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We in same shoes. Im 28 and I started rubbing off at 15 or so and I'm an addict. My advice is 4 U 2 stop it b4 it ruins u totally. As I talk to U,ive been single for 2 straight years.U wanna know why,im so comfortable with myself and I see the real pussy as a waste of time when I can jerk off in less dan 5 minutes. ..instead of going thru d stress of toasting and begging some feminine creature 4 sex.

Just find a way to stop it. God doesnt come down to help people
stop it even if it means inflicting an injury on urself. Just please stop it

Get busy dammit

Dyt: Get busy dammit

its beyond that sweet. I tell u at some point in my life,I devised means of jerking off in public without even touching myself. Its all in the mind. Its a very serious issue.

LyfeJennings: We in same shoes. Im 28 and I started rubbing off at 15 or so and I'm an addict. My advice is 4 U 2 stop it b4 it ruins u totally. As I talk to U,ive been single for 2 straight years.U wanna know why,im so comfortable with myself and I see the real pussy as a waste of time when I can jerk off in less dan 5 minutes. ..instead of going thru d stress of toasting and begging some feminine creature 4 sex.

d same thing here too.. although i have a girlfriend and i can say we have nt had sex for like four years ago we started..but I don't complain about sex cos i self service. bt now i want a stop am getting older

unfortunately prayer won't solve it. ur case isn't different 4rm mine nd it's after u might av done it dat u bcom so furious at urself; d only way to stop is to discipline urself(self control), guide ur thoughts nd be occupied wt useful nd try nt to be alone 4 too long

LyfeJennings:

its beyond that sweet. I tell u at some point in my life,I devised means of jerking off in public without even touching myself. Its all in the mind. Its a very serious issue.

U never see busy wey be busy
Wen u are busy both body, mind soul, mental, spiritual, get home and d only thing u wanna do is slp off
U go rem after 4mnths say u never do am

[quote author=Dyt]Get busy dammit
okay

All this self service, i dont even kn0w the meaning of it I swear! I started seen things like this when i became member here. Can s0me0ne just explain this self service?
Yu quote me nd insult, dat's ur headache

Wizdray: All this self service, i dont even kn0w the meaning of it I swear! I started seen things like this when i became member here. Can s0me0ne just explain this self service?
Yu quote me nd insult, dat's own headache

Its wen u jerk off with ur hand or dig hole in bed
Imagining u with some gal
Am sure this is coded enuf

You said you have fasted and prayed, while fasting you sometimes get tempted to eat, at times you dream of food but because you want your issue resolved you keep at it. Self service can be stopped if you put your mind to it.. Joseph Prince said you'll start acting right the moment you start believing right.. Believe you can quit the action and you'll end up being victorious.

But note faith without works is dead, believe you can stop and work towards it by avoiding lonely corners, subduing the erotical thoughts, et ceteRa...

I still find it absurd that guys do this stuff anyways @op,you sound addicted so it might be quite add quitting. Maybe you should quick to dyt's advice!

Dyt: Get busy dammit

Being busy can't change a thing. An alcoholic will still find time to drink no matter how busy he is, a cleptomaniac will steal no matter how busy he is, a sex addict will find time to have sex no matter how busy he is, an xrated material addict will find time to watch/read no matter how busy he is....

Being busy might only distract you for a while but one can't be busy always. So if you don't deal with your addiction, don't expect a busy schedule to take it away automatically, it will rear it's ugly head when you're free. Deal with the problem and experience freedom.

stracey:
no mata how busy i am I'll still find chance to do it. even at work where am always busy 2/4 i will still find a chance to d toilet for a jerk off..only if God can just help me out of this.ah"! I'll sing praises..I'm fed up

ur case looks dangerous and fearing. U still do it in public toilets, hmm. The only possible solution is for u to think positively at home, work or anywhere, also don't touch your peenis more dan 5 seconds.

vickyO:

Being busy can't change a thing. An alcoholic will still find time to drink no matter how busy he is, a cleptomaniac will steal no matter how busy he is, a sex addict will find time to have sex no matter how busy he is, an xrated material addict will find time to watch/read no matter how busy he is....

Being busy might only distract you for a while but one can't be busy always. So if you don't deal with your addiction, don't expect a busy schedule to take it away automatically, it will rear it's ugly head when you're free. Deal with the problem and experience freedom.

