscuous is different from a lady being that.

The lady could even be wise enough to use protection amd the guy silly enough to contact STIs that may render him infertile. In women, The risk is not as much as you make it seem.

deols:

Read what I wrote earlier. I agree with the Op. I would be angry if a brother knows and does not tell me aomething like this.

But I disagree that a guy being promiscuous is different from a lady being that.

The lady could even be wise enough to use protection amd the guy silly enough to contact STIs that may render him infertile. In women, The risk is not as much as you make it seem.

there's no STI that does not show symptoms in men. our anatomy is simple. semën & urine are the only things permissible with us. the moment a guy sees a foreign fluid, he already knows he's in trouble.

with women, it's different.
more than half of the women out there see no STI symptoms. they can see all sort of coloured fluids in their nether region & still think it's a natural process.

enough women have given birth to blind babies cos they didn't even know they were carrying gonorrhoea for aeons. that wouldn't happen to men. so male promiscuity is not the same as female promiscuity.

pickabeau1:
In that case, no problem
I think what you ladies have an issue is the reputational issues..


same actions
One is seen as a player and the other a ride...

Well i wish you all success in your campaigns.. maybe in 50 years time, promiscuity will be frowned equally by both genders

nah....
they have to show internet support to their fellow female. women are actually the ones that would raise the loudest alarm if they discover their baby brother is about to get married to a runs girl.

women with their mother hen attributes are more protective & they would kill before they see their brother getting married to the wrong partner.

all what you are reading here is just a facade.

coogar:

hypocrisy? how so?
women have so much more to lose - it's biology!! saying it's hypocrisy is laughable. men don't carry wombs, women do.

How often does the womb get affected because of a woman's sexality? It is not as bad as you make it seem. She only needed to play safe just as much as a man needed to.

Chillisauce:

Why you come spoil show na