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Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 8:41am On Dec 16, 2013 |
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Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 8:53am On Dec 16, 2013 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by jaybee3(m): 9:00am On Dec 16, 2013 |
^^^^^ He didn't feel uncomfortable being treated differently with the plate ish? |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 9:04am On Dec 16, 2013 |
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Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by carmelion(f): 9:05am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover: God bless you for this.I learnt it from my aunt.I guess hat is what is happening to Nigeria's first family. Goodluck Jonathan was a lecturer in the University while Patience owned a restaurant in the school .From being a customer,Jonathan became her husband. Now he is no longer a lecturer but the President of a great nation.Patience is finding it hard to step up.Her poise,carriage,e.t.c is so not it.God help her sha. When your husband steps up,step up too. A family member of mine,her husband is in a very high position in this country.She had to up her game and got a Phd. That title:Dr(Mrs) earns syou respect and makes you appear polished. Steping up your game includes your dressing,your culinary skills(go to a cooking school and learn).Due to meetings and conferences,your husband will now be used to gravy and chili sauce instead of the native stew you people used to eat Due to frequent travels,he has slept in so many hotel both within and outside the country.Change your room to look as neat as those rooms in Transcorp hilton and intercontinental hotel(they are big hotels so I guess they should be wow) That way he won't feel as if he is missing anything.he won't feel moody when he comes home. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by bukatyne(f): 9:14am On Dec 16, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: Good answer baby mama.. YPP, There is no excuse for a man to cheat else wife can cheat when hubby loses his six packs or becomes bald. If the man is not content with the way wifey dresses or looks, what does he have a mouth for? Also remember we have different bodies and some people can never be slim/trim no matter what they do and some can never be fat. What stops the hubby from buying what he wants to see on his wife? I know some wives might not wear but that is another thing altogether. If every woman has her way, she would be trim after childbirth though I see extreme cases. Everyone I know had CS end to have protuding tummies. Remember that too much work and poverty also contributes. A woman who hawks her wares 10km under the hot sun daily might not make her looks her priority same as a woman who fetches water and next jumps into the kitchen to pound yam while thinking of how to do the laundry. 1 Like |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by jaybee3(m): 9:16am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover: LOL typical church banter started . . .they call him HRH anyway so everyone just laughed it offLobatan Whoop whoopp, HRH in da house you had better bow down and respect royalty |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 9:16am On Dec 16, 2013 |
carmelion:Thank you very much! I always joked back then that you know a married woman from a single woman. The married woman looking shabby(please forgive me for using such word) and the single babes looking good and attractive. I believe it's that mindset that i'm hooked and i'm not looking for husband again of some women that causes it. In summary, Women should look their best at all times. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by bukatyne(f): 9:16am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover: LOL typical church banter started . . .they call him HRH anyway so everyone just laughed it off I think everyshould have been served equally and royal treatment at home. That is exactly what made our cuntry what it is 2 Likes |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 9:41am On Dec 16, 2013 |
Hei, hei, hei. Pls make una wait a minute. We r trying to be real here. CC, I mean one should try and maintain that figure her man met her with. Lepa or biggie biggie. Some biggies have very nice shape, maintaining it is the koko. There r many things that r basically a turn off for men. Third leg didn't go to school. A lot of men r what we call abali agba aka( no night w'out a woman)type of guys. U marry such, u gat to keep it up or anything can happen. That is the way they r wired. And a lot more. We can't pretend all these don't happen and wish them away. We gat to face them by telling ourselves the truth, do our part dilligently and if that man still want to be like a he-goat, then d door is wide open. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:03am On Dec 16, 2013 |
bukatyne: .Buky, a man has no excuse to cheat and I personally hate it but they do, or don't they? The one million question now is what was my contribution in pushing him to the arms of another woman. We talk of an ideal marriage but we hv to face the reality on ground. A woman who suddenly started cheating must hv been having a bedroom related problem with her hubby. So also a man. Man's own is rather very serious cos they r easily attracted by what they c. Yep CC said something about a lady having it up there and I agree with her. The truth still remains that most women drive their hubby to another woman-s arms without knowing it. Let's start by advicing and admonishing ourselves first. That thing u said about cs is not quite true. I did cs and worked on my body. Monitored what enters my mouth and got back to shape. Have u seen most women eating and drinking soft drinks like water? Haba! Most of us r a huge turn off. How many of us can brisk walk for like 30 minutes in d neborhood? The list is endless. We r very lazy. Work on ur womanliness after giving birth, another core reason for cheating. A lot of them. 2 Likes |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:14am On Dec 16, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: Good answer baby mama.Bless you, ma'am. And guys should stop thinking beer bellies are sexy and flabby arms and everything look great. Smh |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by bukatyne(f): 10:17am On Dec 16, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: The CS stuff is based on what I see around. I would agree that some women are turn offs the way they eat et al but it is the duty of the hubby to bring her back in line/shape. I still say again that there is excuse for cheating. If the husband has complained to the wife without change, he can do something dramatic to show the woman he's serious. A lot of women are lazy with their apperance; a lot of men are lazy in making it work. Most Nigerian couples are lazy anyways that's why they want to do it as their ancestors did it without rreinventing the wheel. As for dressing, it seems it is a psycological thing. Married women are expected to behave and conduct themselves in a certain way. It is now that churches have started hammering on th dressing and looking part. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:18am On Dec 16, 2013 |
