chaircover:

sha let ileoba catch you there frolicking with coogar

chaircover: ^^^ SH read my response to babygirl

I dey go bed . . .sweet dreams

chaircover:

Having children and getting married are 2 different things

My children did not start school the day I married

I have shared on this forum before . . when my husband and I first got married we struggled financially . . .many new couples do struggle and they grow together. Many rich people you see today started off with humble beginnings. Many lived in rented flats before building their own houses.

I saw a good hardworking man with potential; If were to have looked at his pocket then, then I would have lost one of the best blessings in my life.

I repeat a good hardworking man earning 60-70K has every right to get married . . .to a good woman sef and any woman who throws that away simply because of what his wages are today is making a great mistake.

kulyie: lmao chaircover is just blowing things out of proportion for reasons best known to her.

i never in anywhere said anyone earning 60-70 should not marry,i am only saying the guy should put first things first.at least to avoid future financial frustrations,he should first establish himself before he talks of marriage


abi shey iyen ti wa poju ni

chaircover den pon akisa ni jebele

coogar:

it will not happen to you cos i expect you to know the basics of home keeping. if she cannot cook, it's only right she's sent back to where she can cook.

hahahaha - nice idea!
i will personally love being sent to my parents in the village to learn how to deal with a woman. this is an opportunity to fiddle with village maidens.

how much of your partner can you learn before marriage. do women not beg their friends to help with the cooking when they are expecting their boyfriends? how is he to know the food was not cooked by his partner? you really dunno how this desperate babes pretend before they cop the ring. true colours glow after marriage, rarely before.

nah - this lesson is for every yet-to-be-married woman out there. go & learn how to cook. the standards of nigerian men are now high. we will not put up with rubbish regardless of the academic qualifications of the wife.

Miner13:

what can you say or put to note that you are just different from the woman in question. Absolutely nothing.
You are just a like bird in that woman world no distint different about either of you.
That you wil ensure his find the way to his parents house to learn how to respect an abusive woman.
I am just too sure and proud that your origin can't stand his. That's why he's not a bush man.

Couples should learn from each other before marriage. Yea you are right on that assumption but what will you say to women that hide their real colour and burst it after they confirmed the wedding certificate.

What this man was able to bear for that period i am sure you will not allow your own elder or junior brother to endure that duration.

Get a brain and teach women around you how to be relevant and tolerant in marriage.
Lol!
You are not exempted either teach yourself

babygirlfl: My opinion

Was the woman wrong for always shouting at the husband ? Yes. Shouting is a very bad way of communicating.

Was the man wrong for sending her to her parents? Yes

Suggestion of what the man would have done. Sort it as husband and wife.

@ kulyie and deols, you are both cool. I love your stand.

One major problem we have in Nigeria is that most people where brought up in families were women are treated badly. So they grew up thinking it is the right way to be brought up. Even women from such families see it as normal and will call you all sorts of name. You have to understand something which is they do not know better. It is difficult to make such people accept that it is not how life is supposed to be because that is what they have known to be right for a very long time.They will always tell you things like you will die a spinster but that's just ignorance again. Girls like you don't die a spinster. What happens is that you end up marrying men that see their wives as a partner not property. I cry for our people because marriage in Africa is no longer about love but who is head and who should submit and how to be a woman with manners. If only we could teach couple how to love each other all these issues will not be there.

deols:

First of all, who are you?. I have only two things to tell you.

1. Respect yourself. The next time you insult me, I will give it back to you. You don't know me. You have no right whatsoever to talk to me like you did.

2. Don't reply me if you can't type in a way that I can understand you. Maybe, go back to school before quoting me again.

deols:

It will not happen to me simply because I won't marry a bush man. I knew a man who said it doesn't matter if I couldn't cook. I can but what if circumstances would not allow it. Not all men carry food for head like it is the most important thing to life. One only has to find the good one.

Miner13:

I am mr wind and you mrs do not touch me.
But get this as well i am always blowing around you.
If you stand the point that i don't know, wel, your post here speak a million about you.

