Y'ello everyone!

So I am sharing this experience where a guy who is an item with a lady asked her if she would be okay with their relationship having no form of sexual intercourse indefinitely. They are adults, have been dating for a few months and neither is a "V" but the guy supposedly has some serious shackles on his libido.
Now, the question goes thus: how would you honestly react to a guy that says such? For one, say you are accustomed to having forms of gratification in the past, especially when you and your partner had intense chemistry. So, how would you approach this?

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..No to punny?

This question makes no sense. A relationship starts
when you have sex the first time.

Healthy Relationship Requires good Sex

BigBlackDick: Healthy Relationship Requires good Sex

Deep down your a guud dude it so happens tha NL only helps you escape into fantasy..... Remember the son of who you are

i wil discontinue!

would depend on how he is in the other aspects of the relationship .....its not always all abt sex

Corky Joe: ..No to punny?

Yes sir. Apologies for my timing. No sex initiated by the man. How do you see it?

Enegod: This question makes no sense. A relationship starts
when you have sex the first time.

Is that right? Well, this relationship started from friendship into companionship and now romance. However, there is a no sex clause. Still unreasonable to you?

BigBlackDick: Healthy Relationship Requires good Sex

I see. Depends on the kind of relationship you mean: an amorous one, committed kind or simply a tryst?

49cents:
Deep down your a guud dude it so happens tha NL only helps you escape into fantasy..... Remember the son of who you are

You got that right. We are all in the world but not everyone has to bend to every whim and desire. That's just pitiful.

oyinbogirl: would depend on how he is in the other aspects of the relationship .....its not always all abt sex

Interesting and well said. So how long would be willing to go without it with a great guy who really has you twirling?

eunisam: i wil discontinue!

Hmm. Funnily, that is a very ubiquitous theme on Nairaland. Every man claims to have such disposition. However, isn't it possible to maintain a true and deep relationship without sex?

Where the shawties at?
Ladies, how would y'all react to this? I want your views please. Let them roll in>>

yesboss20:
Yes sir. Apologies for my timing. No sex initiated by the man. How do you see it?

...then u r 300,000,0000,000% ga,y!!!

yesboss20:
Interesting and well said. So how long would be willing to go without it with a great guy who really has you twirling?

It might be hard sometimes if esp if I felt romantic! i can always respect wishes if there is a sound reasoning behind it. And as long as hes not getting it somewhere else - cant stand that. And he must truly love me too. And still needs to show me affection & make me still feel loved of course, that dosnt change. If this is all in place I am cool with it cos I am accepting of other means of love n affection cos love is a daily thing u can show so many ways who will care even abt d sex ? lol ok some will! but as for me, I look beyond to the bigger picture, I guess cant put an actual time on it...but months or even years . I will wait till he is ready

It is ok for a girl to say no sex until marriage but for a guy? i go expect every girl to test the thing abi e dey work well or na dey 1munite own o! Becos after marriage no going back o!

Hmmm
A large % age of girls will say No Thanks.. Truth.
Females ve dis notion every guy is a sex freak, always wanting/demanding sex..that t dem is d norm. Anything outside that is regarded as an aberration n treated with suspicion.

Besides, a lot of girls jst Luv d sex n most equate sex t love .

**strolls out..*

Corky Joe:


...then u r 300,000,0000,000% ga,y!!!

Haha. That's your response...only an effeminate man would choose not to have sex before marriage? Really?
Well, let's not even get to how lascivious and degenerate the state of man has gotten to.

oyinbogirl:

It might be hard sometimes if esp if I felt romantic! i can always respect wishes if there is a sound reasoning behind it. And as long as hes not getting it somewhere else - cant stand that. And he must truly love me too. And still needs to show me affection & make me still feel loved of course, that dosnt change. If this is all in place I am cool with it cos I am accepting of other means of love n affection cos love is a daily thing u can show so many ways who will care even abt d sex ? lol ok some will! but as for me, I look beyond to the bigger picture, I guess cant put an actual time on it...but months or even years . I will wait till he is ready

Wow. And I so admire your stand on it. Beautiful! He surely has to be faithful, committed and affectionate to compensate for that. Hmm. I hope she sees it this way though.
Thank you very much. In fact, 3 cheers to you!!!

Blakjewelry: It is ok for a girl to say no sex until marriage but for a guy? i go expect every girl to test the thing abi e dey work well or na dey 1munite own o! Becos after marriage no going back o!