You're right @Yellowpawpaw. You see, when a woman (and men too) develop a culture of exercising eating right and keeping fit, chances of losing shape is reduced to a minimum... While at Carson, whenever i wake up and look out the window, you see couples jogging vigorously and enjoying it, my host's wife never misses her 50 sit ups per day (a mother of two children) when i also went to the gym, i saw a lot of women, some who just had a child 15 months ago, some even use bar bells. But when i returned, i tried looking out for such, but only a neglible percentage of women do it here which is quite disappointing. Some don't do anything(sedentary life) and they eat junk like lions. The point here is that women and men too should try to build a routine exercise culture when young and it will go a long way. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:18am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover: The truth is that the "better" the husband, the more the temptation. Women love good things and Its funny how after a man has been "cooked", he suddenly becomes very attractive to other women. I recently heard that some sisters were discussing my husband in church and were saying that they wished they were married to him. I said to myself "in your dreams" . . . .. Now if you see the way I sit beside him gba gba gba in church . . .BAM!!!! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:21am On Dec 16, 2013 |
ferhyntorlah:YES, MA'AM! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:25am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover:BAM!!! Lepaciously voluptious is my thing. Not flabby. As long as it's all firm and disciplined, I'm one happy camper. And I never know what to do with airheads. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:27am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover: LOL typical church banter started . . .they call him HRH anyway so everyone just laughed it offCORREEEEEEEEEEEECT!!!! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:36am On Dec 16, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw:So on point. No excuse to cheat, ok. But there's no doubt that the bedroom can turn frosty when couples start getting lazy about their physical attractiveness. About the lepa and orobo thing, nobody is asking anybody else to change their body type, just to be diligent in disciplining it. I have seen lepas that have almost zero sex appeal and orobos that drive you wild with lust. It's all a question of self-appreciation. My standard is a woman who loves her body and looks after it. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:37am On Dec 16, 2013 |
Ihedinobi:are we twins? Why we come like the same thing na? |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:37am On Dec 16, 2013 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:39am On Dec 16, 2013 |
PocketEconomist: are we twins? Why we come like the same thing na? As long as the right places are soft and all that.... |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:44am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover:I fully agree. It's not a question of favoritism. This is simply a given wife's custom with her husband. It's understandable. In my culture, it is assumed that at a function or anything that involves feasting with other people, the wife goes to get her husband's food. She decides what he is served and how it is served. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:46am On Dec 16, 2013 |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:46am On Dec 16, 2013 |
Yaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy!!!! CC the CC Nobody can spoil ministry for you jor Lol @ sitting down beside him bam bam Me likey ur style jare |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by bukatyne(f): 10:49am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover: This is not a function of two different attitudes A function is organized in Church and you are privileged to serve either by virtue of position or trust and you serve your hubby differently with what I believe to be made with public funds or contribution. Jonathan is elected as president and he puts all his family members in position of power The party analogy is different; afteral if 10 people go as a group to a party, one or two people eap those closet to the host will coordinate food. I bet you that not everyone would have been happy with the treatment but they will smile. Don't be surprised you hear side talks in passing. Anyways, you can't try that in some churches. Your posittion as a Deacon is different from wife and should be different. I hope the serving is rotated so that not only your hubby gets to eat with china ware. It is well 5 Likes |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:49am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover:Nnaa, if dat one happen, na force-feeding tinz o |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by bukatyne(f): 10:52am On Dec 16, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: Your cultural customs does not apply in a public gathering else Jonathan's customs might be to eat N1m food daily with our money 4 Likes |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:53am On Dec 16, 2013 |
bukatyne: I'm an advocate of treating everybody equally but really On top food, somebody wld be making side remarks in church They're on their own! And yes, my hubby does not get to queue, either i'm the one serving or not, it's my duty to arrange for his food! Other wives can do same, if dey so please! |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 10:54am On Dec 16, 2013 |
Ihedinobi:yes o my brother. A good idea is to build an workout routine with your wife. That would help. Also, eating the right stuff, limit junk, and you would be fine. |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by ferhyntorlah(f): 10:59am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover: Beautiful question. The same can be posited about the men: will this man present himself well in public gatherings/functions? |
Re: Making Love & Raising A Family by Nobody: 11:00am On Dec 16, 2013 |
chaircover:Madam, na so jare. All must workout, abi you like man with pot belly? |
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