My cousin after spending 20yrs in canada @ age 40 came back to marry a nigerian.got me thinking..is there shortage of marriagable ladies in canada or what?why cudnt he jst get sme1 der to marry

U're supoz to be proud of him

Besides did he let u know dat he isn't married dere.?
Cus most of d guys dere do have wives over dere but d ones they have back home is d real deal.

eeewise: My cousin after spending 20yrs in canada @ age 40 came back to marry a nigerian.got me thinking..is there shortage of marriagable ladies in canada or what?why cudnt he jst get sme1 der to marry

There are lot of girls in Canada
If the dude was smart he should have married a jamo or any of the Caribbean girls (West indies)
There are of lot Nigerians girls that moved from Europe to Canada after walking the streets of Eutope
Marriage is luck

KELVIN-XY:
U're supoz to be proud of him

Besides did he let u know dat he isn't married dere.?
Cus most of d guys dere do have wives over dere but d ones they have back home is d real deal.

thnks but he isnt married o.he only had girlfriends over there

Later now they will say naija babes are this n dat
Shior

eeewise: thnks but he isnt married o.he only had girlfriends over there

Hmmm
Dats Alrite

Sumtyms it's gud to be stable enuf before making a family..

Dyt: Later now they will say naija babes are this n dat
Shior

Don't flatter urself

Believ me,maybe he is only doing it bcus of his family.u knw d cultures here

KELVIN-XY:


Don't flatter urself

Believ me,maybe he is only doing it bcus of his family.u knw d cultures here

Like he's ^ not after a naija babe
Shior

Dyt:

Like he's ^ not after a naija babe
Shior

No oo
I'm a seminarian o

But in my opinion I think ,issues like child support,alimony might be d reason why he did that#jst saying sha

There are different reasons for your cousin's actions....
He'll be in a better position to explain why.

Different reasons abound.....
1)Lack of financial stability,
2) earnest pursuit of a professional career leading to a time-poor attempts at relationships
3) strong cultural feelings of indebtedness...hence marry "within"
4) gotten a reputation as a "player", so few potential spouses take him seriously;
5) down-low brother

What I find funny is..... you can't comfortably suss out the girls on ur side of the pond, what makes you think you can suss out those on the other side, in such a short time period (holiday) Families often get it soooo wrong... they don't even know you anymore, after 20 yrs away!!!

What's to stop ur imported bride from learning about her legal entitlements and cleaning him out financially in a few years of marriage

I remember there was an upsurge of girls in the UK going to Naija to get husbands in the late 00's.... most of the girls had stories to tell, a few unlucky ones realised the sham they had walked into only a few months into their marriages.
This was similar to the American experience, a decade earlier, when bros from a certain part of the country were importing brides to become workhorses after procreation had resulted in 2-3 offsprings which officially afforded these men, the title.... Househusband!!!

Last words..... divine enablement and guidance is the way forward...




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Tedpgrass:

There are different reasons for your cousin's actions....
He'll be in a better position to explain why.

Different reasons abound.....
1)Lack of financial stability,
2) earnest pursuit of a professional career leading to a time-poor attempts at relationships
3) strong cultural feelings of indebtedness...hence marry "within"
4) gotten a reputation as a "player", so few potential spouses take him seriously;
5) down-low brother

What I find funny is..... you can't comfortably suss out the girls on ur side of the pond, what makes you think you can suss out those on the other side, in such a short time period (holiday) Families often get it soooo wrong... they don't even know you anymore, after 20 yrs away!!!

What's to stop ur imported bride from learning about her legal entitlements and cleaning him out financially in a few years of marriage

I remember there was an upsurge of girls in the UK going to Naija to get husbands in the late 00's.... most of the girls had stories to tell, a few unlucky ones realised the sham they had walked into only a few months into their marriages.
This was similar to the American experience, a decade earlier, when bros from a certain part of the country were importing brides to become workhorses after procreation had resulted in 2-3 offsprings which officially afforded these men, the title.... Househusband!!!

Last words..... divine enablement and guidance is the way forward...




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u re very right,especially the "last words"

Its not a crime nd not ur damn business, he ever came back to marry nd never 4got where he comes from....Well in Nigeria,girls be like if he stays in Lag n I'm in PH,its not gonna work cos of Distance buh if he stays in the UK or US, all that matters is love n distance can't be a barrier

Dubemkelly: Its not a crime nd not ur damn business, he ever came back to marry nd never 4got where he comes from....Well in Nigeria,girls be like if he stays in Lag n I'm in PH,its not gonna work cos of Distance buh if he stays in the UK or US, all that matters is love n distance can't be a barrier

A smart bro shouldn't touch that sort of girl described above with a long pole......
It's obvious she's out for what she can get and doesn't like/love him at all.

To your opening line, ur choice of marriage partner is entirely ur decision!!!
I'm certain there will be ladies of the same cultural slant abounding at his workbase, hence that as an excuse to "fish" in Naija isnt tenable.

U want a mail-order bride or husband, u have little in common with: other than a subscription to a culture which u r likely to practice differently, that's ur cuppa!!

But when the "center doesn't hold" or "things start to fall apart", don't claim ignorance, but accept that some foolishness with a naive attitude is the cause.

If you have to make such decisions, make sure contingency plans are in place.... to protect all parties involved, particularly once children are involved!!


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Dubemkelly: Its not a crime nd not ur damn business, he ever came back to marry nd never 4got where he comes from....Well in Nigeria,girls be like if he stays in Lag n I'm in PH,its not gonna work cos of Distance buh if he stays in the UK or US, all that matters is love n distance can't be a barrier

lmao kia nigeria girls *faints*