please I need help from you fellow Nairalanders,

I met this young girl at school, we both started 200L this year and now we going to 300L by January@ open university of Nigeria with the same course, computer science.

@first we were friends, later I aproached her n told her my feelings, she agreed and accepted. but the problem here is that she told me she had a baby girl with another man. @first i didnt believe her becuase she did not look like a lady that has gave birth because she look so young and no one will even no.

so i ask her about the guy that pregnated her, she said they are not together again because her parents and the guy's own had misunderstanding,
she told me she really loves me but will my mum accept her even though I accept her.

now am so confused, either to live her or tell my mum about her because my mum wanted to meet her and thank her for the gift she brought to her during her birthday.

beside I never sleep with her ooo abi na bleep una callam.

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please am very serious about this, beside she said she has fall for me already.
i need help pls

change the topic. then I will give you d best advice ever.. change that topic.. d topic says you are In love with two gals while the content says otherwise. so change the topic
good.. now ma advice.








if u love her truly like you claim, tell your mother.. cos if u don't tell your mother now she will still know later on.. so tell your mother 1st. wen u do that I will tell u wat next to do!!

kennypoka2: change the topic. then I will give you d best advice ever.. change that topic.. d topic says you are In love with two gals while the content says otherwise. so change the topic

d topic has been changed so...
any help

guy look for ur own gal. As long as the baby's dad is still alive there's always a chance that they'll get back together, even if just for flings!
Afterall how're u going to prevent her from going to see the father of her baby, for financial support? Or are u going to take financial responsibility for mother & child, even as a student?

Hmm dis ur mata serious o bt u just hv 2 consder sumthngs because just we love each oda alone does mk a rlshp wrk. Sumtimes u here couples say dey love each oda bt they stil want divorce.do u love r yes? Do u love him yes?u start wonderin y den do dey want divorce?.dhr r sumthngs u nid 2 knw nd 1 of dem is kan u stay wit dis lady knwin dat she as a child outside wedlock ?2 ru ready 2 c r daughter as ur own?3 r u ready nd matured enough 2 handle otside gossip both 4rm frnds nd eniemes? we all knw nigeria 1ce sumthg like dis shuld happen dat bcomes dhr topic 4 d year.nd lastly do u knw dis ladies plan 4 d future?as 4 me i dnt c ur parent as a problem if u tell dem dis is wat u want nd u stand by it dey wuld surely knw dat yes u mean bizness nd agree wit u.eventhough dey mite object 4 sumtime wen dey c d zeal nd passion u hv 4 dis lady dey wont stop .pls dnt b in a hurry 2 introduce d lady 2 ur parent wait nd let d rlshp grow atleast till wen r through wit ur studies

Justosaus: guy look for ur own gal. As long as the baby's dad is still alive there's always a chance that they'll get back together, even if just for flings!
Afterall how're u going to prevent her from going to see the father of her baby, for financial support? Or are u going to take financial responsibility for mother & child, even as a student?

nice advice
tnx man

gunners160: Hmm dis ur mata serious o bt u just hv 2 consder sumthngs because just we love each oda alone does mk a rlshp wrk. Sumtimes u here couples say dey love each oda bt they stil want divorce.do u love r yes? Do u love him yes?u start wonderin y den do dey want divorce?.dhr r sumthngs u nid 2 knw nd 1 of dem is kan u stay wit dis lady knwin dat she as a child outside wedlock ?2 ru ready 2 c r daughter as ur own?3 r u ready nd matured enough 2 handle otside gossip both 4rm frnds nd eniemes? we all knw nigeria 1ce sumthg like dis shuld happen dat bcomes dhr topic 4 d year.nd lastly do u knw dis ladies plan 4 d future?as 4 me i dnt c ur parent as a problem if u tell dem dis is wat u want nd u stand by it dey wuld surely knw dat yes u mean bizness nd agree wit u.eventhough dey mite object 4 sumtime wen dey c d zeal nd passion u hv 4 dis lady dey wont stop .pls dnt b in a hurry 2 introduce d lady 2 ur parent wait nd let d rlshp grow atleast till wen r through wit ur studies

tnx 4 ur advice, am most grateful

D gal is looking for a mugu to take care of her child so congrats, she's found u

duni04: D gal is looking for a mugu to take care of her child so congrats, she's found u

the child dey with her grandmum in d villa

Op,as a guy there is way u sud be able 2 talk 2 ur mum that datz d gurl u want 2 mari irrespective of d fact dat she has a child,gone are d days wen parents dictate on who their children marry.

Harbosede02: Op,as a guy there is way u sud be able 2 talk 2 ur mum that datz d gurl u want 2 mari irrespective of d fact dat she has a child,gone are d days wen parents dictate on who their children marry.

you make point here. tnx
i really luv dis girl, i mean it.

If you really love her, nothing should stop you. But it seems you have some kind of doubt abt it all, what is it? Take her to your mum, if she is as nice as your saying ur mum should love her too. The days are gone of parents choosing ur life mate as one other poster said

not really a good idea, i suggest u think about it well

oyinbogirl: If you really love her, nothing should stop you. But it seems you have some kind of doubt abt it all, what is it? Take her to your mum, if she is as nice as your saying ur mum should love her too. The days are gone of parents choosing ur life mate as one other poster said

yes dear. tnx

Tobbie9: not really a good idea, i suggest u think about it well

yep.. but not when u hv actually fall in luv, is not easy as u think it

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Go for someone else. she is a baby mama, don't be carried away with lust. All these type of story don't usually give a happy family life.

First go for hiv test.. If you guys are actually clean and you truly love each other, i dont see why you can take the relationship to another level but i guess you are not ready for marriage...

well, my advice will really affect someones else feeling either you or her. i don't want to offend anybody. but just follow your heart. talk to your spirit there is a man inside of you. you can only see him when you want to. you don't need spiritual eye. talk to your spirit if you really like this girl and why you love her. will you be able to withstand the consequence. then the answer will be right there.

i can go back to my past love anytime i like, the key is in my hand. so with that i do believe any man can go back to his past love if he really want to and knows what it takes to have her back. so be wise son

Hexzyz: Go for someone else. she is a baby mama, don't be carried away with lust. All these type of story don't usually give a happy family life.

Rubbish! If you truly want something in life to work you can! He said he is in love not lust, they will find a way if they want it to work bad enough

except if you are a fan of misserable lives.

Op: Your grammar usage is poor.

What was your average score at SSCE or GCE?

There's nothing wrong about this, but one thing is needful.....
Will you be able to love her child like yours?

The security & safety of her child is her major concern, In order for you to give her 100% peace of mind, if you'll marry her, make sure the child is with her (in your house), treat him/her as yours & when she enter secondary school let her bord from JSS 1 to SS3, with this she'll give you the love you've been dreaming of.

PLEASE
- make sure you ignore her past.
- don't see her as a desperate woman, never.
- always try to address that child as yours (how is my son/daugther)
- please love her if you can, go extra mile, single motherhood is not a curse, okay?

I wish you success!