That is a solid point: marriage is it, no bend or curve but one way. Nonetheless, there are ways, methods and schemes to employ that would give a detailed report on the state of things down there and elsewhere. Savvy?
As a matter of fact, that is a salient step for would-be couples to take. Thanks man.

dBard: Hmmm
A large % age of girls will say No Thanks.. Truth.
Females ve dis notion every guy is a sex freak, always wanting/demanding sex..that t dem is d norm. Anything outside that is regarded as an aberration n treated with suspicion.

Besides, a lot of girls jst Luv d sex n most equate sex t love .

**strolls out..*

Hah, you've said it from a male with-knowledge-about-the-female-psyche perspective. More often than not, I reckon it's exactly as you said but the ladies do not easily own up to being that sensually-driven. The stereotypical way out is that men are freaks.
Anyway, before you stroll too far, are you saying it'd take some convincing to keep the lady in question to stay in the relationship and that it simply is near impossible?

yesboss20:
Hah, you've said it from a male with-knowledge-about-the-female-psyche perspective. More often than not, I reckon it's exactly as you said but the ladies do not easily own up to being that sensually-driven. The stereotypical way out is that men are freaks.
Anyway, before you stroll too far, are you saying it'd take some convincing to keep the lady in question to stay in the relationship and that it simply is near impossible?

Wat am saying is, from onset, doubts may linger abt d guys virility due t it bin an aberration I.e 'y would a normal guy make such a request if dres nothing wrong'..emphasis on normal. Besides, most times, as d relationship progresses, a time will cum wen she'll demand f it which if turned down will b interpreted negatively, an indication she don't turn u on physically.
Not saying it's near impossible or such but that eventually, d onus will lie on d guy t kip it that way if really it is his intention.

**strolls on*

dBard:

Wat am saying is, from onset, doubts may linger abt d guys virility due t it bin an aberration I.e 'y would a normal guy make such a request if dres nothing wrong'..emphasis on normal. Besides, most times, as d relationship progresses, a time will cum wen she'll demand f it which if turned down will b interpreted negatively, an indication she don't turn u on physically.
Not saying it's near impossible or such but that eventually, d onus will lie on d guy t kip it that way if really it is his intention.

**strolls on*

Haha. You must be one drama king (with all these strolls!) Anyway, I'm totally understanding that and truly, it won't be easy for a warm-blooded pair to steer clear of such.
Thanks for expounding. I am indeed wiser now.

*double-clicks*

oyinbogirl: would depend on how he is in the other aspects of the relationship .....its not always all abt sex

What is it all about? The money!!!

had this discussion with my partner once and she threatened to rape me

I won't have a problem with that,i only need to be sure he is fit.
1. Can he sustain an ere**ction?
2. Is he free from any STI?
3. Can he shoot out spe**rm successfully after a massage or mouth action?
4. Does he get moved when he sees me?
5. Does he have any other girl he's sleeping with?
Once he passes these four then we are good to go till anytime he is ready for it. Atleast it will help me too focus.

drnoel: had this discussion with my partner once and she threatened to rape me

Haha. Now that's the kinda lady I fancy: straight to the point! So, how did it go? Did you come to an agreement with her?

lertee: I won't have a problem with that,i only need to be sure he is fit.
1. Can he sustain an ere**ction?
2. Is he free from any STI?
3. Can he shoot out spe**rm successfully after a massage or mouth action?
4. Does he get moved when he sees me?
5. Does he have any other girl he's sleeping with?
Once he passes these four then we are good to go till anytime he is ready for it. Atleast it will help me too focus.

Hmm. I like that five point agenda! Hmm. But you know if you have your way and get to test some of these, esp the first 3, there is every chance that your man would forget about all he said and "go for broke!"
Nonetheless, I believe one has to know what's up with a partner physically and otherwise from the outset and also uncover all there is to know/test when things are indeed getting serious. Thanks miss. I fancy your man is . . .

okpara ugo:

What is it all about? The money!!!

Of course she has to consider a lot. There could be numerous reasons behind that resolve and if it had come out of a lady (one who has been deflowered specifically), you can only marvel at the standpoint guys would take. True?

yesboss20:
They are adults, have been dating for a few months and neither is a "V" but the guy supposedly has some serious shackles on his libido.

@bolded lies the crux of the matter. The best way to treat low libido is not to abstain from sex; why suffer your partner because of a deficiency in your system?

@topic; NO, I WON'T! No sex, no relationship.

QED