Ok am glad u said bn busy wld only take it away for sometime
He can't b expected to stop at once
Its little by little
First thing is he's willing to stop, that's the courage, gettin busy, he might nt rem till another 3weeks, frm there, it continues till abt after 6mnths he remembers he's nt done in 3mnths
Its a gradual thing

I used to but all that stoped when I got a girlfriend that is always ready to fvck me.

Worwor: I used to but all that stoped when I got a girlfriend that is always ready to fvck me.

And that's supposed to be a great advice..
Smh

vickyO:

And that's supposed to be a great advice..
Smh

it sounds harsh but its good advice. The poster is fighting biology. You are genetically coded to want to procreate. All these praying and fssting is good but it wont help you. You either need to find a girl or your maztrubation will conyinue. It is your animal instinct to want to mate so stop fighting it.
I had your problem too and I solved it by connecting with the woman I plan to marry.

Interesting

25omega: it sounds harsh but its good advice. The poster is fighting biology. You are genetically coded to want to procreate. All these praying and fssting is good but it wont help you. You either need to find a girl or your maztrubation will conyinue. It is your animal instinct to want to mate so stop fighting it.
I had your problem too and I solved it by connecting with the woman I plan to marry.

If your woman leaves you or denies you sex what then will happen? You'll continue the bad habit... The op is seeking to stop this bad habit. Having a partner can't stop it entirely. Me think some of you live in a different planet, haven't you heard of married people masturbating? Most times the habit wrecks marriages.


Sorry but your advice isn't quite reasonable.

Lemme spread my mat here jarey





U c, jst try and use aboniki balm 2 do it, by d tym u feel d pain and get ova it. D nxt tym u'll do it ur brain wil automatically remember d aboniki experience and ur erection comes down(dat's wot we call "conditioned stimulus"). Try and eat snacks everyday too, it helps. avoid opening x_rated materials too. Fasting can also hlp, at least if u fast 3tyms in week u (I believe aving sex or ejaculation terminates fasting in xtianity cos it does in Islam), dis is part of d moral lesson of fasting. U av many options, ONLY IF U'RE READY TO QUIT.

All boiz: ur case looks dangerous and fearing. U still do it in public toilets, hmm. The only possible solution is for u to think positively at home, work or anywhere, also don't touch your peenis more dan 5 seconds.

All boiz: ur case looks dangerous and fearing. U still do it in public toilets, hmm. The only possible solution is for u to think positively at home, work or anywhere, also don't touch your peenis more dan 5 seconds.

All boiz: ur case looks dangerous and fearing. U still do it in public toilets, hmm. The only possible solution is for u to think positively at home, work or anywhere, also don't touch your peenis more dan 5 seconds.

Lols. In order words, let him cut off his dick? Self discipline and determination to free yourself from it will help a great deal. Also do away with any materials in terms of pornography or environment that can trigger the urge. Thank me later.

vickyO:
If your woman leaves you or denies you sex what then will happen? You'll continue the bad habit... The op is seeking to stop this bad habit. Having a partner can't stop it entirely. Me think some of you live in a different planet, haven't you heard of married people masturbating? Most times the habit wrecks marriages.


Sorry but your advice isn't quite reasonable.

truth is, both feelings are not the same. I.e selfservicing and the real thing. When you start having the real thing, selfservincing will be like rubbish and a waste of enjoyment to you.

Masturbation: Tips and Warnings
1
Stop punishing yourself. Consider it this way: if you're constantly dwelling on the disapproval of masturbating, you're still thinking about masturbation all the time. Don't just trade in your masturbation addiction for another one — they're so closely related that you won't resolve anything. Instead, acknowledge that this has been a problem for you, but you will persevere to stop the impulse.

Remember, you're human. Humans make mistakes, and they have sexual urges. Neither of these things makes you a bad person. Forgive yourself, and keep in mind that you are more than the sum of your mistakes.
Resist the urge of sinking into despair by remembering the times spent feeling sorry for yourself when it could have been spent relinquishing your addiction.

