coogar:

this is such a relief. thank you, mazi afam!

babyosisi:

Bianca Ojukwu again
The object of Yoruba obsession,I hear you

On this forum alone how many stories of Yoruba actresses having babies out of wedlock have we read?
How many of a woman trying to pin a bobo to her pregnancy
How many of doubtful paternity
How many of children emerging in their tens after the death of a man
You don't have to search deep
That scares Igbos
I am not saying such things are unheard of in Igboland but the degree is incomparable and it is heavily frowned at in our culture
A child born out of wedlock in Igboland belongs to the woman's family
It is a huge shame to that family
That is why illegitimate belle is hidden
But Yorubas flaunt it and announce it and throw parties to celebrate the arrival of the baby sired by a married man and born out of wedlock
A married Yoruba woman will wear asho ebi to the naming ceremony of her husband's mistress's baby and the man's people will be there eating jollof rice and dancing owanbe
That is an alien culture to us
That is one of the reasons our people are fearful of our girls marrying Yoruba men
Marriage means something different between the two groups

In Yorubaland a mistress with a baby automatically elevates to the status of wifehood,na lie?
Not so in Igboland
A mistress is hidden and the man does all he can to make sure no baby arrives ,because he doesn't want to shame his family
That is a huge cultural difference and many of our women have married Yoruba men who ended up with babies all around town down the road because it is their culture.his dad and uncles and grandpa did it freely.
It is not our accepted tradition

Shebi una wan hear the whole truth why Igbos don't like to marry Yoruba
Sorry if it hurts but that is the gospel truth
Your family dynamics are very complicated to Igbos

Blessy swt: Dis marriage tins cmes 4rm d hrt oh, so wat is bleve is dat is who eva ur hrt decide 2 b wit, i dnt tink language cn cme in at al

osinachukwu: Through out diz thread not even 1 yoruba guy defend his ugly sisters,they all talking about igbo women

Sam_Ikenna:

Bro I don't think you're entirely correct. I have asked that question and have delved deep into Igbo culture and history and I can say that the emergence of out-castes in Igboland, even though very minuscule, is a complex one and most often had a lot to do with people who were either heavily indebted or in existential danger and, voluntarily, had to seek protection in many dreaded shrines that spanned the land in those dark ages.

You can see it as filing for bankruptcy kind of thing. The only problem is that once you fail to bail yourself out and seek the protection of community gods/shrines people in the community see you as someone belonging to the dreaded god. They give you a huge space and, alas! you don't need protection anymore. But it turns out you're stuck. However, because Igbos are generally competitive and would avoid shame by all means, folks chose to pay their debt, did their thing, and stayed away from being the property of the gods.

So, when you say "sacrifice," I say its kind of close but not exact. Anyway, who knows. Perhaps other communities had different routes they used to get to the same system. However, at the end of the day [bold]Christianity has destroyed the practice [/bold] just as it destroyed polygamy in Igboland and what's left of the practice has been abolished and the population of Osu is perhaps a thousandth of a percent of Igbo population and I'm really happy for that.

zannie: But seriously, what's this obsession with Igbos?? I'm just asking a question o. Any thread on here about Igbos ends up being anoda mudsling contest between Yorubas/Igbos.
Are you guys not tired??

coogar:

coogar:

the most annoying thing is the community allows it. i can understand our foremothers & forefathers with little or no education embracing such evil practises but our generation has no excuse kowtowing such an evil practise.

we are educated!




houston, we have a problem!!!

Ikem11: Because igbos are descendant of Isaac...we follow our God instructions not to marry oda tribes. Ask our brother the isrealites

osinachukwu: yes most yoruba girls look like mr ibu dats y yoruba men don't marry dem dey instead dream of igbo women

the warrior72: Sorry I don't mean to insult u , but there are matters women are not ment to discuss,& this, happens to be one.

Once again, sorry....

rudedough: I can't even imagine marrying a Nigerian lest from my Igbo tribe.

I don't want a wife that'll kill my cat because she has green eyes and looks suspicious for a witch.

Or have a wife that will wake up on a good morning, ready to attack my neighbour's wife because she was chasing her in a dream.

