KarmaMod:

michelin while I agree with you, I think if a wife isnt giving it up, ask her what's going on and actually rectify the issue. Dont just jump on her in her sleep and expect everything to be fine. That's all it is

all these other people yarning sex is not food, I'm not part of that one o.

Me sef nor say jump on her! sex nor be fight now. Na peaceful meeting where we peacefully pinch scratch and squeeze our partners.

You can say that again? Wetin e nor be food? Education na food? People still live without one. Nairaland na food? People are still addicted to it. Success na food? Your beauty na food? Your clothes na food? Your shoes na food?

ibkaye:

Sex is an IMPORTANT part of marriage.

Those who use it as a 'weapon' e.g deprive their spouse for 'punishment' or 'bribery' are just being immature  

Thank you babe.  I mean, of course it's alright to say you're tired sometimes, but imagine a whole month.    

michelin89:

When you are hungry you eat.
When you are thirsty you drink.
When you are cold you get into your house.
When you are Hot you fu-ck.

So what, must it be a vital need before it's considered important? Tell me why do you need love from your husband/boyfriend/friend? You go die if you nor get am?

Im just saying that they way some of these guys are willing to divorce their wife over not receiving enough sex, makes it sound like something more than what it is. Of course is see it as important, but if im not giving it to you for like a few days, no need no to be upset. maybe im tired, stressed, not in the mood, upset.

michelin89:

Me sef nor say jump on her! sex nor be fight now. Na peaceful meeting where we peacefully pinch scratch and squeeze our partners.

You can say that again? Wetin e nor be food? Education na food? People still live without one. Nairaland na food? People are still addicted to it. Success na food? Your beauty na food? Your clothes na food? Your shoes na food?

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you have said it well my sis,

onyinye2:

I'm just saying that they way some of these [b]guys are willing to divorce their wife over not receiving enough se[/b]x, makes it sound like something more than what it is. Of course is see it as important, but if im not giving it to you for like a few days, no need no to be upset. maybe im tired, stressed, not in the mood, upset.

sex is d part that brings out the honey in every marriage,and when both partners can't satisfy themselves then a divorce is very much necessary,dat aside

but all im saying is that for her to refuse d man for one month,then sthg is wrong

dreeldee:

what after asking her and she still insists on the same reason " i'm not just in the mood" what do you expect the man to do?

depends on what he's insisting on. Is he insisting on knowing what's wrong or why she feels that way or he's just insisting on getting some.

There lies the answer

HCH3COO:

Thank you babe.  I mean, of course it's alright to say you're tired sometimes, but imagine a whole month.    

ehen now, a month is too much, something must be wrong, it is now both your duties as a mature married couple to discuss the problem amongst yaselves, don't just keep it locked in and expect your partner to take a nice cool dive into your skull and fish for clues on why you are feeling this way etc

Partner no be Sherlock Holmes.

onyinye2:

I'm just saying that they way some of these guys are willing to divorce their wife over not receiving enough sex, makes it sound like something more than what it is. Of course is see it as important, but if im not giving it to you for like a few days, no need no to be upset. maybe im tired, stressed, not in the mood, upset.

People divorce because there is no money, because there aren't children, because there isn't love, etc.

As long as the court says it's an acceptable reason, it goes.

he shows up with another baby 10 months later, talking about " this is what I did while you refused to sleep with me"

marriage goes beyond having sex or enjoying urselves. there should be mutual understanding. you should all know someone has to make the sacrifice. you should be sensitive to the desires of your wife or husband.

@ HCH
Unlike men, women are not emotionally detached about sex. Men are able to compartmentalize aspects of their lives. . . That's why they can say thing like "Yeah, I slept with her but it's you I love". Women are not built that way, you can't call your girl names, treat her unkindly and then expect her to open the gateway to paradise without so much as a a token. You can't dismiss her needs, her wants or look down on something she's interested in  then expect a warm reception when you want some.

Honestly, jokes apart. . . Why is it so hard for guys to understand that it being nice and considerate is all a woman asks? Something as simple as "Honey, you look nice today or did you do something to your hair" will touch her than expensive crap because it shows you are aware of her. It's not rocket science for goodness, sakes.

I guess it is true, Men are from Mars and Women from Venus.

i understand. But women need to realize that men are not mind readers. We deserve to know when you are hurt, what caused the hurt, and what can be done to relieve the pain. You know men have egos. The typical guy has way too much pride to go completely out of his way to apologize to his woman. If she continues to refuse even after 10 apologies, she caused her own trouble. He will start sleeping around with other women.

lol, she might faint, but then she will have to move on,

HCH3COO:

he shows up with another baby 10 months later, talking about " this is what I did while you refused to sleep with me"

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papa_dims:

marriage goes beyond having sex or enjoying urselves. there should be mutual understanding. you should all know someone has to make the sacrifice. you should be sensitive to the desires of your wife or husband.

Really? Why didn't she/he demand sensitiveness during the courtship? After the wedding you wan come dey give me story?

onyinye2:

I'm just saying that they way some of these guys are willing to divorce their wife over not receiving enough sex, makes it sound like something more than what it is. Of course is see it as important, but if im not giving it to you for like a few days, no need no to be upset. maybe im tired, stressed, not in the mood, upset.

yeah u right but at some point it could create an avenue for Cheating or getting sex from 3rd Party[hookers,mistress],

Guys, another woman 'on the side' is definately a mature way to act, imagine  

ibkaye:

ehen now, a month is too much, something must be wrong, it is now both your duties as a mature married couple to discuss the problem amongst yaselves, don't just keep it locked in and expect your partner to take a nice cool dive into your skull and fish for clues on why you are feeling this way etc

Partner no be Sherlock Holmes.

lol.  when is our marriage  

michelin89:

Me sef nor say jump on her!   sex nor be fight now. Na peaceful meeting where we peacefully pinch scratch and squeeze our partners.  