2
Remove anything that tempts your urge to masturbate. Some common enablers include:
Access to pornographic material: If you have a collection and you're serious about quitting masturbation, you'll have to dispose of it. Burn or shred paper, Don't wipe your hard drive just delete the sexy pictures, and set up parental controls on your Internet browser that block adult content.
Certain times of the day: If you have problems before going to bed or in the shower, refrain from any temptation to masturbate. For instance, if it's a problem late at night, drop to the floor and do push-ups until you're too exhausted to do anything but fall asleep. If you find shower time too tempting, start using ice cold water only — you won't want to be in there for long.
Boredom: If you have so little to do that your mind frequently wanders to sexual thoughts, occupy your schedule. You'll find it gets easier to avoid masturbation if you're too busy or tired to spare any energy for distractions.
Loneliness: If you masturbate frequently because you feel lonely, find ways to limit your solitude. For instance, instead of watching the game at home by yourself, watch it at a sports bar. Even if you're not hanging out with friends, you will not be alone, ultimately having no time for masturbation.

3
Find another outlet for your time and energy. Fill your life with engaging activities. The excitement of doing something different can help replace the urge to masturbate, and you'll have a go-to distraction next time you're tempted. Try some of these options.

Get creative. The process of turning sexual urges into creative output (called sublimation) is something on which monks and sages have relied upon for centuries. Start writing, learn to play a musical instrument, paint, draw, or do whatever else makes you feel like you're doing something productive.
Do sports. It takes discipline and persistence to excel at a sport. Develop an interest like running or swimming, or a group sport like soccer, football, basketball, or tennis.
Eat healthy. Fruits and vegetables have healthy effects on the body and provide nutrients necessary to increase your energy to be more active throughout the day.
Find a new hobby, or cultivate a skill. Learning something that takes a while to master can refocus your brain on the delayed gratification of achieving goals instead of the instant

One of the best advise i can render for p0rn and other offshoots of it is to simply sell your internet enabled phone and buy a torchlight. Format your phone just in case there might be an indecent file there. Lastly, observe, what time of the day do you often or most engage in it. Begin from there. Find a work or hobby to replace it. If you have nothing to do, sleep.
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And to add, reading your Bible intensively during this period will help cleanse your mind of any possible thoughts.

@ Op, It always start in ur thaughts, I guess U r a person dat get bored easily, most time wen U r bored, U result to self servicing.Sumtimz U wont even feel d urge buh because U r bored nd need sumtin to do, U begin to think abt stuffs dat "turn U on"** In ur mind U might be lying to urself dat U aren't going to do it nd evntually U will** This is how U can stop it: Whenever U feel d urge; **dats a problem** dnt wait untill U dwell in ur thaught, leave d place U r or find sumtin to do. Dnt see dis as a mere problem instead see it as a huge problem in ur life. Stop watching p*orn, stop fantasizing and stop day-dreaming cos they will only drive U down to doing it. Whenever d thaught pops in ur mind or U fink abt sum "hot chic" nd U erect **anoda problem**, dnt dwell on it, shut d thaught down immediately, if U dnt U r already gone!! Mastu*rbation reduces d effectiveness of d brain **it makes 1 to 4get things easily**(dat is appealing to guyz), It weakens d body, it causes depression ** if U r indulge in it**, and it weakens d mind. Indulging in mastu*rbation is a disease of d mind, it should be treated wif extreme measures. GOD HELP YOU.

Change your label.
You av been labelling yourself as an addict,dats why u can't b free from d act. Your label right now is a SELF SERVICING ADDICT. But,am now assuring you that if u can change your label from ADDICT,to a NON ADDICT,tins will start turning in ur life.
My brother,anytime u wake up in d morning,look at yourself in d mirror nd say to yourself dat ur new label is a non addict. Even wen u feel like jerking off,look at yourself nd say,"I NOW AV A NEW LABEL,MY NEW LABEL IS A NON ADDICT". its all a tin of d mind,nd i pray God help u. I know you can do it,you can stop,if you really want to stop. CHANGE YOUR LABEL,CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

Thanks bro

What are u feeding on... there is something that encourages self servicing and most times it pornography, when allow pornography to take hold of ur mind the resultant effect is either going to have sex or self servicing... so lets deal with ur pornography consumption first...

Nobody wakes up and says; "i will do it today". it is usually triggered. some via thought, others via exposure to even the mildest form of indecency. my brother, steer clear of all triggers and engage yourself....when ur mind begins to drift, seek the company of people