chamber2: he doesnt show much interest in the relationship or he doesnt pay your bills? If it's the later then i will ask; is he your father? why would you wanna end the relationship because he doesnt pay your bills? na waoo

Gifted scholar: Is dia still love out there for me??....I am jst tryin to struggle out of a love lorned relatnship....I hav an affair wit a guy for abt 1yr naw nd I cn barely boast of him loving me, bt I love him very very much, bt den I barely receive d love in return...he doesn't stand by me in difficult tymz..he runs frm my responsibility, nd dodge wen they re big bills on ground!..apparently!!.all my siblings re in sch am d only one working nd caring for my sick mum(ulcer)..tinz hasn't been very easy bt dis guy has nt contributed even 5kobo to my mums medical bills....sumtyms I get fade up nd want to quit frm d relatnship bt he doesn't want to leave me...he wuldn't let me go he wuld say he loves me bt dats occasionally....I dnt understand him....does it mean he doesn't love me??...although he is dis SU kind of person...a deeper life brought up nd he is a virgin, he hasn't been in a relatnship b4 bt is dat an excuse for his love lorn??...shuld I jst dump him regardless of my love for him?...or shuld I stay wit him nd believe he ll change!!...pls advice needed plsss

temi4fash: the fact dat he did not help pay bth ur mum's medical bills as well as ur siblings school fees so he does not luv u...

though m not of the idea that a guy shld be stingy but i still think he is under no compulsion to pay any bill since he is not married to u, if he is gonna do it he shld do it out of his free will

from ur assertion u saying dat cos he has not slept with u yet or cos he is a virgin dat one of the reason why u think is not giving u cash dat to me is very wrong, sex shld not b the basis in which a guy use to give u money.. even if he sleeps with u if he is not gonna assist u with ur responsibilty he wont.. so just drop dat..

N.B.. if u feel he is not reciprocating ur lov enof u could talk to him abt it and and if he does not change i think u can throw in the towel.

Gifted scholar: I try to assist him d little way I cn! U jst dnt get it...u cn giv witout lovin bt u cnt love witout giving!!...

Gifted scholar: No u guys re getting it twisted, I believe relatnship shuld be some kind of relief union, I mean u lean on eachoda wit ur burdenw nd show love, I mean wat is love all abt??...its a sacrificial attitude, oneness..caring, kindness u express to another person, its a deep compassion which u show towards d person u hav dat feeling for, did I tell u guys I assit him??...I discovered he has a kind of sick reactn d early days of our relatnship nd I immediately help him treat dat!!..I gav him a medicatn dat worked...I care for him!..I try to assist him d little way I cn! U jst dnt get it...u cn giv witout lovin bt u cnt love witout giving!!...I believe dis in lyf "wat re we leavin for if nt to make lyf less difficult for others??"....I giv, I express my love! I tell him countless tymz...bt even I tell him today am sick nd dyin he ll say go to d hospital nd wen I say I dnt hav money, he ll remain mute, u dnt understand....hw cn u be in a relatnship wit some1 for close to a year nd ur gal/guy hasn't assisted u in any challenge of ur lyf ...relatnship shuld b in form of togetherness..I lean on u, u lean on me dis way d burden is lighter for both of us to bear...I hardly receives d love frm him! No criticsm pls...advice is all I ask...I hope u understand me dat am nt d demanding type...I jst need a shoulder to lean on wen storms rage!!...u understand?...@ james nd co!!

Gifted scholar:


Pls no one is talkin abt sex! No one is sleepin wit anybody! I was jst tryin to make a point wen I said he is a virgin, so stick to d real matter on ground nd leave "sex" alone..tnx

Gifted scholar: hav complained severally, I complained sumtyms nd tell him its over...hw calls ceaseless nd beg dat we need to see nd talk nd wen I see him he bcomes speechless he cnt say anytin...he is naturally nt a pesin dat talks, bt den he jst stare @ me witout a word nd den I jst let it go nd keep enduring...truly james its pretty difficult nd frastratin to love some1 who doesn't love u!!

Chubhie: The what's in it for me Question...Right? Like after being there through his own trying times why can't he just reciprocate at least by whatever means no matter how little the effort? Have you tried to find out why he keeps mute when you mention you don't have money? Is it the case he has and shying away from assisting? There must be something I presume that got you attracted to him in the first place and made you love him very very much like you said. You may need a sit down with and talk things through with him. From indications, he may probably be shy of responsibility and commitment.

temi4fash:

madam .. i was not talking abt the sex part was justing only pointing out dat ur assertion was wrong dats all..

now back to your topic....

From ur later explanation i tink u might b dealing with a stingy or uncaring man here....

so if u gonna cat cope with it cos m sure u gonna get after sometime .. so do the needful before time go..

my one cent

James-dman:
I know how difficult this is for you, considering the fact that you love him.
However, you would only keep hurting yourself if you keep trying to love someone who doesn't return it...
Thinking of how it would hurt to let him go despite your love for him, might be one of the things holding you back.
But...think of this, would it be wise to refuse surgery on a gunshot wound, letting the wound fester, simply because of the the pain surgery would cause?

Gifted scholar:


U re speakin well bt hav tried my best to leave him as explained abv bt wat happens is wat keep happeneing

Gifted scholar:


U on point temi!!...bt take d sex tin personnal..am a learner ask james he ll tell u...lolzz

OMA4U:

I beg to digress. Is this chamber2 who used to post frequently on career section?

temi4fash: the fact dat he did not help pay bth ur mum's medical bills as well as ur siblings school fees so he does not luv u...

though m not of the idea that a guy shld be stingy but i still think he is under no compulsion to pay any bill since he is not married to u, if he is gonna do it he shld do it out of his free will

from ur assertion u saying dat cos he has not slept with u yet or cos he is a virgin dat one of the reason why u think is not giving u cash dat to me is very wrong, sex shld not b the basis in which a guy use to give u money.. even if he sleeps with u if he is not gonna assist u with ur responsibilty he wont.. so just drop dat..

N.B.. if u feel he is not reciprocating ur lov enof u could talk to him abt it and and if he does not change i think u can throw in the towel.

temi4fash: the fact dat he did not help pay bth ur mum's medical bills as well as ur siblings school fees so he does not luv u...

though m not of the idea that a guy shld be stingy but i still think he is under no compulsion to pay any bill since he is not married to u, if he is gonna do it he shld do it out of his free will

from ur assertion u saying dat cos he has not slept with u yet or cos he is a virgin dat one of the reason why u think is not giving u cash dat to me is very wrong, sex shld not b the basis in which a guy use to give u money.. even if he sleeps with u if he is not gonna assist u with ur responsibilty he wont.. so just drop dat..

N.B.. if u feel he is not reciprocating ur lov enof u could talk to him abt it and and if he does not change i think u can throw in the towel.

Gifted scholar: hav complained severally, I complained sumtyms nd tell him its over...hw calls ceaseless nd beg dat we need to see nd talk nd wen I see him he bcomes speechless he cnt say anytin...he is naturally nt a pesin dat talks, bt den he jst stare @ me witout a word nd den I jst let it go nd keep enduring...truly james its pretty difficult nd frastratin to love some1 who doesn't love u!!

Gifted scholar: I really dnt knw hw am feeling!!!