You can say that again? Wetin e nor be food? Education na food? People still live without one. Nairaland na food? People are still addicted to it. Success na food? Your beauty na food? Your clothes na food? Your shoes na food?

No need to play shadow. Let me break it down. I understand that sex is very important in a marriage. But is it the only thing, no. If i don't give my man sex for like a week, will he die? no. I would never deny my husband sex for a month. that is evening cruel for me.

HCH3COO:

he shows up with another baby 10 months later, talking about " this is what I did while you refused to sleep with me"

papa_dims:

marriage goes beyond having sex or enjoying urselves. there should be mutual understanding. you should all know someone has to make the sacrifice. you should be sensitive to the desires of your wife or husband.

exactly! there's definitely a problem when a woman is insensitive to my desires of wanting to have sex and all shez saying is "i'm not in the mood"

KarmaMod:

depends on what he's insisting on. Is he insisting on knowing what's wrong or why she feels that way or he's just insisting on getting some.

There lies the answer

naw naw i meant she, if the only reason shez giving his " i'm not just in the mood" not just once, definitely there's a problem but shez not opening up to it

HCH3COO:

lol. when is our marriage

'our' ko

HCH3COO:

he shows up with another baby 10 months later, talking about " this is what I did while you refused to sleep with me"

so? who's the one dealing with the baby?

Let's compare the price of "Honey you havent been yourself, is everything ok? Lets talk" vs sending illegitimate baby to school, clothes, shelter, blah blah blah, upkeep for the mother of the child, etc

onyinye2:

No need to play shadow. Let me break it down. I understand that sex is very important in a marriage. But is it the only thing, no. If i don't give my man sex for like a week, will he die? no. I would never deny my husband sex for a month. that is evening cruel for me.

In fact ooo! Your man is ready to be exploited everyday and u dey give story?? What a waste of resources!

If she's not in the mood after 1 month. . . ehn, I guess you will just thank God for giving two good hands and the Indiana Man down the street whose liqour store is the only who carries Playboy and Penthouse. Abi. . . What elese is there to do?

About the liqour store and Indian Baba. . . I'm just guessing ooh. I really don't know nothing about that kinda thing.

we all have feelings,even as a woman,there r some days u become d agressor (wanting it every freaking day) so also them men

wen one is not fulfilled sexually ,then he/she will be too naked emotionally(dis is nature ,u cant cheat it) and might fall into one of them devourers out there.

sex is one thing i know dat can tear a man and woman apart and then recreate them again,so onyinye its very important

but my own is for one whole month,sthg is wrong naaa

Sisikill:

If she's not in the mood after 1 month. . . ehn, I guess you will just thank God for giving two good hands and the Indiana Man down the street whose liqour store is the only who carries Playboy and Penthouse. Abi. . . What elese is there to do?

About the liqour store and Indian Baba. . . I'm just guessing ooh. I really don't know nothing about that kind of thing.

Hehehehehe

*Sings and moonwalks* MASTURBATION FOR THE MANLY NATION

KarmaMod:

so? who's the one dealing with the baby?

Let's compare the price of "Honey you havent been yourself, is everything ok? Lets talk" vs sending illegitimate baby to school, clothes, shelter, blah blah blah, upkeep for the mother of the child, etc

Some men would rather spend money than hurt their egos.

where there is love, respect, mutual understanding, then issues like am not interested for a month or more than that will not arise at all.

shuppie:

where there is love, respect, mutual understanding, then issues like am not interested for a month or more than that will not arise at all.

For once, I agree with you.

I guess some women KNOW the only way to get some guys to give a damn about their problems is by "closing shop". Mature men dont have to go theu that cos they would have been clever enough to notice her unhappiness long before she goes that route

Sisikill:

If she's not in the mood after 1 month. . . ehn, I guess you will just thank God for giving two good hands and the Indiana Man down the street whose liqour store is the only who carries Playboy and Penthouse. Abi. . . What elese is there to do?

About the liqour store and Indian Baba. . . I'm just guessing ooh. I really don't know nothing about that kind of thing.

jerk off?  you just talked about men being insensitive towards women's feelings, yet now that it's the guy's turn to get what he wants you refer him to 7-11  

In that sense, if that's what she wants, i will start watching Indecency in front of her in the living room while I do the jerking.

shuppie:

where there is love, respect, mutual understanding, then issues like am not interested for a month or more than that will not arise at all.

Ohoooo! Cat fight every night?

rampant:

we all have feelings,even as a woman,there r some days u become d agressor (wanting it every freaking day) so also them men

when one is not fulfilled sexually ,then he/she will be too naked emotionally(this is nature ,u can't cheat it) and might fall into one of them devourers out there.

sex is one thing i know that can tear a man and woman apart and then recreate them again,so onyinye its very important

but my own is for one whole month,sthg is wrong naaa

You guys are not hearing me out. I KNOW it is very important. it is something you share between yal no one else. That moment that the two of you become one. So i know how important it is. BUT im just saying that it is not EVERYTHING. And oka yeah holding out for your man for a month is cruel even for me. A week wont hurt though.

if the guy wants it he should do something special for wife so can feel special and be in the mood for it. how can the husband just jump on the wife just like that but when he will to do it with his GF he would take her out and do some crazy stuff. if you want to enjoy you must work hard for it.

HCH3COO:

In that sense, if that's what she wants, i will start watching Indecency in front of her in the living room while I do the jerking.

Unfortunately for you, not every woman finds porn offensive. She'll probably even provide the chips and lube for you.