Next time, learn to respect either young or old

fresh_dude: I wonder what's so strange about this matter. Man buys wife(dowry/bride price?) from retailer(parents?), product is defective. Man returns good for after-sales service and people are busy running temperature over that? Abeg, make we hear word.

tintingz: Sorry sis, a man that say this to you @bold is deceiving you, either you start learning how to cook now or immediately after you are married before he start showing you his true color.

deols:

You sound confused.
First, you need to be sent to where you can be taught to properly read and write

and then, be taught to reason. Was any of my posts on this thread directed at you before you went haywire referring to my brain??

Who needs to learn to respect the young and the old if not you?? The likes of you are the Op abi??

You are a bush man and should be sent back to where you came from..mtchewww

You are a waste of time. I can't have a reasonable conversation with you. See this as the last.

Miner13:

But kulyie is looking mr. millionaire so she can just jump into a golden palace where merry making is 2nd to none.
That's why many women turned to a kicking ball,they are the type that it's always on the run and end up settling with the riff-raff

deols:

I can cook though..and he was not deceiving me.

I know of a family. The husband does not allow his wife to do anything in the house. He wants her to look clean all the time. and he employed people to do these things for the family.


You all need to stop talking like all men are like you.

pickabeau1: interesting debate so far.. coogar on point!

kuly.. a woman should support her husband since they are equal anyway and there is no difference

we will grant you a concession to bastardise any man that cheats on his woman so that the equation can balance

Miner13:

if you do not know get it now and grab a copy to your brain, that standard of yours just sound like you are a gold digger, which i still you are not.

Kulyie answer this again, did you start walking, making a good and clear conversation, starts schooling and starts making and rejecting friends the day you were born?

kulyie: I am not saying a eoman shouldnt support her husband.go back to my post.i am not going to repeat myself again

deols:

I can cook though..and he was not deceiving me.

I know of a family. The husband does not allow his wife to do anything in the house. He wants her to look clean all the time. and he employed people to do these things for the family.


You all need to stop talking like all men are like you.

kulyie: I am not saying a eoman shouldnt support her husband.go back to my post.i am not going to repeat myself again

deols:

You have made yourself clear jare. Some people decide to read the wrong meanings.

I thought differently at first, but when you explained, it became enough.

pickabeau1: Since you believe women can support men without expecting anything in return or subjecting the man to verbal assault or abuse that the man is useless or sth.

In that case all is well and dandy

dinachi:
@ bolded walahi the husband fall my hand!Very soon the wife will ask to be excused from bed duties. I just don't know why some men think that treating their wife like a trophy is the way to go.

My wife must cook my meals baring any unforeseen circumstances. Nobody else will take charge of my meals. It is one of the reasons I married her in the first place. Maybe, the husband may soon hire other people to perform bed duties when the wife is tired. I just dont understand some men. I think some men needs sex change operation ASAP!

deols:

I can cook though..and he was not deceiving me.

I know of a family. The husband does not allow his wife to do anything in the house. He wants her to look clean all the time. and he employed people to do these things for the family.


You all need to stop talking like all men are like you.

dinachi:
@ bolded walahi the husband fall my hand!Very soon the wife will ask to be excused from bed duties. I just don't know why some men think that treating their wife like a trophy is the way to go.

My wife must cook my meals baring any unforeseen circumstances. Nobody else will take charge of my meals. It is one of the reasons I married her in the first place. Maybe, the husband may soon hire other people to perform bed duties when the wife is tired. I just dont understand some men. I think some men needs sex change operation ASAP!

LOL...probably cooking the wife in bed since cooking his dirty to the husband

tintingz: Sorry sis, a man that say this to you @bold is deceiving you, either you start learning how to cook now or immediately after you are married before he start showing you his true color.

dinachi:
@ bolded walahi the husband fall my hand!Very soon the wife will ask to be excused from bed duties. I just don't know why some men think that treating their wife like a trophy is the way to go.

My wife must cook my meals baring any unforeseen circumstances. Nobody else will take charge of my meals. It is one of the reasons I married her in the first place. Maybe, the husband may soon hire other people to perform bed duties when the wife is tired. I just dont understand some men. I think some men needs sex change operation ASAP!