I'm not sure if this is worth a new thread but I see lots of threads about Women wanting thier men/mate/or partner to be rich and no one wants a poor man, this and that. Man rich, implicit notion: its ok if a woman poor, man rich, this, and that,

What do most men think but I'm quite certain that no man wants a woman whose a loser or a free loader.

Plus I don't know why men say " a woman should be there for me when i'm poor, broke" I think those men are selfish. Find a woman when u're Comfortable. Don't punish ur partner.

Anyways sha, my thing is just like Women don't like to be with broke men, i'm sure that men too don't like to be with broke women (I mean women who are potential mates/partners, not booty calls)

Hope this makes some sort of sense but what do ýou think ?

what does that mean ?

LMAO, NJ HJ, would you want a broke man? No one wants to raise a family in poverty na. I do NOT want a broke man. Simple!

Anyways, I'm not looking for a rich man, just a man with a stable job. One that can help his wife provide for his family's wants.

I also don't expect any man to want a broke woman, a woman that'll depend on him for all his needs.

I think that brokeness is relative to age. For example, you don't expect a 23 year old guy to be financially stable. He's still working things out. BUT 23yr old women normally seek financially stable men, as a result look for older men (who also maybe poor relative to their age) BUT because these women are ready to get married, (based on the female socially acceptable age of marriage) they may not neccessarily consider this relativity,


I've met men who say i have financial potential just give me TIME, and u're like how long am I willing to wait.

I think that brokeness is relative to age. For example, you don't expect a 23 year old guy to be financially stable. He's still working things out. BUT 23yr old women normally seek financially stable men, as a result look for older men (who also maybe poor relative to their age) because they're ready to get married, (based on the female socially acceptable age of marriage)


I've met men who say i have financial potentail just give me TIME, and u're like how long am I willing to wait.

What am seeing here is broke girls not wanting broke guys.
If you're broke and you're complaining about the other one being broke, that's just selfish right there.
Of course a 23 year old is not yet stable. A little boy still trying to balance part time campus job/ out of campus job with his education. LOL! Ladies better be happy that the boys are atleast trying to do something to finish their education and trying to balance their schedule to have time for the ladies.

One thing I've noticed is that it's mostly the desperate men urgently looking for wives are the ones settling for any kind of woman this days. May she be broke, may she be illiterate, she's still a wife, right?

Women women women! Me thinks its best to stick with a man that's broke at the moment and trying to finish his education when you yourself know you're in the same stage as he is. Fight the storm with him. Don't try to go for older men just because they've got the dough. Well, if it's a matter of love, that's another story o.

You''re hinting at the point that i'm trying to make.

its best to stick with a man that's broke at the moment and trying to finish his education when you yourself know you're in the same stage as he is. Fight the storm with him. Don't try to go for older men just because they've got the dough.

I feel that most Nigerian women at 23-24yrs old, are dying to get married as a result, don't want young boys, (their age mate) they want someone who has made it so that they can quickly marry.

But relatively, the old man has not made enough for his age.

Don't get me wrong o.
At some stage when am ready to get married, when I'm bringing in some dough, I do NOT want a broke man.
I want a man that can support a family, just as am trying to work for us.
I don't want a "house-husband" please.
Just have a stable job, like myself, so we can work together to save up sth sth for a family. right?

Ruby_Pearl : are you toyinrayo?

I feel that most Nigerian women at 23-24yrs old, are dying to get married as a result, don't want young boys, (their age mate) they want someone who has made it so that they can quickly marry.

But relatively, the old man has not made enough for his age.

You're right.
But I think there are other factors that ties in with this epidemic.
As they say, age is not maturity. But maturity evolves with age.
Maybe they want older men for security/protection reasons.

LOL! Young boys are still learning the ways of the world, while the other ones have learned enough to know their place in the world. lol

NJ HJ, touch your nose yes.

@ poster

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You did'nt make sense.

@lady bam
Can you please expatiate on that?

sorry i did not understand you