I don't want a wife that'll attack my mother because her pastor told her that her mother in law is a witch and the cause of her barrenness.

Bottom line is, Nigerian mentality sucks. Forget about the food, we can hire an Igbo cook to prepare us that Ofe nsala and ugba + ukwa

Obiagu1:

Marry at your own risk...

dozai:

Even me self marry yoruba, my people never kill me. and she is da bomb.

Tapout: Maybe b'cos once married, igbo women remain faithful 2 d end

kolawaxxy: and women from other tribes don't remain faithful to the end?

rudedough: I can't even imagine marrying a Nigerian lest from my Igbo tribe.

I don't want a wife that'll kill my cat because she has green eyes and looks suspicious for a witch.

Or have a wife that will wake up on a good morning, ready to attack my neighbour's wife because she was chasing her in a dream.

I don't want a wife that'll attack my mother because her pastor told her that her mother in law is a witch and the cause of her barrenness.

Bottom line is, Nigerian mentality sucks. Forget about the food, we can hire an Igbo cook to prepare us that Ofe nsala and ugba + ukwa

Loski_Nedu:
So by your synopsis, Every Nigerian equals to Phocked up mentality?

Loski_Nedu:
I think the dualistic nature of the colonial /post colonial Igbo man accounts for the failure of education to eradicate this practice. The average colonial /precolonial Igbo man accepted Western values, education and religion but never wholly jettisoned his cultural underpinnings hence you have Christian Igbos who occupy the front pew in church on Sundays but have no qualms about visiting a Dibia when things go awry; an Igbo man who believes in the efficacy of modern medicine but wouldn't discard orthodox medicine entirely; an Igbo man who believes all men are equal before the Almighty God but some are segregated because they now "belong" to the gods.

jay bee:
hit me up at our usual place

Let's catch up

We have loads to catch up on

Orlando Owoh:
Then marry your old woman.

I might reconsider marrying you. Is Orlando Owoh your real name?

Dafuq I didn't know you were a male. #NoHomo

eminence13: indeed they are faithful till d end on a concubines bed na when d illiterate igbo bizzness man is busy going from japan to china to hong kong importing fake goods forgetting he's got family ......and hey don't joj me I be igbo boi its nt all am just trying to make u raise ur eyebraw

babyosisi: There is something in an Igbo man that makes him adore Igbo women
We understand them and they understand us
My two first bobos were Yoruba ( they were very good to me by the way) but when it came to marriage,I still preferred an Igbo man too.
Three times I had tried to matchmake some folks
The moment I mentioned the woman was Yoruba,without even seeing a picture,the men lost interest including a girl whose mom was Igbo and father Yoruba.
One of the guys I was matchmaking with my school daughter,a physician ,I called him one day to start the show and his mother was on the background asking " Juo ya ma o nwere Onye Igbo doctor o ma"
( ask her if she knows an Igbo female doctor ) hahahaha
I tried to set up my older cousin with my Yoruba friend but he couldn't get over her tribe
Igbo men prefer Igbo women no doubt and have broken many hearts and when they venture out they prefer to look towards Calabar side or Rivers and Igbo/ Igboid parts of Delta.We are similar in many ways.
Igbos are family oriented and prefer cultures where the family unit in strong
Yorubas are very polygamous and promiscuous and their men and women freely have kids out of wedlock,they have complicated backgrounds so an Igbo man is fearful that a woman from such a background will not be good enough to raise a lasting family with.
That is one of the reasons
The other reason is the distrust after the civil war
The third reason is the notion that they use juju to tie a man in that culture( because of the promiscuity).That scares our Igbo men
No Igbo mother will happily agree to a non Igbo daughter in law ,there is always some convincing the man has to do.

rudedough:



well, that's my opinion, do you have a problem with my opinion or you want to force your choices on me like a typical Nigerian?

rudedough:

I might reconsider marrying you. Is Orlando Owoh your real name?

Dafuq I didn't know you were a male. #NoHomo

BrutusOj: Undiluted lie...70% of d ashis on badoo are igbo ladies,bot divorced,married n single..